But racial preference is not tantamount to racial hate. It's possible to not be attracted to Mongolian faces, to Caucasian hair, or to African coloring, without feeling contempt, wishing ill, or rejecting the said men as people.
To not be attracted physically to a group need not be born in hatred or disdain, only in seeing those as "other" in some physical way that makes the unattractive sexually.
The very same is true of body types. A fat man may be your very best friend, but he also may be sexually unappealing. It doesn't make him disrespected or subhuman or socially unwanted. He's not sexually attractive to you, period.
Unless you met every single Mongolian, every single Nigerian, every single Korean, every single whatever, that logic will always be fucked.
"Some people are just not attracted to certain races". Bull fucking shit.
They aren't "attracted", because they are misinformed. Interracial dating is still in many parts of the world shunned upon and not accepted or really understood.
It's why many black african american females don't really date outside their race because they are misinformed and scared that other races of men find them ugly or inferior and they already feel repressed in their lives and don't want to get rejected or get shame.
Same reason why some white men do not date black women. Again they are misinformed. They see the diva ghetto stereotype, and all the negative images of black women in the media. They are too afraid to branch out with that.
Which is why those interracial tags between black women and white men on youtube get so many views, because it's something we don't see everyday, and it's intriguing.
Unless you were in three marriages all were with Sicilian men that physically beat you every single day; BUT MAYBE JUST MAYBE, you can use that logic. "I don't want to date anymore Sicilian men".
God forbid, let's again say what I mentioned before was dismissive. It's not, but lets say it was and go with your bullshit theory that you can just not be attracted to a WHOLE fucking race.
Do they really have to in GRINDR and all these dating liaisons put, No blacks, no rice, no spice, no beans etc. This is a fucking normalcy. That's why I think it goes deeper than that.
They also refuse to even be friends. Like what the fuck?
I also disagree with you on body types. Unless you met every single feminine gay, you met every single bear or chub, you met every single nerd or geek, you met every single daddy or older gay, unless you met every single butch queen, you can't make that assessment.
I always make fat jokes and tell people they need to lose weight. But I am attracted to heavier set guys. If I came across a chub that exercised, ate healthy, and he just cannot lose weight or he is happy with his weight, I wouldn't pass him up at all. I find fluffy guys, NOT LAZY GUYS, attractive.
In the same sense, I love queens and fems as well. I noticed not that many guys date them and I always befriend them and try to learn their story and I find many of them attractive. Any guy that knows about fashion and makeup he seems very passionate about that and I find that attractive.
Once again, let's say all of that is dismissive. It absolutely positively is not, but let's say it was.
The gay community is so divise it's not funny. Not only are we segregated on race, we are segregated on body types as well. Masc guys hang with the masc. The bears hang with the bears. Nobody messes with the fems like I said earlier. So it again goes deeper than that.
I don't think the OP necessarily made this thread for the avenue I'm going down, but this is a big issue that isn't talked about that much and we need to go more in depth.
I just think gay men in general put what they seek for relationships on high pedestals, when they can go alot lower and still be happy.
