Is Money a Turnoff?

[backseatboy]

Curious to know your answer..

If you met a guy and hang out with him on a couple of occasions, and discover he has a nice checking account, would that change your feelings for the guy?

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[Brijan]

Honestly: probably yes; but only in the short term.

If he didn't possess other desirable qualities (i.e. intelligent, funny, abs to die for, etc.) then his bank balance wouldn't matter. We would be going out separate ways.

(Unless he just wanted to stay friends and kept buying me things. That is a different story entirely!)

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Nope.

I either like the dude or I don't.

Having a nice checking account is actually a significant PLUS in my books, if you will.

It often (not always) tells you that:

He knows, how to take care of his business. So, he may know how to take care of our friendship, too.

He has got the smarts and the guts. Those two, I mostly find irresistible in a man.

More likely than not, he has got a sense of self-discipline and purpose in life. He knows how to earn it and he knows, how to keep it. Very cool.

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I am very independent and can take very good care of myself. Having a partner, friend, or even just a buddy to share good times with and have fun is a major asset these days.

SC

 

[Eternaldarkness]

hopefully NOT! money is quite seductive. If you change your feelings toward him when you find out he's rich, then you're an asshole. You're suppose to like him for who he is, not what he have.

Trust me, people who are rich are quite alert about this situation. They usually can tell you love them or love the money.

Hahahah, if he gives money for me to love him then..that would be a totally different story~!

 

[backpacker]

I think it's nice to know that a guy can pay his own way, but it becomes a turn off if he thinks he can buy me.

 

[cozmik]

It depends, if he has lots of money, and then decided to tell you his whole story about how he got it, and all the things he can do with it (as someone I knew did) then yeah, it's a turnoff, and honestly, I resent it when people do that.

 

[gmoney]

If his money is the result of his own hard work, then I won't hold that against him. But if he's come into money the easy way and using it to say who he is, I want nothing to do with that.

 

[theworldwithout]

If he flaunted that fact then yes, my feelings would change. I don't really care for guys that like to brag about such things.
If he's said nothing about it and I were to find out about it myself then no, nothing would change. If I'm going out with a guy it's not for what he's got but for who he is.

 

[slobone]

^^^Lots of nice PC answers, that I don't believe. Who wouldn't be more attracted to a guy if he had plenty of money? At least you know you're not going to end up supporting him...

 

[psychobandit]

Yes I would then I'd get him to put me into his Will and wack him

But isn't that what you would have to do to get into his will?!?

 

[Tongue_Me]

Hell no. I might be shallow but it's worked for me so far in life. My first "older" male I went out with was a millionaire. He owned the entire building he was living in and rented the other 15 apartments beneath him out and lived at the top in the penthouse. He wasn't very much to look at but he had a certain charm and the money helped. It didn't last long because both of us weren't in love. When the love is very one sided, it doesn't matter how much money is in the bank.

 

[theworldwithout]

^^^Lots of nice PC answers, that I don't believe. Who wouldn't be more attracted to a guy if he had plenty of money? At least you know you're not going to end up supporting him...

I honestly don't care if someone has tons of money. Actions count more to me.

 

[sb]

money is hot

 

[ViscountLazarus]

Self-made men, who aren't arrogant fuckheads alwas get my attention. Drive, passion and confidence speak louder than most other attributes - however, it's followed closely by intelligence, humor and wit.

Rich daddy's boys shit me - Every one of them I've met have been petulant, whiney little brats that made me want to smack them in their silver-spoon-holding mouth.

Money itself isn't an issue though - Drive and passion, even if it doesn't result in material wealth is definately good

-Laz.

 

[jaysizzles]

Money, as an added bonus, would be a turn on with the right guy....if he's an asshole...then it would not be a turn on.

 

[Kyanimal]

Personally, I HATE Money!! Especially when it becomes the Prime Motivation for anybody's actions, without regard for any other considerations or consequences. This goes for those who Flaunt what they have, as a boast of "I'm better than Everyone!", as well as those who become sycophants to the Wealthy in the hope of getting at some bucks for themselves. I have seen the pursuit/posession of Money, merely for the sake of Money itself, do some very sorry things to otherwise good people, and those around them!

However, I do know some Very Wealthy people who haven't/don't let their Money define them, unlike some who's Wealth only seemed to afford them bigger assholes! I also know some dirt poor folks who are just plain obnoxious! So, it all depends on the person rather than the size of their wallet.

When considering how I'm going to relate/react to someone, their bank account is never an issue. It's their heart/personality that carries all the power.

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[Aussieguy01]

only if he used it to get what he wanted , otherwise no

 

[Michael Luc]

It might make me a bit cautious. I would never want him to think I was going out with him because he had a nice checking account.

 

[gsdx]

The lack of money certainly puts a damper on how sexy and attractive one appears.

 

[Luminox]

...Nope ! It's neither a turn-off nor a turn-on...

It's besides the point !

...unless he's a broke slacker who prefers to milk me (and others) instead of standing on his own two feet. Well, then yes, I care about money !

But if it's not THAT extreme, I don't really care ...