Is there a cure for perfectionist?

[soulseeker]

As one myself, I am still struggle to forgive myself. I want to ask for advice.

 

[jeraldjamescapao]

Purely Acceptance is the Key. Nobody's Perfect.

 

[Seasoned]

Therapy and what sounds like a corny bullshit thing--actually looking into a mirror when you pass and saying, out loud at home, silently elsewhere, "I love myself, I accept myself, I forgive myself." Try to find something others would regard a small and let it be less than perfect. Self acceptance will allow you to start accepting others.

You have a long way to go but the journey is worth it. And guess what? You don't have to worry that this process will be perfect.

 

[braex27]

I am working on a cure but have not perfected it yet.

 

[Reality101]

I would say, don't try to cure it just try to find a balance. I'm a perfectionist too, but I don't see it as a flaw. With balance, it's one of the better things about myself.

 

[Reality101]

^You had to do it

 

[bankside]

Yup. Find a safe way to fail.

 

[MisterMajestic]

No there isnt a cure for Perfectionism...I don't think there should be...It's a part of what makes you so special...

You might like your Home looking a certain way so you wark hard until you feel it's right. Your wardrobe might have to be a certain style for every time you walk out the door. You might put in the extra effort on your job to make sure special-projects turn out right...


A Perfectionist is usually an overachiever...So being a Perfectionist is not necessarily a bad thing unless you "lack" in so many other areas...If you're a "Perfectionist" and you're "Evil" you might be difficult to deal with.....


Now with all that being said you need to know something...Sometimes events in our Lives CHANGE us for the Good or for the Bad...So there's no home-remedy for "personal traits"...But things that happen in your Life could change your way of Thinking & Feeling...Yesterday you were a "Perfectionist" and something happens today that changes your whole Life...

 

[Swellegant]

Perfectionism is a toughie. It's not just the wanting your work to be perfect, or your home to be perfect, it's the not taking on any project that you don't think you can do perfectly...for me, it's an unwillingness to be imperfect more than a drive to be perfect. And that unwillingness has stopped me from doing a lot of things that might have been great if I had been able to just be half-assed and launch into it, learning as I go, instead of telling myself I had to be perfect at it before I could even try it. And what kind of sense does that make?

I'm not sure how you combat it effectively. In my personal life, it's something I've come to accept, that I'm going to have a hard (if not impossible) time doing something I'm not already good at. In my work, I just have to say to myself (and whoever else happens to be in the room), "Look, perfect isn't possible, near-perfect is as good as it gets." And I remind myself, sometimes aloud, that perfection can be a goal, but it will never be acheived...it's a great thing to aspire to, but not something to expect.

Saying things aloud is a lot more effective than you'd think. Try giving yourself some positive self-talk when you feel overwhelmed by the imperfection; you'll feel silly at first but it really does do something in your brain.

 

[MisterMajestic]

^^^^Great personal-points...I have Family , Friends & Co-workers that are Perfectionists and they do not appear to be depressed about it...

 

[Purplebic]

Nobody's Perfect.

Speak for yourself.

Now bow to my brilliance.

 

[rareboy]

I believe you mean 'Is there a cure for being a perfectionist?'

You want to get it right.

 

[soulseeker]

I work in the medical field so perfectionism is part of the equation.