Is there every an innocent reason...

[recuerdeme]

to go the local gay bathhouse/spa? Like... just for the steam room? And no additional thoughts or desires?

While doing this innocent act would think it all innocent and ok to keep it from your bf?

 

[Críostóir]

to go the local gay bathhouse/spa? Like... just for the steam room? And no additional thoughts or desires?

While doing this innocent act would think it all innocent and ok to keep it from your bf?

No. There are places to get into a steam room that aren't gay bathhouses. They're cheaper too. If you're going to the gay bathhouse you're either going to have sex or to watch others do it.

If you want to breathe steam, get a facial steamer.

And keeping it from your BF is right out. He'll find out and be more suspicious. But it's better not to do it.

If your BF is the one who told you he went to the bathhouse just to breathe the steam, he's lying. If you believe him you're a doormat.

 

[Seasoned]

It sounds to me that someone has told you that he went to a bath house for the steam. If you accept that explaination I beg you, as I already suggested to someone else today, to research co-dependency. There are reasons why some of us are willing to be doormats.

 

[treanir]

Well, a mate of mine calls it the "$10 hotel", so there ya go.

I agree with the above posters though.

 

[TX-Beau]

OK, who is the one going to the bathhouse for the steam?

 

[puka-pride]

i know a few people who have gone to the bathhouse to sleep... theres one downtown where u can rent a room (with a lock and bed )for like $20 for 8 hours...

 

[recuerdeme]

supposedly my bf (well we're going through a ~separation at the moment for this and other threaded reasons) went to the bath for the steam room and nothing else... but he had every intention of hiding it from me.

 

[TX-Beau]

So he went to the big gay bathhouse, but it's innocent - was just there for the steam, but he' tried to hide it...............


(this is the space where you draw your own conclusion)

 

[TX-Beau]

That said, if you were separated, you don't have much room to complain.

 

[rareboy]

Oh c'mon.

Why would you be asking us if there is an innocent reason.

I'm going to say yes.

And the reason he didn't want to tell you is that he was afraid you might not believe it.

 

[Críostóir]

I think he's lying to you, and I don't know why. By my lights, he should be telling you "we're separated, and that means I can go to a bathhouse if I want to. Get over it!"