Is this guy looking for something?

[Jerry]

Hey guys, I have a "problem" and I was hoping some of you may be able to give me some objective input.

I'm new to this place I'm at, and I met this guy through a friend. We all hang out now, drink together and whatever.
But this one guy, he's really cute with a beautiful 20yo body. He always acts like he's my boyfriend, putting his arm around me and sometimes kissing me on the cheek and stuff.

So lately my roommate has been gone and he stops by sometimes. He lays in my (twin) bed with me and watches TV, no big deal since there isn't much room here to sit elsewhere.

But he also lays on top of me, rubs my legs, plays with my feet, whatever. And of course I put my arms around him, lay with my head on his chest, feel up his abs and chest, rub his thighs. He never pulls back

I know he likes girls, which is fine since I do too. But I'm thinking he really waants me to make a move on him. The other night we were out drinking and he had to get up REALLY early for work, but he came back to my room (for no good reason) and laid in my bed with me for a while. Kinda like he wanted some before bed. He started to ask something like "so is this it?" but I started talking at the same time and he wouldn't repeat himself when I asked.

So I don't want to lose him as a friend or freak him out, or even "expose" myself if he's not interested, but sometimes I think he's just waiting for me to pull his cock out of his pants and have at it. (Which I would LOVE to do)

What do you guys think?

 

[jubjub]

Yeah, he wants some.

 

[G-Lexington]

People tend not to put their arms around guys, kiss them, lay in bed with them, and roll around with them if they don't want something.

This guy wants something.

But the question is - do YOU want something? I mean, he couldn't be more blatant, and you're still hesitating. If you don't want to, that's fine - but you might want to make that clear.

If you do want something, it'll be easy as hell to get it. Next time he's in bed with you, just ask, "You want to skip the TV, and find something else to keep us occupied?" That'll be all the opening he needs.

Lex

 

[Jerry]

Dammit guys, I think you're right. And YES, I want it. Even if he just wants head from me, that's fine by me.

I haven't had a guy do this kind of stuff with me since I was a kid and we were kind of exploring and stuff.

He asked me once if I was gay and of course I said no. But the reason he asked - he came up behind me, grabbed me by the hips, and grinded on me. I said something like "yeah baby" or some shit, so he asked me if I was gay because of what I said. Dude, you were grinding your cock on my ass!

He's always calling me baby, and I call him baby too. I like that actually.
It seems like he's been alot more 'aggressive' since my roommate's been gone too. SHIT! I need to make a move before the roomie gets back!!

Sometimes he'll lay with his hand over his dick. Maybe next time I'll just put my hand on his and see what he does.

 

[Jerry]

If you do want something, it'll be easy as hell to get it. Next time he's in bed with you, just ask, "You want to skip the TV, and find something else to keep us occupied?" That'll be all the opening he needs.

Lex

We've kinda been there. He stopped by the other day and said we should do something. Of course I said OK. I had the day off and he got off early, so a good opportunity.
He left and came back a little while later, showered and wearing some cologne (the scent of which is still on my pillow).
So we kinda laid in bed and talked about wanting to do something but there being nothing to do. I tried to get him to make suggestions, but we got nowhere. Actually, that was the same day he came back to my room after drinking.

Yhis guy is SO hot. I stopped by him the ohter day and he answered the door in nothing but a towel. I had a really hard time containing myself

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>He asked me once if I was gay and of course I said no. But the reason he asked - he came up behind me, grabbed me by the hips, and grinded on me. I said something like "yeah baby" or some shit, so he asked me if I was gay because of what I said.

Because he wanted to know if he should continue. You said no. In short, you weren't interested. Dumb.

He's done almost all the work. You need to start putting in some effort. Next time you're alone together, ask straight out. "You seem to keep sort of hitting on me. Are you? Because if so, I'd like to mess around with you."

Lex

 

[Jerry]

Well I can't just say "yeah, I'm bi", it just can't seem to come out of my mouth. I wish sometimes I could, but I just can't bring myself to say it.

I think I kinda gave him a look and just said "dude". So he responded "cause if you're gay, I'm not". Which really means nothing, he could very well be bi and having the same issue as me. Maybe he was trying to see how I'd react or whatever.

I was helping him out with something the other day and I said "it's a good thing I like you". He gave me a look and said "I know you like me". This guy is killing me.

I really appreciate your input.

It seems like we're both dropping hints and neither of us have the balls to act. I just need to push a little harder and see what happens.

 

[backpacker]

He asked me once if I was gay and of course I said no. But the reason he asked - he came up behind me, grabbed me by the hips, and grinded on me. I said something like "yeah baby" or some shit, so he asked me if I was gay because of what I said. Dude, you were grinding your cock on my ass!

First off, yes he wants you. Straight guys don't around doing all the stuff you mentioned. The problem is that he's just like you. Too afraid to make a bold move that makes it clear. If one of you don't make a move soon, one of you will lose interest.

If a similar circumstance to the one above should occur again with another guy and you are too afraid to say yes, just say "What do you think?".

 

[G-Lexington]

If you want something to happen, you're going to have to make the move. As I said, he's done all the heavy lifting. He's cooked you a meal, placed it in front of you, and you won't pick up your fork because "he might think I'm hungry".

Come ON, dude.
He wants it.
You want it.
Make it happen, already.

Lex

 

[Jerry]

First off, yes he wants you. Straight guys don't around doing all the stuff you mentioned. The problem is that he's just like you. Too afraid to make a bold move that makes it clear. If one of you don't make a move soon, one of you will lose interest.

If a similar circumstance to the one above should occur again with another guy and you are too afraid to say yes, just say "What do you think?".

Actually, that's a great idea. Thanks.

The question just kinda came out of nowhere and I didn't know how to respond. Too much hesitation and you mess the whole thing up, you know?

I figured if he IS straight and just playing around, I didn't want him to know I was bi because he would stop. Even if we never do anything really sexual, I still like flirting around with him and I really want to keep him as a friend.

I hope he stops by tonight. Hell, maybe I'll stop by his place

 

[lonnie1]

Straight guys don't do this kind of stuff. Next time he starts hugging and touching you, ask him if he is interested in exploring things further. You don't have to admit you're gay--just tell him you're curious as well. If he says no or jumps off the bed, you have your answer.

 

[Jerry]

Straight guys don't do this kind of stuff. Next time he starts hugging and touching you, ask him if he is interested in exploring things further. You don't have to admit you're gay--just tell him you're curious as well. If he says no or jumps off the bed, you have your answer.

And possibly a lost friendship, that's the problem. My door is about 20 feet from his, so it's not like I can just avoid him. Besides, my only friends here so far are the group of about 5 guys of which he is one.

I think I should try to advance things, but I need to be very careful.

I want this guy SO bad

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I think I should try to advance things, but I need to be very careful.

If he just smiled at you once in a while, if you thought you caught him giving you the eye once or twice, yes, be very careful.

He's lying in your bed, and rolling on top of you.

Lex

 

[Jerry]

>>>I think I should try to advance things, but I need to be very careful.

If he just smiled at you once in a while, if you thought you caught him giving you the eye once or twice, yes, be very careful.

He's lying in your bed, and rolling on top of you.

Lex

Hahaha, agreed. I had the day off today and for some reason decided to have a few beers, so maybe I'll be a little looser tonight if he's around.
My plan right now is to tell him I need a ride to the store so I can get some dip or whatever. Since I've been drinking, I obviously can't drive myself.
Hopefully he'll come back to my room and I can get something going.
Man, I hope so. I'm going to turn it up a notch and if nothing else, I can blame it on the beer.
But with any luck, I'll be back here later telling you guys how awesome he was in bed. Ha

 

[Jerry]

Nevermind, just got a call and I'll be working all night now.

I love my job.

 

[Jerry]

Well guys, I got a long enough break tonight to go to his room and watch a movie with him.
He had nothing on but a pair of shorts and we laid in his bed and watched the movie together.

At one point he started scratching/adjusting himself, and I looked over at him (our faces about 2-4" apart). I made some comment and he said he had an itch. So a second later he was doing it again and again I turned and looked at him. He continued to basically fondle himself and just looked back at me, giving me a little wink. He asked if I wanted to do it for him and I said sure and reached over, but he pushed me away so I just laughed and went back to the movie.

Later I started to doze off a little. When he noticed, he reached over and started rubbing my chest and said "you sleeping baby?". I stirred a bit, petted his head quick and said I was awake.

Then I noticed he was laying with hos hand over his crotch again and I made a comment. He said something back and rolled onto his side, facing me with his hands free of his junk. I reached down and did a quick light 'pinch' kind of a grab at his cock. He didn't say anything, but I was afraid to touch any more. I figured this would send a pretty clear message.

The movie ends and we both stir a little, petting each other on the head and stupid shit like that, and he tells me he has to go to bed so I should go. He layed on his side kinda curled up and I sat against him and played with his hair some more while we talked a bit. As the talking ceased, I guess I was just staring at him. He said "man, I'm starting to think you really are gay". At wich point I SHOULD have said or done something clever, but I didn't.

I'm such a schmuck.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>At wich point I SHOULD have said or done something clever, but I didn't.

Yes.

Lex

 

[Jerry]

I know, I know. I just freeze up at the exact wrong friggin' time and screw it up.
I've never done this before. The only other time I was with a guy we both knew already, since we met online. So that was taken car of.

Damn.

But why did he push me away when he offered to let me "scratch" him?
I mean come on, I did better this time than I had in the past, and still got nothing. This dude needs to meet me in the middle or something.

 

[Jerry]

So I've been here thinking about this, and I came up with a thought.
This dude thinks I have money. I mean, I have nice things and I'm much more stable than he is.

So maybe he's just doing what he thinks I want so I'll give him things.
I've lent him some things and I've let him drive my car a few times, but I don't really give him anything. I bought him a 6 pack last week, but I do that for my friends all the time, it's no big deal.

I don't know, I'm just starting to think I've been dumb for thinking he wanted to get with me. There must be another reason for this.

 

[swarley]

I think you just need to give up or this guy is going to drive you crazy. Don't get so close to him any more and quit making any kind of body contact whatsoever. It will either make him drive at you harder (playing hard to get) or it'll make him stop too and then you don't have to think about it so hard because you shouldn't have to jump through this many hoops in order to find out if a guy likes you!