Is this a good thing or a bad thing?

[freefall]

Bah, don't even know how to even get started

Perhaps the first time I started to notice was when I got out my professor's office about 2 months ago. I was happy because of something (I can't seem to recall --') and I was grinning while waiting for the elevator. Then I noticed a man appeared beside me. Still grinning, I looked at the person, who was a complete stranger.

He grinned back immediately, touched my shoulder, and we started conversing while descending down in the elevator. Since then, when we encountered occasionally (so far, four times), he would grin to me.

Need I remind you on this point his orientation is still a mystery to me (despite I'm quite confident of my gaydar now).

Since that time, I started to notice similar behaviour from men who are ambiguous for me. And they ALWAYS initiate body contact with me (either a tap or a touch).

The latest happening: just this evening, when I was in the same elevator in the same building yet another stranger (who seemed to know me but not the other way around) scratched my back with his car key before initiating a short interrupted conversation.

So...is this a good thing or a bad thing? I have virtually zero experiences about this, so just tell me everything, even if you thought I had been overreacting or unbelievably naive.

 

[sixthson]

Do you think they are just being friendly? Is it normal for guys to touch each other when they first meet someone where you are?
Did you enjoy the physical contact? I think the only thing you can do is to keep being friendly...and wear tight pants.

 

[fetaby]

Sounds good to me! Whether these guys are cruising or just touchy/feely doesn't really matter. You're not going to escalate random chatter into a steamy encounter without sound proof of orientation anyway. So just take all of it for what it is at the time. You've found the gayest elevator in Jakarta....

 

[freefall]

Josh, I'd really want to think positively, but normally people don't make direct physical contact with someone they don't know, at least not as free as in America/Europe.

When the guys are appealing to me, I really want to start something, yet I don't want to chase a rainbow.

Or should I?

 

[G-Lexington]

It's the non rainbows you want to avoid chasing.

Just chat with them some more. See if something develops.

Lex

 

[freefall]

^Yeah, I figure that funny how "chasing rainbow" and "chasing a rainbow" can be quite contradictive here.

The thing is I always forgot to ask their names (most of which I only encountered once and only once) --" I need to stop being so closed

BTW, is it rude/awkward if I directly ask them: "Are you gay?"

 

[G-Lexington]

I don't know Jakarata. In America, it would be to some extent. Better to just get a name and contact info (cell number, email, Facebook). "I need to rush off, but I'd love to continue this later."

Lex

 

[fetaby]

Josh, I'd really want to think positively, but normally people don't make direct physical contact with someone they don't know, at least not as free as in America/Europe.

When the guys are appealing to me, I really want to start something, yet I don't want to chase a rainbow.

Or should I?

The thing with rainbows is that they vanish if you follow to closely. The trick is to relax. Be open and receptive to contact and starting something if the opportunity arises but don't chase a rainbow. You can only enjoy it when the moment happens.

But how do you know if it is the moment or the person that is the rainbow? Frequency and duration of wave patterns...