Is this guy interested in me or not? He's turning my mind into a pretzel!

[kevin5478us]

I met this guy at a bar. At closing, he kissed me on the lips and gave me his number and told me to call him the day after. I called him (the day after) and I asked if he wanted to go for a walk since I thought that would be nice. When I got to his place it was already dark, so he asked if i wanted to see a movie in his room. So we watched a movie, and when I wanted to hold him or hold his hand, he seemed REPULSED by me (like he wouldn't acknowledge me touching him). When the movie ended, we started talking about random things (which i liked because that's what i intended to do on our proposed walk), but when i tried to get close he just moved back until he was basically against the wall. We kissed on the lips at the end but nothing much more. We also sat on the front steps of his place and chatted until I left.

I felt kinda sorry that I made him feel uncormfortable (although I think I'm in the right), so I texted him when i got back to my apartment at 2am and told him that I'm sorry that if I made him feel uncomfortable and to call me if he wanted to do anything.

So when I left I thought I'd never hear back from him against since he seemed repulsed by me. So I got this text message back from him at 8:30 pm the next day saying "Hi." I don't know what that means so I called him. We got talking about his day went and how my day went, and then I asked him what his plans were for tonight and he said that he was going to watch a movie, but not only did he say that he was going to watch a movie, he said that he was going to watch it naked. So I was thinking that he was going to invite me over, but NO. I was like can I come over, and then he said he had sore throat and that he was going to sleep during the movie. I was like ok, I hope you enjoy the movie and hope you feel better.

That is how we left it. WHAT THE FUCK? Is he a fucking tease? Am I stupid? Is he interested in me or should I wait until he calls me? What should I do? Should I ask him if he's interested in me?

 

[SilverRRCloud]

There was very little point in 'pushing the guy against the wall'.

It is usually very good to show some initiative, but if you see another dude pulling away, back off immediately. There is nothing more counterproductive than being pushy. Besides, a few dudes will always view that as un ultimate sign of total desperation.

To say that your 'friend' out there has got some unresolved issues, does not even begin to describe him.

He kisses the other dude on the lips but acts as if repulsed, if you touch him.

He does not have the guts to say, 'Sorry, please do not touch me. I do not like that.' But lets you push him against the wall. (???)

Now, he kinda initiates the contact and says, he is going to watch the movie naked, but will be falling asleep. The latter making your presence there undesirable?

The place is here and the time is now. Dump the dude this instant.

Do not ever look back.

SC

 

[Soilwork]

um.. he's just not that into you.

take the hint.. move on.

there's a LOT more guys where HE came from.

 

[twardmo]

maybe he just wants to take it slow

 

[texyboi]

jet jet jet

 

[texyboi]

hummmm .................Is no a bad word? it is just two letters......ya i know it is hard to swallow

 

[The_Reaper]

If anything.....


Sounds like this guy wants to take it slowly...

Maybe he thought when you tried to get close to him that you were simply making the first move towards taking off his pants and having "a roll in the hay."

Which might explain why he pulled back, especially if he's really interested in you. Considering that sex too soon can quite possibly destroy a relationship before it begins.

So, I'd just go along at his pace (that is if you're interested in him as well) and when he's good and comfortable he'll make the first move.

Try going for a walk again, and see if he'll let you hold his hand during. If so, I would draw the conclusion that I'm right about the speed of things. If he pulls away.....Well, I'm stumped.

 

[rontom]

um.. he's just not that into you.

take the hint.. move on.

there's a LOT more guys where HE came from.

Wiser words were never spoken - you met him in a bar for goodness sake - shit, in my days when you met someone in a bar you fucked that night!

(OK, so I was a bit of a slut!!)

And I see JUB still considers me a slut!!

 

[slobone]

Wiser words were never spoken - you met him in a bar for goodness sake - shit, in my days when you met someone in a bar you fucked that night!

(OK, so I was a bit of a slut!!)

And I see JUB still considers me a slut!!

Yeah, it seems like one goes from Virgin to Slut awfully quickly around here....

 

[D-Base]

Well, you tried! So let him sweat on it now. Just let him do what he wants to do, if he calls you and asks you to come over you should go, but don't push him against the wall again let him to that. Maybe he's just insecure or maybe it's his first time with a guy, too many things could be running through his head...

 

[Dobson73]

Am sure you're better than those games. Move on. Been there, suffered that.

 

[kevin5478us]

Thanks everyone for the advice. I appreciate it. I'm just a noob at this.

I think I pretty much agree with everyone that I shouldn't start anything. I've been the one setting the pace so far, so if he's interested he'll give me call. I won't call or text him until he shows some initiative. I'll just move on with my life as if nuttin happened (because nothing did happen).

Thanks.