Is there something as a "gay ring"?

[MarkSex]

Ok, long story short, I've been hanging out with this guy at my University, he's such a sweetheart, and fun and all. And you know the drill, I don't know if he's gay or not!
He's got his left ear pierced, which I've always thought of as a bit of a "sign", but didn't take it for granted.

But now for the real thing:
Well, a weekend about 2 weeks ago we did a trip with group of people from the Uni, and him included. He had the responcibility of arranging people into 2-bed hotelrooms, and "incidentally" I end up sharing a room with him. Nothing really interesting happened, but two small incidents that did happen suddenly hit me after we got home. He apparently "misplaced" a ring he'd been wearing on his right middle finger,and asked me if I had seen it. Twice. I thought nothing of it then, but now it seems like he wanted me to notice it. The second time it was on the bedside table, and he made sure I saw it, and saw him put it on.
It was sort of a wrap around ring(1 and ½ times around his finger), that was flat on the top.
Is he testing me if I get the point, or is it just wishful thinking?
If there is such a concept of a gay ring, are there guidelines?

And it would be a VERY nice icebreaker! I just want to him!

PS. I honestly by accident started wearing my old reunion-ring from like 9th or 10th grade, just because I thought it looked nice. It's a smooth and wide silverring. I'm sure the guy has seen this ring, but I forgot it at home that weekend(G-dang-it!). But for being a fun accidental fashion statement, I laughed at the idea of my stumbling onto a gay-ring concept like that!

 

[3nipples]

I thought it was the right ear not the left. Whatever. People wear things because they like to. They don't always make a study of it.

From what you write, it sounds like he likes you and is trying to impress you. In other words, he would like you to like him as well. That doesn't make him gay.

Forget playing childish games with pieces of jewelery. You won't get any definitive answers that way and will just get more frustrated.

Ask him. If he says yes, then cool. If he says no, then tell him it doesn't matter, you like him just the same, even if he did ruin a perfectly good fantasy. In case he was just denying it, so he knows he can fess up.

 

[1st love ron]

Use to be an earring in the right meant you were gay, left straight. That has totally gone out of the window though and isn't reliable for at least 2 reasons: 1) It is MUCH more common for guys to wear earrings these days (doesn't turn heads anymore), and 2) some closet cases wear them on the left to "show" to others that they are "straight."

Was you guy friend's ring rainbow-themed? Otherwise, who knows.

 

[RicanDAB]

Rings on the right hand do not flag anything for me in my book. I have worn rings on my right hand and some people question what it means but I have never heard that it denotes that you are gay. I would pay attention more to what the person says or does to signal any interest.

A rainbow anywhere on clothing, jewelry or even the car they drive that is strategically placed to resemble the pride flag is a surefire sign however, but many gay men do not go around wearing those.

 

[Soilwork]

"Hey man.. listen.. I've been getting crazy mixed signals and I'm done trying to guess. Are you gay? Cuz..if so, I wanna maybe ask you out to a movie and dinner and if not, let's go have a beer and play pool. Unless you are and you wanna have beer and play pool or you're NOT but you wanna do a movie anyway. um... I wanted this to come out a bit more smooth.. but you know..."

 

[Smitho]

^^^ Spot on, you have to be in it to win it!

Does he know you are gay? That would be a very good start, (probably essencial!) so you need to come out to at least him, and hopefully that should start the subject, and then you can ask him.

Good Luck.

I have never heard of any ring symbols for gayness, sorry, and the ear ring thing these days seems to be everyone.

 

[Jeimuzu]

^^ Big, dangly, and with all the colours of the rainbow.

 

[MarkSex]

Jacobim, I'm all for the big and dangly... parts.

But I guess you guys have a point. *flips through calendar*
Next time I have a chance to see him in a less "formal" occasion is this friday.
I guess I'll check out the situation, and go for it if I get a good chance(without it being it too awkward).
Incidentally, I got to see some of the pictures from our weekend trip just today. And it made me so much more comitted to following through on this. I'm tired of never getting anything because I chicken out.
Wish me luck.

Soilwork, I appreciate the idea, sound like something I might actually ask.

 

[Theyoungman]

Making a gay ring is just stupid (or anything to represent attractions souly to men). I think its a stupid idea and just asking for seperation in the sexual prefference.

If you want people to notice your sexuallity, then wear a ring on your right ear because it well noticed as a sign of a gay man.

 

[Christopher123]

I know several gay men who wear rings on their thumbs. But I don't know if it means anything or not.

Anyway, what everyone else said. Just ask the dude. I'm gay and I have my ear pierced twice - my LEFT ear. I put it in my left ear for no specific reason, it was just the ear I wanted to pierce. It's not supposed to mean anything, I just like pierced ears.

 

[tx_doc]

I used to have both ears pierced. My left was pierced in the lobe and at the top. I know plenty of straight guys who have one or both ears pierced. I know less and less gay guys who have pierced ears.
As for rings.... I have a friend who is adament that gay men should wear commitment/wedding rings on their right hand to separate us from the "straights". My boyfriend and I wear ours on our left hand.... because it's the hand closer to our hearts.

 

[Theyoungman]

As for rings.... I have a friend who is adament that gay men should wear commitment/wedding rings on their right hand to separate us from the "straights". My boyfriend and I wear ours on our left hand.... because it's the hand closer to our hearts.

See? Thats what I mean. Your friend wants seperation. Thats not a good thing at all. Its trying to grab attention to the matter. When you see people who wear wedding rings, its to show that they are just married. It doesn't matter to which sex. Its just letting people know that they are in a life commited relationship with someone, no matter who it'd be. I think you and you boyfriend are fine with your idea because its not intended to seperate you from anything.

 

[colemanshs]

Just ask him about his ring one day--what it means, where he got it, etc. Maybe you'll find something interesting out.

 

[spreadeagle]

There is a gay ring - it's sometimes known as ' a daisy chain'.

 

[NongreasySweatproof]

This isn't totally related, but I want to get a thick, silver thumb- or index-finger ring, maybe with like an eagle design on it or something. Not to signify anything--I just think they look cool. If it makes people think I'm gay, whatever. But where do men buy rings? I don't want anything cheap or tacky-looking. I don't reckon it's the same as buying a ring as a girl, i.e., you can't just go to Tiffany's or Macy's and find something like that, right? The last time I went to New York, I was on the lookout for such a ring, but I didn't see any places that might sell it. I've been on the lookout for quite some time, actually.

 

[MarkSex]

Just ask him about his ring one day--what it means, where he got it, etc. Maybe you'll find something interesting out.

I did ask him about his ring but not until I told him I had a crush on him. Here's the outline.

We were at this Uni-party. We were sitting on the frontporch of the building, chatting with other people. Suddenly we were sitting just the two of us, and I somehow got the courage(Some drinks were had before) and I told him.
His reaction was funny, but very considerate. He just replied that he doesn't "swing that way". I said that I had to make sure, since it was bugging the hell out of me. Then I said that he was very confusing with his acting, and I pointed to my ring, and he got the point. He said it was something he picked up years ago, without even thinking and that it had just become part of him.
He then asked me if it actually was some sort of gay-sign and I told him not to worry, that it was all probably in my head. He was thankful, because although he doesn't have anything against gays, he thought it would be awkward for him to have such a ring. We had a good laugh, and it's cool, we even joke about it now and then.
Like last weekend, he suddenly turned to me and said "You know, you still scare me" and I replied "No need to, I don't bite. Unless you ask me to." and we got some good giggles. I can understand that he might be a bit confused, with all the roomsharing and so on, and that fact that I usually don't stand out as being gay at all, I'm just a regular single guy to most people.

As for me piercing my ears? No thanks, not my piece of pie.

But thanks guy for all the pointers! Still single, but an experience and a friendship richer!

 

[Runner1]

Hey.. well I commend you for the courage.

Lots of guys just sit around playing the "i wonder if he's gay" game for what seems like forever. I know I have!

Good for you