It happened again

[schatzeboppes]

Yes it’s very true.
Yesterday, one of my good friends admitted to having ‘a thing’ for me, as he said it. Well, here’s the issue, I’ve known this dude for quite a long time and all along I thought he was straight…and that bothers me, idk why.
It’s like, I’ve established him as being straight, and now that he has a ‘thing’ for me it’s kind of weird…
This isn’t the first time that it’s happened before, and all the times that it has happened I’ve gotten the same weird feeling. Most of the time I ended up not wanting to be around those people, why is that?
Well my explanation is: I'm just weird like that.

 

[swerve]

I've had that happen...

In one similar instance it was back in HS...

I figured...

WHY NOT???

So -- we sucked each other off...

Lost touch...

Several years later ran into each other at a club and did the same thing...

Haven't talked to him since...

Just a small part of my sordid past...

I would say do whatever YOU feel like doing...

Back then I was horny 24/7 so...

 

[RRRalph]

You have always seen him in a certain way: straight, but that isn't the right one anymore. You need time to change your view of him. Take your time and when you feel comfortable - go for it.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Dude,

Everyone is a bit weird now and then, I'd say.

If you feel like shagging the dude, there you go.

If you don't...well, you don't. Move on. Nothing to worry about one way or the other.

SC

 

[WYSIWYG]

Well you bi right? Did he have any clue that your bi? or might want to be with another guy? Have you told him?

I agree, just because you have seen him in one way, does not mean you can't see him in another. Hang out with him and talk about it...never know what can happen.

When I first saw my bf's profile online, I read what he had to say, then sent him an email. He responded and asked me to call him. I thought about it and decided to go for it! Was the best thing that ever happened to the both of us! So go for it!

 

[KentuckyPython]

Are you into him?

 

[hermanding]

if y ou find him attractive, don't say no
ding

 

[schatzeboppes]

Well you bi right? Did he have any clue that your bi? or might want to be with another guy? Have you told him?

I agree, just because you have seen him in one way, does not mean you can't see him in another. Hang out with him and talk about it...never know what can happen.

When I first saw my bf's profile online, I read what he had to say, then sent him an email. He responded and asked me to call him. I thought about it and decided to go for it! Was the best thing that ever happened to the both of us! So go for it!

Yeah he knows I'm bi, he's known ever since we were in high school and he seemed pretty optimistic about it.

 

[schatzeboppes]

Are you into him?

Well - no. I'm not into him that way. All this time i've seen him as a friend and nothing more, i dont fantasize about my male friends...

And besides, as somone recently told me:

"guys and girls come and go,
friends are forever"

i dont want to fuck up our friendship

 

[RedRooster]

I'm guessing it took a lot of courage on his part to come out to you, let's face it no one wants to feel rejected; all of us know what that feels like.

From what you wrote I have a funny feeling he looks up to you and admires your openess, he most likely feels safe with you. I wouldn't just walk away and ignore him, that might really mess with his head. Get together with him and talk openly about your confussion and ask him what he wants and expects from you and vise versa.

Does that make sense to you?

 

[blackbeltninja]

Well - no. I'm not into him that way. All this time i've seen him as a friend and nothing more, i dont fantasize about my male friends...

And besides, as somone recently told me:

"guys and girls come and go,
friends are forever"

i dont want to fuck up our friendship

I think there's your answer right there. I am the king of "rather being friends than failed lovers," with both my guy and girl friends.

Of course, while it is the right decision (in my opinion, anyway), there's no second prize for making it and passing up a chance for what might turn out to be a relationship which lasts forever. You'll never know until you try; but you'll also never know how much you'll lose until you try, and lose.

Catch-22, anyone?

Good luck...
-d-

 

[RRRalph]

Somone recently told me:
"guys and girls come and go, friends are forever"

Let me tell you what i've said more.

Schatzeboppes asked me what i would do. I projected this thing to my situation. What would i do if one of my best friend would fall for me? It would be really weird, cuz i don't have sexual feelings for my best friends and i would question myself what would happen when we start to have something and it wouldn't work after a while. We wouldn't be the bestes buddies as we were before and i really don't want to loose a good friendship for anything. Guys and girls come and go, but friends are forever. So i have change my mind about my first comment on this subject. You shouldn't risk loosing a good friend.

 

[schatzeboppes]

I think there's your answer right there. I am the king of "rather being friends than failed lovers," with both my guy and girl friends.

Of course, while it is the right decision (in my opinion, anyway), there's no second prize for making it and passing up a chance for what might turn out to be a relationship which lasts forever. You'll never know until you try; but you'll also never know how much you'll lose until you try, and lose.

Catch-22, anyone?

Good luck...
-d-

oh great now im very confused. i wasnt before but now i am. you raise a very interesting point however so does rrralph...

so yeah.