Sorry if this is long - it's my first post.
I have a good friend that I met through a mutual friend about six months ago. We hit it off and really got to know each other well even though he lives in San Diego and I’m in Colorado. We speak and chat often on social media and by phone. We’ve seen each other several more times (but always with other people).
Just recently we were at our mutual friend’s place for a holiday party. After some drinking he told me that he was gay. This blew my mind because I didn’t even suspect it, I’m closeted and our friendship to this point had been purely platonic although I do find him very attractive.
Later that night I gathered the courage to tell him that I am bi. We were both really drunk and so I don’t remember all the details, but I do remember making a move. We started making out and I started to give him a hand job but I stopped when I realized that he passed out!
The next morning we went our separate ways without saying anything but I spoke to him later on the phone. He remembered that I came out to him but he said that he didn’t remember anything else and so there was silence on the line when I talked about making out and the hand job. He seemed upset. I asked him if we were ok and he said it would 'take some time'.
Fast forward a few weeks and things seem like they were before - although we haven’t talked about anything that happened that night. He’s even coming out for a weekend to ski and it’ll be just the two of us.
What I’m trying to figure out is if he thinks we’re continuing the purely platonic friendship that we had before the party or if there might be something more there?
If he was really upset about what happened, why would he come out to visit if it's just going to be the two of us? Maybe he just likes the thought of skiing in Colorado and that's it? I really want to hook up with him, but I also don’t want to ruin the friendship we have now. Any suggestions?
I have a good friend that I met through a mutual friend about six months ago. We hit it off and really got to know each other well even though he lives in San Diego and I’m in Colorado. We speak and chat often on social media and by phone. We’ve seen each other several more times (but always with other people).
Just recently we were at our mutual friend’s place for a holiday party. After some drinking he told me that he was gay. This blew my mind because I didn’t even suspect it, I’m closeted and our friendship to this point had been purely platonic although I do find him very attractive.
Later that night I gathered the courage to tell him that I am bi. We were both really drunk and so I don’t remember all the details, but I do remember making a move. We started making out and I started to give him a hand job but I stopped when I realized that he passed out!
The next morning we went our separate ways without saying anything but I spoke to him later on the phone. He remembered that I came out to him but he said that he didn’t remember anything else and so there was silence on the line when I talked about making out and the hand job. He seemed upset. I asked him if we were ok and he said it would 'take some time'.
Fast forward a few weeks and things seem like they were before - although we haven’t talked about anything that happened that night. He’s even coming out for a weekend to ski and it’ll be just the two of us.
What I’m trying to figure out is if he thinks we’re continuing the purely platonic friendship that we had before the party or if there might be something more there?
If he was really upset about what happened, why would he come out to visit if it's just going to be the two of us? Maybe he just likes the thought of skiing in Colorado and that's it? I really want to hook up with him, but I also don’t want to ruin the friendship we have now. Any suggestions?
