Is This Nice or Creepy?

[Pianist]

Could be worse. You could not get hit on at all.

 

[jamiejag88]

I was at Barkus, a dog parade in NOLA, and had a random hook up with a gay couple from NJ. I showed them around the city and we ended up back at their hotel. God, hotel sex is the best. And yes, they fucked me doggy style. While wearing a dog collar. While their poodles watched us fuck.

 

[windsors]

True story, Gmoney and Elvin took me to Swinging Richards in Atlanta. first time I went to a male strip club.
some guy came up to me and pinched my tit, and kept going, I hollered at him that I had something for him to suck, but he keep going.

Swerve and I had gone to Boxers-N- Briefs, I don't like it, It's not the same as Swinging Richards

 

[NotHardUp1]

Methinks there is a too-frequent use of "creepy" any time anyone feels uncomfortable and without any particular care to establish a pattern of creepy behavior. The use in this thread of stalkery is a prime example. A single contact with a person is almost by definition not possible to be stalking as the meaning is a persistent pursuit of someone. Once upon a time, a surprise like this would have simply been romantically referred to as a secret admirer. Now, thanks to tons of shit scare-cinema and trash news, anyone who approaches a stranger is automatically serial killer material. Total bullshit.

 

[TickTockMan]

Methinks there is a too-frequent use of "creepy" any time anyone feels uncomfortable and without any particular care to establish a pattern of creepy behavior. The use in this thread of stalkery is a prime example. A single contact with a person is almost by definition not possible to be stalking as the meaning is a persistent pursuit of someone. Once upon a time, a surprise like this would have simply been romantically referred to as a secret admirer. Now, thanks to tons of shit scare-cinema and trash news, anyone who approaches a stranger is automatically serial killer material. Total bullshit.

I don't care about the wanting to kiss part, but yes, saying "I love you" to someone he doesn't know was creepy to me. I don't think he even knew what I looked like since he was behind me until he gave me the note.

 

[NotHardUp1]

That is my point. Creepy has been an induced perspective by our modern society, not so much because very many people are actually creepy, but because we have been conditioned by media hype and entertainment that focuses on serial killers and other rarities.

Julie Christie's character (Bathsheba) in Far From the Madding Crowd scribbled a hasty valentine to her crabby old neighbor and wrote "Marry Me" which set in motion tragic events; however, it wasn't creepy, merely whimsical and careless.

I have no idea what the character of the man you attracted was, but the point is, you don't either, and you have precious little to mar him as a looney. Granted, you have every right to feel threatened or just plain shy, but he has every right to view you in an equally peculiar light for not taking up the chance to at least chat. Strangers are always strange until we meet them.

 

[TickTockMan]

I have no idea what the character of the man you attracted was, but the point is, you don't either, and you have precious little to mar him as a looney.

I'm not thinking anything about him. Just that saying "I love you" to someone he doesn't know was a bit odd.

 

[NotHardUp1]

And I'm just saying that is perspective, not objective. An intern who worked here and now is employed in Denver gave out roses to women (some old enough to be grandmothers) on St. Valentine's Day at the Denver Metro station. It was random.

Some people like that boldness and cheek -- others fear it. It isn't any universal standard.

"Love at first sight" used to be a literary theme. It doesn't have to become a sign of mental illness now.

 

[TickTockMan]

And I'm just saying that is perspective, not objective. An intern who worked here and now is employed in Denver gave out roses to women (some old enough to be grandmothers) on St. Valentine's Day at the Denver Metro station. It was random.

Some people like that boldness and cheek -- others fear it. It isn't any universal standard.

"Love at first sight" used to be a literary theme. It doesn't have to become a sign of mental illness now.

You are reading too much into it. I am saying what he did was creepy, not him. Also I never said the man has mental issues just because he wrote me an off the wall note while he was drunk.

 

[nyctopgam]

I'd have drawn another pair of kips on his drawing

 

[Willie Boy]

And I'm just saying that is perspective, not objective. An intern who worked here and now is employed in Denver gave out roses to women (some old enough to be grandmothers) on St. Valentine's Day at the Denver Metro station. It was random.

That's comparing apples to oranges. In you analogy you have one person offering an act to many, out of kindness/respect..... in the OP we see one person throwing out a sexual lust at one individual, a complete stranger..... The two do not compare.

 

[NotHardUp1]

Actually, I can and did compare them, as they both were spontaneous acts of love. As I said, it is all perspective. You can make anyone into a weirdo by your treatment of them and their acts.

And sorry, but a creep and a creepy act are indeed the same. There is no parsing the two.

 

[Willie Boy]

Actually, I can and did compare them, as they both were spontaneous acts of love. As I said, it is all perspective. You can make anyone into a weirdo by your treatment of them and their acts.

No you didn't compare them, as they are not comparable. You foolishly attempted to compare an act of respect and an act of creepiness by erroneously attempting to brand both as love. there was no love in the OP. As was stated the creeper in the OP had neither met nor actually seen the OP, didn't know the first thing about them.... it would be like you picking an address at random and sending that resident a note saying you loved them. That is an equitable comparison. And likely a private investigator would attempt to trace the note back to its source, and to keep the comparison equal you would have put your own return address on the note prior to mailing it. You would easily be discovered and would possibly be visited by police officers as they attempted to assess any potential danger you may pose to the random recipient of your note. Granted the analogy is not perfect, as it assumes a greater distance between you and the victim of your creepiness than was apparent in the OP, but the type of activity is equal.

 

[TickTockMan]

And sorry, but a creep and a creepy act are indeed the same. There is no parsing the two.

I don't agree at all.


To me a "creep" is someone that does creepy things all the time. Anyone can and does do a creepy thing from time to time. To me what he did was creepy, but I make no judgement about the man being a creep at all.