Is My Friend Interested In Me!?? Input Wanted!

[grady26]

Interesting phrasing in your next-to-last paragraph, king.

"I don't think he is gay, he is a compete guy." Darn, I did not know gays were incomplete guys.

Also, in the same paragraph you observe he acts like a "complete homophobe." Yep, that is clue to your "complete guy" observation.

 

[xtc99992003]

Ah once again... Similar to me. I just wrote in another thread where I could see similarities with myself.

- Age difference leads me to think I'm sort of the mentor. Not really a father figure in the house... sure a step-dad but he doesn't have too great of a relationship with him and it seems to deteriorate as time goes on.
- He is definitely straight acting, as am I. I'm not afraid to express how I feel. He guards himself.
- We hang out a lot, stay over, play video games, go out with friends, and I do stuff with his family (pretty much a member of the family now).
- Don't really touch each other intentionally... we just kinda fall into it. Like sitting on the couch we will just sink in and be really close and not worry about moving. We dont hug, hit, or shake hands. (I'm not a touchy-feely person as is... its a big deal when I let someone in my space)
- Generally don't sleep together but have before and we actually get pretty close unintentionally. And dont worry about moving.
- Both of us are social. But few close friends.
- He seems to be hiding his feelings about it all. Im straight but curious and open to things. He knows this and seems to agree... but wont really just say it. So I'm left guessing... see my thread if you're curious.

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=191013

To sum it up.

We talk (and I mean through texts... rarely this is brought up in person with the exception of a few) about a lot of things. Anal play, sleeping nude, we both talk about how we shave our pubic area, talk about porn, talk about jacking off, size of our cocks, size of other guys cocks (in the locker room, he's still in high school... I asked who had the biggest which he openly talked about), and lots of other stuff.
He has agreed with me that "gay" isn't just doing stuff with other guys it's more like falling in love with a guy and living that lifestyle completely. And he knows that I wouldn't mind trying stuff but it would only happen with someone I really trust. And he knows I trust him the most because he's the ONLY person I talk about this stuff with.

If I were you I would try poking around with sexual topics like I have... see where it leads you. I broke the ice with shaving and it's all just flowed out since then. Of course... you could get to the same place I am... completely lost and unsure of what to do and trying to think of ways to push the envelope more to see the reaction in attempt to gauge his feelings.

 

[xtc99992003]

Interesting phrasing in your next-to-last paragraph, king.

"I don't think he is gay, he is a compete guy." Darn, I did not know gays were incomplete guys.

Also, in the same paragraph you observe he acts like a "complete homophobe." Yep, that is clue to your "complete guy" observation.

It's not like he was trying to be offensive... I think. I completely understand what he means. He is a complete guy - sure... stereotypical and such but he meant he is a normal guy... masculine.

Being a homophobe makes you more masculine... You're afraid of most (if not all) things that a include the mixture of the male sex and effiminant behaviors. Which this of course follows the stereotype... but... it's hard to get past.

Not saying this is how I think... but some people interpret things differently. Not everyone is politically correct. Plus a straight guys mind probably interprets these phrases easier. Once again... not saying that anyone can't interpret this.

 

[rareboy]

A lot of str8 guys are horny as hell and would fuck a sheep if it were in the bed next to them.

Doesn't mean they love wool though.

I'd say, leave him be.

If you sleep with him again, then try to set it up with a massage or something ( although it always looks so lame).

Or go the three beer queer route if it is just about having jollies and getting off.

 

[billybob109]

Honestly there is no evidence besides your sleepover which is normal. I have slept with my friends drunk before and have got next to them and i also kick my feet in my sleep. If someone is asleep it is normal for them to do stuff like that. I say the next time you guys sleep togethor tell him the next morning that he was spooning you and that he had a boner while doing it which he might of had

 

[D_Pipa]

while 'matt' in your or his house, you go have a shower and make sure he sees your naked body thatd be the test for him ha

 

[KaraBulut]

What's missing here is how you felt about having your "straight" friend spoon you.

Just so ya know me and him are both STR8 acting males

Or at least one of you is just "acting str8".

 

[xtc99992003]

So if you don't mind me asking... where are you going from here?

 

[CSI_3Stokes]

is spooned intercourse?

 

[volumee]

i'm a bit confused where you left off.. you said you weren't gay, but said he was good looking? Are you bi? I think your thinking too much about this. Just because he's side by side to you in bed, doesn't mean theres anything going on. It could al be a coincidence. And how is it possible his butt touches you, and his legs nd arms at the same time? Wouldn"t that be like... awfully uncomfortable?

and the part where you mention "But then some of the things that ad to the mix are things like he is 18, good looking, and never had a girlfriend, which makes me ask the questions..why? As well as he isn't a very emotional personal, so he doesnt express his feelings well at all! But then again he also has very few really close friends and he doens't have any close family relationships. He has one sister no brothers and is not very effectionate with his father. So maybe he feels close enough to me to be able to do that? He is pretty popular at school and knows a lot of people but other than me doesn't have very many close relationships."

I'm assuming your pointing out masculinity and feminity? Well let me help you out

Feminity :
-

Masculinity :
- not emotional
- doesn't express feelings

Neutral :
- no girlfriend
- very few close friends
- not close enough family relationships
- 1 sister no brothers
- not effectionate towards father

So overall, i'm left very confused where your going with this. Are you trying to figure out what he's doing? Or are you trying to figure out what he's doing because you have a crush on him?