Is it rude to YELL at the noisy neighbors upstairs?

[locksmithers]

We live in an apartment complex with 6 apartments. It's just basically a rectangular prism with 3 rows of apartments downstairs and 3 rows of apartments upstairs.

We live downstairs.


Before, the apartment upstairs had hardwood flooring so every time the lady would walk with her heels on, we would hear every step. Bang bang bang. My dad would tap the ceiling with a broom and they would remove their shoes. I found this rude. Eventually the owners installed carpets and that chapter ended.


Last night (Friday), at around 2-3 am, the lady upstairs was having a loud conversation with her friend. They were laughing out loud and were really obnoxious. My dad came out and yelled from downstairs, "It's 3 am! People are sleeping!" Again, I found this rude of him. Eventually the friend left and the conversation ceased.


My question is, to those who live in an apartment, how do you handle loud neighbors? Do you just exercise patience since it's an apartment? Or do you also dare yell at them?

 

[bankside]

It is not your job to tolerate noisy neighbours, it is their job to exercise restraint. It is obvious that 3 am is a poor time for loud conversation. It is they who are being rude. If the polite reminder doesn't work, let 'em have it.

 

[moniker]

The same thing happened to me. People in the floor below were having a normal conversation on their veranda late at night, but the sound traveled easily upward. I yelled my head off at them and felt slightly ashamed of it afterward. But the conversation immediately ceased. When people are kept awake normal standards don't apply, I guess.

 

[Knucklehead]

I wont hesitate to open the door and yell out into the hallway,or if that fails,go and beat on their door.But in this case,it sounds like you're dad may be over reacting just a bit.

I had asshole neighbors at my last place who thought nothing of disturbing the whole building with thir loud parties or drunken arguments in the hall.They'd act suprised when they'd open the door and I'd be pissed over it.''Sorry Dude,I didn't realize we were so loud."' Fucking morons..

If that don't work,call the cops.Once the cops come out there a few times they quit with the warnings.They start writing summons.Let them lose a days work to go talk to a judge about why they like to behave like animals.

 

[954dude]

Yelling isn't the best approach. Talk it out.

 

[DJ1990]

Why do people start random stories with the word "we' as if I know who "we" is.

 

[Sam Blum]

Speaking with the neighbours one on one is important as nobody responds well to loud yelling - in either direction! THat said, it is usually possible to have a false ceiling installed and filled with insulatory material. Not the easiest thing to do but the most permanent and reliable resolution.

A friend in Berlin had a guitarist upstairs who was apparently most inspired at night! After him came a singer! She now has a false ceiling filled with foam to deaden any sound.

I think you can also buy a machine that makes white noise. This can be used in another room of your apartment to reduce the intrusions from outside.

Lastly, hanging sufficient art around your walls and having book shelves and rugs will absorb some noise, too.

 

[evanrick]

make loud fake sex noises or real ones, up to you.

 

[hungrybrownbear]

I just knock on their door and tell them to kindly be a little quieter...

 

[freefall]

Yelling is when all advices and warnings fail, hence it's not rude when used on correct situations. Next, the police.

 

[Ram]

Yell all you want. Fuck them

I have this neighbor who lives above me and every fucking Saturday, in the morning, he would play on his piano, over and over again, the theme of Pirates of the Caribbean.

And he is so horrible at it, so painfully horrible at it. He starts off nicely -- de da de de dum - and then all of sudden - bwarrrhh -- the idiot hits 5 different keys at the same thing. It's as if he's playing the piano with his right hand and his left butt cheek.

And for some reason, it's loud. There's this one time, after massacring the entire theme, his tone-deaf mom asked (btw they "talk" very loudly too) if he needed anything. He replied cheerily: "I've got my music sheets and the piano. That's all I need. Haha what's else do you think I need?"

I took the opportunity to yell out the word "Talent!"

I really showed that ten year old kid.

 

[Speeds]

I have the same EXACT problem. They make so much noise. We politely asked them AT LEAST 10 times but they ignored it so we spoke with the manager furiously and they stopped for a week and then started again.

But lately it's been calming down.

If they really are bothering you, I suggest you call the cops.