Is this creepy?

[eclectic_spirit]

Ok, you already wrote him and LUCKILY things turned out ok. This time.
However, I'd like to mention something to you that you may or may not have considered, in case you get the idea to do this again with someone else.

You seemed totally sure you'd never see each other again after this one class. Let me ask you: did you graduate this semester? Did he graduate this semester? If the answer is 'no' to both questions, chances are very likely you WILL encounter him again somewhere on campus.

Now...

What if he had turned out to be a major homophobic gay-basher, content with biding his time until your paths crossed again when he could take you out with a baseball bat? Did that potential scenario even cross your mind?

Be more careful in the future. There are a LOT of freaks and dangerous people out there who would happily cause you serious harm for doing what you did. Luckily you picked a good one this time. Next time you might not be so lucky.

 

[vegetaishott2003]

I sent a message to the Jarics on MySpace and told them they were HOTT.....and no response!

Then I remembered their 'bulletin' signed by 'the jerks...errr The Jarics'......can't help but love them more!

 

[BabiGayPimp]

He seemed fine. We got into a conversation about the class. Even if he was a little creeped out, so what?


Anyone who sets my gaydar off I'm probably not going to be attracted to anyway. I'm not attracted to gay-ish acting guys.

What does being "gay-ish" acting have to do with setting off gaydar? I always thought the specific value of gaydar was its ability to accurately detect gay men who are not obviously "gay-ish" acting. Men who you probabably would be attracted to.

 

[Rex]

Ok, you already wrote him and LUCKILY things turned out ok. This time.
However, I'd like to mention something to you that you may or may not have considered, in case you get the idea to do this again with someone else.

You seemed totally sure you'd never see each other again after this one class. Let me ask you: did you graduate this semester? Did he graduate this semester? If the answer is 'no' to both questions, chances are very likely you WILL encounter him again somewhere on campus.

No, because I'm not going to that school anymore.

Now...

What if he had turned out to be a major homophobic gay-basher, content with biding his time until your paths crossed again when he could take you out with a baseball bat? Did that potential scenario even cross your mind?

Be more careful in the future. There are a LOT of freaks and dangerous people out there who would happily cause you serious harm for doing what you did. Luckily you picked a good one this time. Next time you might not be so lucky.

Then I'd tell him to go fuck himself and I wouldn't be afraid. If he had the balls to do that on campus he'd get arrested right away.

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

OK... I don't see anything wrong with telling a guy he's hot. In person.

But if it were me, I'd be like "Why would I bother with some guy who's so timid he can't even come talk to me himself and has to send a message from MySpace?"

Antoine's idea is about the most lame-ass thing I can think of. People who don't use their own pictures (and there's more than a few of those here, by the way, including a few popular people in the "post yourself" forum) are just pathetic.

Why are people such cowards?

Sultan is totally capable of handling himself.

 

[Rex]

In person it would have been awkward because it's not like I was ever alone with the guy in class and I wouldn't have known how he'd react.

The fake picture thing is too much. It's not like if the guy was gay or bi he'd just up and tell someone and even if he was, it would just look fishy if I were to message him directly after that.

 

[Telstra]

OK... I don't see anything wrong with telling a guy he's hot. In person.

But if it were me, I'd be like "Why would I bother with some guy who's so timid he can't even come talk to me himself and has to send a message from MySpace?"

Antoine's idea is about the most lame-ass thing I can think of. People who don't use their own pictures (and there's more than a few of those here, by the way, including a few popular people in the "post yourself" forum) are just pathetic.

Why are people such cowards?

Sultan is totally capable of handling himself.

very good question.
I would like to hear the answers from anyone.

The question deserved its own thread.

 

[bripatrick]

OK... I don't see anything wrong with telling a guy he's hot. In person.

But if it were me, I'd be like "Why would I bother with some guy who's so timid he can't even come talk to me himself and has to send a message from MySpace?"

Antoine's idea is about the most lame-ass thing I can think of. People who don't use their own pictures (and there's more than a few of those here, by the way, including a few popular people in the "post yourself" forum) are just pathetic.

Why are people such cowards?

Sultan is totally capable of handling himself.

Dude, have some compassion. For some people, male or female, gay or straight, whatever...it's hard to just walk up to someone and bare their emotions or attractions. Not everyone has developed that confidence, and some never will. Especially if you've tried just that in the past and got it thrown back in your face. It's not cowardly to me...it's self-preservation.

Also, timing and location is everything. Personally, I wouldn't walk up to a guy after class and tell him I think he's hot. If you're in a bar, then yeah, maybe some light flirting to test the waters. The real world unfortunately doesn't work like an episode of "Queer as Folk" or "Sex and the City" where every day you wander into a situation where an attractive person asks you out (or vice-versa). It would be amazing if that did happen, but I don't think it's in the cards for at least 90% of people.

 

[Rex]

Dude, have some compassion. For some people, male or female, gay or straight, whatever...it's hard to just walk up to someone and bare their emotions or attractions. Not everyone has developed that confidence, and some never will. Especially if you've tried just that in the past and got it thrown back in your face. It's not cowardly to me...it's self-preservation.

Also, timing and location is everything. Personally, I wouldn't walk up to a guy after class and tell him I think he's hot. If you're in a bar, then yeah, maybe some light flirting to test the waters. The real world unfortunately doesn't work like an episode of "Queer as Folk" or "Sex and the City" where every day you wander into a situation where an attractive person asks you out (or vice-versa). It would be amazing if that did happen, but I don't think it's in the cards for at least 90% of people.

Thanks, I agree.

If it was a bar or party or something like that it would be a different story.

Plus I didn't even know if this guy would be bi so it felt easier to just do it online.

 

[Royal Heart]

It's difficult to say. I mean, if you just want to tell him you think he's hot because you honestly think he is and think it would be nice to compliment him, then go for it. It's nice to be complimented.

If you want something out of it then perhaps you should consider being more social with him first, even if it is just online in the beginning. You two have a class in common, so why not? You might get a new friend, you may get laid (or both, depending on what kind of guy he is).