Is there Redemption for a guy like me?

[Piquechampion]

Ok, since I have been posting threads exposing the negative aspects of my personality, I might as well spill it all out.

Here´s the deal. For the last various years I have been a very mean bitch to everybody around me, family, partners and friends. I´m the king of the silent treatment, and I´m really ashamed of my behavior.

I don´t know how the hell, they all put up with me. I mean, what normal guys gives the silent treatment to their girlfriends? I did, big way, and they put up with it. I know most of you wouldn´t put up with that in a partner, let alone a freinds. Yes, I did it to my buddies as well. The worse case was in a Road Trip we took back home, I don´t remember what silly thing they did that pissed me off, but all the way back I gave them major silent treatment, didn´t spoke a single word to them, even when spoken to (that´s not a normal behavior for a 15 year old girl, let alone a 20 year old guy). And they all put up with that. I used to be the meanest person to store clerks and waiters, and stuff. I know that there must have been something wrong with me that was the cause of all that rage...

Well, anyways, I want to show my family and friends that I´m sorry... They all must probably think that I´m such a spoiled little brat, but I want to show them that I value their friendship and that I´m sorry...

So is there any Redemption for me? Any advise?

 

[evilmonkey]

no one is beyond redemption, well, unless your name is george bush....


recognizing and admitting your mistakes is the first step my friend. good luck!

 

[jimrent66]

just posting this and letting it all out, shows a major change IMO. I think that no one is beyond redemption and now that you've realized all this stuff, it's time to fix it. Friends and family stick by us always. I think it's great you're looking for redemption and now its time to continue forth in a positive way.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

 

[JayHew]

It is possible, but actions speak louder than words as does being consistent with changes you decide to make. Don't expect a parade or any recognition either if you do it. You've shown what a butthead you can be, so if you actually start treating people with dignity and respect instead of pouty, they will probably think you have finally grown up. People don't usually compliment proper behavior unless in extenuating circumstances. Glad you have decided to make a change. Good luck.

 

[lacroix]

Sorry alone won't cut it. The best thing you can do for them is to fix yourself.

 

[2boyzukuk]

just learn to love yourself as it sounds like you have drowned yourself in issues and self loathing otherwise what other explenation can there be for such childish behaviour, Once and ONLY once you start to love and respect yourself others will follow bit this is not going to be a quick fix people even those closest to us have memories so you will be on probation for a while yet. But that said you have made a start thats good just keep it up and heartfelt good luck for your future.

 

[schatzeboppes]

of course there is!
but are u willing to change who you are? i can be a total asshat sometimes but i sleep well at night. i just tell myself 'its who i am' and i've come to terms with it, but i guess not everyone is like me eh?

one thing's certain, i hate driving my mother to the bank because she always gets into (loud) arguments with the tellers because they cant manage her 1000 requests in less than a minute. but thats just who she is

 

[gribbles]

Perhaps you need to examine why you do this? I doubt that it's because of some simple slight that may have pissed you off for the moment. My guess is that you're testing those closest to you to see just how far you can push them away before they actually push back -- or walk away. This is the kind of behavior that children use to reassure themselves that their parents still love them. Some kids get clingy, others get nasty. But if this behavior has worked with you through your childhood and teen years, this is probably just a habit and you do it when you feel insecure about something. Very often you have to dig a little deeper and find out what you're really trying to say when you're giving them the silent treatment. I'm not a pscyhologist, but I could play one on T.V.!

 

[Piquechampion]

i sleep well at night.

Dont get me wrong, I do too, and my family and friends adore me, but still I feel remorseful by the way I have treated them

 

[CGHJ]

Apologie to them, say you realize you were a dick, and then stop being a dick. All will be forgiven and if they liked you before they'll like you twice as much now. Enjoy your new life!

 

[TheTrish]

Hi, lug! See a doctor. I had a friend who gradually became an asshole. He went to a doctor and found out he had diabetes. The good news is that he has it
under control and ino longer an asshole.

T

 

[Piquechampion]

Perhaps you need to examine why you do this? I doubt that it's because of some simple slight that may have pissed you off for the moment. My guess is that you're testing those closest to you to see just how far you can push them away before they actually push back -- or walk away. This is the kind of behavior that children use to reassure themselves that their parents still love them. Some kids get clingy, others get nasty. But if this behavior has worked with you through your childhood and teen years, this is probably just a habit and you do it when you feel insecure about something. Very often you have to dig a little deeper and find out what you're really trying to say when you're giving them the silent treatment. I'm not a pscyhologist, but I could play one on T.V.!

I guess you´re right

 

[gameboy 11]

Great topic. I'm sad to see that you're banned...

 

[gameboy 11]

When I posted this I could've sworn that it said banned other his name. I also (if I recall correctly) remember that when you clicked to see his profile, it wouldn't let you. Maybe I dreamed it...

<_<

 

[lyconthrope]

When I posted this I could've sworn that it said banned other his name. I also (if I recall correctly) remember that when you clicked to see his profile, it wouldn't let you. Maybe I dreamed it...

<_<

no your right, he was a bad boy, got a temp ban

 

[rahzael2006]

One thing I you could try to do that might help is meditation/relaxation it always helps me. It might also give you the time to think about what has happened and some way to help so how you feel and ways to help control that anger that you have in you.