Is there hope for ugly guys?

[Kennylingus]

Eh most people who think they're ugly are usually being waaay too paranoid about it. And kinda vice versa. If I were you I'd just get over it. Nothing you can do about it, plastic surgery rarely does anyone good. I once dated a 300+ lbs drag queen with a giant nose and huge gap in her front teeth, because she was a blast to be around.

You wanna know what's not a blast to be around? People who get down on themselves about their looks. It's annoying and usually only leaves the other person saying stuff like "Oh you look good! Don't listen to anyone"yada yada yada.

Sure looks matter, of course they do, but for the most part after you've had sex a few times that starts to matter less and less and who you are becomes the issue.
If you are a paper bagger then you need to stop worrying about it focus on your strong points, because if you're fugly and annoying you don't have any hope.

Just be a blast to hang out it. If it worked for Charisma Storm then it can work for you.

 

[Telstra]

Donald trump is ugly.
Dick chenny is ugly and ... etc.

Just think of other famous ugly guys ... how do they live ?

 

[Telstra]

^ think of Michael Moore LOL

 

[SomedaySoon]

I think maybe I'm just tired of being alone and that might translate to desperation..

I think of myself the same way sometimes, but I think you put it correctly. I have thought this more than once, and I have definitely come to the conclusion that I am just being paranoid.

There are times when I definitely think I am good looking (I swear I am not egotistical)! But if you can't even think of yourself as good looking, that will translate, and project into the world.

Personally I have never really seen a guy in my everyday life that I would deem ugly, of course, I am in Southern California

A picture would help us decide!!!

 

[Seasoned]

People that are comfortable in their surroundings are appealing. We are social animals so we make a lot of instant assessments of one another.

 

[Callum]

As long as you have a penis, there is hope.

 

[hylas]

first off, you might not be as ugly as you think you are. check your self-perception. also, what you find unattractive (e.g. overweight, age) might very well read as very attractive to some others. but im gonna assume, for the sake of the discussion, that you really are somewhat unattractive.

being confident, feeling comfortable in your own skin, being an interesting person, having a sense of humor, being talented (music, arts, poetry, anything), being well-read, being a good lover, dressing well, having a good haircut... all those things really do help. and your body shape, you can change.

but youre also right when you say that those things only take you that far. some people are just less attractive. i think you should adjust your expectations accordingly. unless youre super-rich, youre just not going to marry a ck-model if you look like a pancake.


lastly, you say that you dont actually find yourself that ugly, you just have problems attracting other men. are you sure its your looks? it might be something else about you that puts people off.

 

[JJKrkwood]

As long as you have a penis, there is hope.

Actually, you mean as long as you have a BIG penis there is hope... I have seen the most unattractive guys being lusted after because they showed huge bulge, or had the reputation of having a big cock. Its all about the Meat.

 

[Deandbn]

What actually is it about you that makes you think youre ugly??

Because I promise you that there is always someone bigger, fatter, balder, etc etc than you ever were.

And also it is not what you think about yourself, but what others think about you that counts. So rather ask them because for you to look in the mirror and decide, is not a very objective thing to do.

 

[chace1617]

i think for everyone, ugly or not there is someone who is his other half...

and i think confidence is what matters, i've seen ugly guys having multiple boyfriends and cute guys who had never had sex...

 

[hylas]

what do you mean, "sexually ambiguous"? do you mean androgynous? or "straight looking"? both have their admirers.

how does being into average looking guys make you shallow?

 

[Telstra]

I feel ugly because I'm half asian. Which I know is completely ridiculous. I love my ethnicity but sometimes I wish I was just one or the other. It makes me sad to actually be saying this, but it's true for the most part. Just got to love who I am I suppose.

Mix race is usually better looking than non mix race .

 

[hylas]

oh, hey there, im half-asian, too! and im (mostly) into caucasian guys. yeah, im a cliché, sue me. i assume youre in a similar situation. i personally think there is nothing wrong with having preferences in ethnicity when it comes to sexual attraction. those preferences might be rooted in racism-related self-loathing, but once a sexual preference is set, its almost impossible to change it consciously. so just stop feeling guilty and go with what works for you. just my take on this (kinda controversal) matter.

anyway, i went through my share of self-loathing as well, feeling ugly. youll get over it, like i did. i feel being an asian into caucasians narrows down your options a little, but really, its not that much of a problem. at this point, im dating 3 guys. one is built like a god, one has a hot straight-boy-next-door face and is an athlete as well, and one is a mind-blowing lover (now, if only i could combine their genes somehow...) so basically, dont worry, and dont let the occasional "no asians please" you read on dating profiles let you down.
and if you really hit rock-bottom, take a trip to sweden. not only are the guys there drop-dead-gorgeous, many of them go crazy for asians. id move there, if only the weather there wouldnt suck so much...
youll be fine.

 

[Nomenclature]

The idea is that a man is supposed to show "confidence" by allowing the person he's flirting with to feel safe, have fun and be able to let their guard down. He's supposed to show that, within his social standing, no one intimidates him.


You said you're half-asian: What is your heritage, exactly? It's been common lately for Asian women to marry European men, so sooner or later you're going to see a lot of half-asian, half-white kids running around.

 

[Telstra]

oh, hey there, im half-asian, too! and im (mostly) into caucasian guys. yeah, im a cliché, sue me. i assume youre in a similar situation. i personally think there is nothing wrong with having preferences in ethnicity when it comes to sexual attraction. those preferences might be rooted in racism-related self-loathing, but once a sexual preference is set, its almost impossible to change it consciously. so just stop feeling guilty and go with what works for you. just my take on this (kinda controversal) matter.

anyway, i went through my share of self-loathing as well, feeling ugly. youll get over it, like i did. i feel being an asian into caucasians narrows down your options a little, but really, its not that much of a problem. at this point, im dating 3 guys. one is built like a god, one has a hot straight-boy-next-door face and is an athlete as well, and one is a mind-blowing lover (now, if only i could combine their genes somehow...) so basically, dont worry, and dont let the occasional "no asians please" you read on dating profiles let you down.
and if you really hit rock-bottom, take a trip to sweden. not only are the guys there drop-dead-gorgeous, many of them go crazy for asians. id move there, if only the weather there wouldnt suck so much...
youll be fine.

How do you know this?
What type of asians?

 

[hylas]

when i was there, i got hit on three times as much as in other places. friends tell similar stories. im half eastern-asian.

 

[hotb0d]

If someone is ugly, I sure hope he has some other good attributes to distract people.

A good body, being tall, masculine-looking, smart, rich, famous, etc...

If the person is ugly and also a plain old average with nothing special, then I guess just look for someone uglier than you?

 

[youngnihilist]

Generally speaking, in the gay and straight world, half asian half white does more than fine. You shouldn't think you're ugly because of your background! Full asians have it much much tougher in gay dating than half asians (same with full blacks vs half blacks, full latins vs half latins), trust me. Shallow and unfortunate as it is

Also, you're slim, have a decent sized dick, youth.... you have a lot of advantages.

 

[Telstra]

^ money talks ................

 

[altlover85]

I think most people have a type and I don't think that makes people shallow. It's just easier to narrow down your options that way.