is it worth it to play with a guy who is high on coke

[chrisdobro]

I found a guy who was willing to rim me with no limits. aka whatever happens during rimming, he would keep on going. At least that's what my ad said.

I found a guy who was reasonably okay, we negotiated, and all was fine, and then he said "I'm high on coke is that ok".

Well, I kind of stopped in my tracks there. And said: "I am not sure that I’m comfortable with that".
He said: "Its the only time I want to get freakey ... so?"
I said: "I’d have to say no for now .."

My question to you is -- was it wise of me? And of course some people will say Yes (say no to drugs, don't support them, etc) and some people may say No, it's fine to meet and play with him, depends on how bad you want it. So I guess I am asking more so .. is it worth it to involve myself with a guy who is doing coke?

 

[cgymike]

Well you have your standards. So if you don't want drugs involved just say so...and you did. But I would have said "It's your choice to use but I am not interested. Good Luck but good bye.

 

[Laufey]

I don't see why not. I think it's more negative when the guy is drunk than when he's doing coke.

Most people (depends on dosage and how often you use it) are pretty much in touch with reality when doing coke. They think clearly, are energetic and have a big sex drive.

A high dosage can make a person more violent but so can alcohol.

 

[KaraBulut]

Since this is more of a general advice question, I've moved it to CO&R.

 

[BlondeCanadian]

I would say you should have gone through with it if you liked. He was upfront about it so he seems to not be a problem and It is not like you are planning a relationship with him.

 

[chrisdobro]

well I decided to ask if he was up for it, and I did, and it did not work out anyway ... he wanted me to drive somewhere and I just said no. I was already on high alert with the coke, so any further deviation just stopped it for me. He did not come across as he wanted it bad anyway, so no hard feelings on either side I guess.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

I'd have (and have had) sex with someone who did coke nasally, but I'd think twice about doing it with someone who smoked it.
If he injected it I'd probably run away screaming.

Do what you are comfortable with.

 

[biguy732]

It is called situational awareness - if you did not feel comfortable, then you were correct in not proceeding. Trust your instincts. And high on cocaine, you never know what might happen.

 

[MindBlast]

a stranger? no... that would be a huge red flag to me, that he's a drug addict and/or crawling with STD's.

This is pretty much how I feel. I wouldn't do it.

You can find plenty of freaky, kinky guys who are sober!

 

[Laufey]

a stranger? no... that would be a huge red flag to me, that he's a drug addict and/or crawling with STD's.

For the best mate, people on drugs are to be avoided.

You guys are being extremely judgemental.

First off... not everybody who do drugs are addicts.

Second, like I've said before, coke does not make a person any more dangerous than alcohol. In fact about half of rapes and violent attacks are done under the influence of alcohol.

If you feel the same way about guys who are drunk then fine. If not then you are being hypocritical.

 

[innocentbychoice]

I found a guy who was willing to rim me with no limits. aka whatever happens during rimming, he would keep on going. At least that's what my ad said.

I found a guy who was reasonably okay, we negotiated, and all was fine, and then he said "I'm high on coke is that ok".

Well, I kind of stopped in my tracks there. And said: "I am not sure that I’m comfortable with that".
He said: "Its the only time I want to get freakey ... so?"
I said: "I’d have to say no for now .."

My question to you is -- was it wise of me? And of course some people will say Yes (say no to drugs, don't support them, etc) and some people may say No, it's fine to meet and play with him, depends on how bad you want it. So I guess I am asking more so .. is it worth it to involve myself with a guy who is doing coke?

I wouldn't do it. Just because you don't know the person and on top of that if he's high, how do you know how he's going to react after it's all done? Or during? He could get violent or have any other weird reaction while being under the influence of coke. Just avoid the drama and the danger. It's not worth it.

 

[palbert]

Not for me -- and I've been on both sides.

 

[Seasoned]

I'd stay away.

 

[Laufey]

yeah... if someone told me that could only have sex while drunk, I'd read that as a read flag that they're an alcoholic.

So you should avoid all alcoholics? I think that's a sad view.

And he never claimed he could only have sex on coke, just that he's more comfortable to be freaky that way.

A lot of people have drinks to feel more comfortable in one night stands. Nobody see's that as dangerous.

 

[MorrisseyX]

I think the OP should trust himself he wasn't comfortable that the guy does coke and he let it be known. The OP should be proud of himself that he has standards he believes in and principles. Good for the OP that he stood for what he believed in. I think the OP did the right thing to be honest. Yes, it was only a one night stand but if you don't want to be associated with people doing drugs then you should not do that.

 

[seven2go]

You guys are being extremely judgemental.

First off... not everybody who do drugs are addicts.

But many ARE and who knows WHAT they did to get drug money?.......

 

[Just_Believe18]

Avoid hooking up with strangers who are high on hardcore drugs.

 

[Laufey]

But many ARE and who knows WHAT they did to get drug money?.......

If you want to be safe then you should practice all sex safely, assuming that the person might be infected. Trying to estimate the character of someone you just met is a bad method. You might as well advice him not to sleep with black guys.

 

[TX-Beau]

I defiantly will say no thanks to a sloppy drunk even if I know the guy. Drunk sex is not good sex. That doesn't mean I'd say no to a guy who's been drinking, what is the cutoff? Depends on context if I've been drinking myself etc.

I like stoned sex, pot makes me horny, but zombified stoners are a turnoff, not to mention lethargic usually.

Coke, coke is a party drug - I'd do a guy on coke, with the usual caveats about excess of anything making bad sex. Plus if I know a guy on coke, I generally was partaking as well.

SUCK IT JUDGMENT POSSE RECREATIONAL SUBSTANCE USE IS AS OLD AS MANKIND

X - yes please. (the good kind like they used to have when I was but a pup - not the massively adulterated kind that showed up later.)

Now meth or heroin, acid, I don't have experience with. I will say this, during my lost years as a party boy, I saw plenty of drunken brawling - but I never saw a freak out from the cocaine. I suppose it's possible, but it's also possible that's rare enough to be mostly hype from the "war on drugs."

It depends on what your comfort level is - though I will say that we had a rule never to get high alone with strangers. We didn't apply that to booze, but probably should have. I don't remember a lot of guys wanting to be high around guys who weren't, applying that to sex would seem to be the same issue for the obvious reasons.

I'm unclear - did he want you to get high too? Or was HE high and was just FYI about it?

I don't do dating sites, is this normal?

 

[lambdaboy]

I only used coke once and was with a hot guy who sucked me off no lie rock hard I was for almost 2 hours you do not come. That was ny only time using, however I picked up a guy at a club that was high on cock.I fucked him three time and man coudl he move his hips could nto get enough of it and I filled 3 condoms grin