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Is This Some Kind of Depression?

kyless85

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hey what's up, sorry to bother, but i've been thinking about this for a while, and i'm planning on going to a psychologist, i just wanna know if you think this could be a depression or something else, my symptoms have gotten worse every month, it all started a little over a year and a half ago, but it's getting more extreme.

Lack of motivation to do everything, from going to the gym or to school, to doing things I enjoyed doing before.

I can't concentrate at all.. ever, not even during conversations

Insomnia

My memory is deteriorating

Loss of sex drive, i still get a boner, but i'm just not there

Get tired of things extremely fast, including people, (university) majors, places...

My grades are steadily going down, and the same amount of effort i had to put in before gets me only halfway

I really like going out, but sometimes i'd just rather stay home (i used to be a party animal before)

Whenever i think of a job, i think to myself "i wouldn't be able to do this" or "i would hate doing this"

What's going on? If anyone's a psychologist some help would be greatly appreciated, I honestly feel as if i can't stop this by myself anymore. I used to be happy all the time, and right now i seem very happy, and my life, from an external point of view, is better than it has ever been. And just for reference i'm actually a handsome guy, with a very good economical situation, with very steady friends, and i get a lot of attention from the ladies (i enjoy it). I'm still in the closet, but I honestly don't think it's got to do with that, cause it's not really a problem with me, i'm happy in that regard. I don't cry about this, nor do i lock myself in a room, but i know being in a depression doesn't necessarily mean being sad all the time.

Help! :(
Thanks
 
Not being a psychologist or a psychiatrist, I can't make any pronouncements. That being said, however, what you're going through certainly sounds like what I went through many years ago. Your idea of seeking professional help is spot-on. The only advice I can offer is DON'T WAIT.
 
Also keep in mind that you won't necessarily hit it off with the first therapist you see. It may take several tries before you find one you like. PLEASE DO NOT let the first few discourage you in continuing to seek help. It is worth it seriously.

One question, do you have anxiety or phobias too? google symptoms of anxiety.
 
Sounds a lot like depression that I've gone thru. A psychologist should be of great help to you. A phychiatrist may prove to be needed at some point if things don't improve.
 
Nobody can diagnosis you based on your post. There are many things that could account for your issues. While depression is definitely a possibility, there could also be physical issues involved. Your first step should be to schedule a physical with your family doctor. Work with your doctor to figure things out.
 
What backpacker said.

While a lot of your symptoms could be related to depression, they could also have a physiological cause. See your doctor first and at least you will get a referral to a decent psychiatrist, if that's what it turns out to be.
 
Sounds like anxiety rather than depression. Have you been under a lot of stress or pressure lately?
 
Anxiety or depression....you've got it. Almost everything you mention indicates that you need some help.

First see your family doc and get a check-up. You may have a root physical cause for your dysfunction.

Now, in the meantime. Give up all foods with msg and high fructose corn syrup in them. Load up on B12 and vitamin D.
Make yourself go outside and get an hour of exercise each day.

But I think you need a serotonin re-uptake inhibitor.

Once you start to get a real night's sleep, you'll start to feel like a functional human again.

If there are issues that you think need to be talked through with a counsellor, search out a good gay friendly therapist.
 
thanks everyone for your comments, it's good to know that at least i'm not a weird isolated case, and some people have been through this i'm going through (although i wouldn't wish it on anyone).. i'll let you know what happens from here, right know i'm gonna start looking for some kind of specialist that can help me solve this situation, thanks again
 
One of the first questions a doctor will often ask in trying to diagnose whether or not someone is suffering from depression is how long it has been going on. Two consecutive weeks and beyond is often held to be a mark for concern. When considering whether or not someone is in a downward spiral, some of the later stages involve expecting failure before beginning a task, paralysis of will (severe lack of motivation) and isolation.

Be sure to be completely open and honest with how bad it has gotten for you when you start working with a therapist. If you go to a psychologist, just know they are not able in most cases to prescribe medication, so you will most likely be referred to either a psychiatrist or a general physician if medical treatment is necessary.
 
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