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It's my birthday/I'm lonely.

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Hey guys, it's my 38th birthday today, I've woke up with no messages or cards to open. In general I'm lonely, but today feels worse.

Any tips on not feeling lonely, to be OK with being alone/enjoying my own company?

I'm fit, so I could join a running club, it's been so long alone, Idk how to make friends without being awkward though.
 
Happy birthday! I hope you can treat yourself today, do something you like, no chores!
Joining a running club sounds like a really good idea. Do it!
 
Happy birthday!
This will be a great year..
Go be friendly and when the opportunity presents itself, ask someone if they want to grab coffee or a bit to eat.

Better yet, go volunteer your time at a food bank or senior place, seniors are always lonely.
 
I knew a guy who moved to another state and started playing sports, and he made new friends instantly.

I think with covid and everything, people is not as social as they used to be.
 
Thanks guys, it's nice to see birthday wishes. Thank you. Yeah I will look online for volunteering opportunities.
 
mendesbooty said:
Hey guys, it's my 38th birthday today, I've woke up with no messages or cards to open. In general I'm lonely, but today feels worse.
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Happy birthday.

mendesbooty said:
...it's been so long alone, Idk how to make friends without being awkward though.
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Put yourself out there. Meet people. Be the friend that you would want to have.
 
mendesbooty said:
Hey guys, it's my 38th birthday today, I've woke up with no messages or cards to open. In general I'm lonely, but today feels worse.

Any tips on not feeling lonely, to be OK with being alone/enjoying my own company?

I'm fit, so I could join a running club, it's been so long alone, Idk how to make friends without being awkward though.
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Happy birthday!

I know how it can be, in the modern age when we're more "connected" than ever before, we can also feel more isolated.

As others have said - and I'll say it too, at risk of repeating but I wanted to chime in and wish you well - hopefully you can get involved more in your local community, and friendships will happen. Sports clubs - you're a runner - what a great way to get to meet other people. You don't need to have face to face conversations and fear awkward silences while you're running. You can figure out who might be your type of people, and have a coffee or whatever afterwards. In sports groups you can be the quiet one until you feel comfortable fitting in. Try not to stress about feeling awkward.

Volunteering - as bi1one said, many community groups are looking for people to help out. Helping others is a great way to take your mind off yourself, and to meet other people.

I hope you can treat yourself today, and feel good knowing that there's a great future ahead for you.
 
BiBtm64 said:
Happy birthday!

I know how it can be, in the modern age when we're more "connected" than ever before, we can also feel more isolated.

As others have said - and I'll say it too, at risk of repeating but I wanted to chime in and wish you well - hopefully you can get involved more in your local community, and friendships will happen. Sports clubs - you're a runner - what a great way to get to meet other people. You don't need to have face to face conversations and fear awkward silences while you're running. You can figure out who might be your type of people, and have a coffee or whatever afterwards. In sports groups you can be the quiet one until you feel comfortable fitting in. Try not to stress about feeling awkward.

Volunteering - as bi1one said, many community groups are looking for people to help out. Helping others is a great way to take your mind off yourself, and to meet other people.

I hope you can treat yourself today, and feel good knowing that there's a great future ahead for you.
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Volunteering is a great feeling, my wife and I spend 10-15 hours a week giving back to our community.
 
Happy Birthday!

I hope you find a way to connect with other people. You don't say where you're located, but it's a lot easier to make LGBTQ+ contacts if you live in urban America/Canada/Europe. There are a lot of clubs, venues, and opportunities to meet other people. I know that locally, there is a very active LGBTQ runner's club that meets every week.

But I realize there are many countries, communities, family situations, or even rural areas in the States, where making contacts can be very difficult if not impossible. You might have to rely on making contacts and using message boards online, at least at first, until you can find people in your area. But I understand that once you find a circle of friends, they can be a lifesaver, and become a refuge from all the people around you who just wouldn't understand. There is even a Member Appreciation & Chit-Chat forum on Just Us Boys, where there are about 20 regulars who write to each other about what their day's been like, and several more that drop in from time to time. Finding places like that online might help you get to at least have some familiarity with others, and help you not to feel so lonely.
 
HAPPY BIRTHDay You're an Aquarius , keep your chin up !
I'm turning 39 in a few months
When I was a kid they only celeberated my birthday once when I turned 8
...Anyway .I'm used to being a lonely person from early childhood , it hurts I know ... but you know I don't need anyone to enjoy my own company ( I feel I need somebody that's for sure ) but if there's nobody worth spending time with , enjoying yourself shouldn't be too hard .I even buy my own birthday cake or invite myself for a yummy dinner all by myself ( any day of the year ) In the old good times , I would travel all by myself to the big city to attend dance clubs .
You say you're fit , you can join a gym or a running club like you said , friendships will flow spontaneously , you dont have to force the birth of a friendship

I know it's easier said than done .I do feel lonely but you know why , the best company can be yourself ..you shoudl learn to enjoy your own company , it's not easy but it's quite possible if you make up your mind on enjoying life on your own

Aquarius are said to be free spirits , they love their freedom , be an aquarius don't let loneliness bring you down .
 
I hope you had a happy birthday despite the lonely feelings (*8*)

I agree with Frankie above.
I've suffered from loneliness a lot in the past.
I've come to accept that I'm not a very social person. Society hammers upon us the idea of being popular, having lots of friends and doing lots of things, but I'm not like this and definitely don't enjoy this lifestyle.

When you try to make friends, don't obsess about it, and don't demand too much of them. You don't need them to be with you all the time and do everything together (because that's not gonna happen, anyway). If you join that running club or any other activity, the good thing is you have a scheduled time every week where you know you're gonna spend time with people. You won't need to create the ocasion, the ocasion is there for you.
 
mendesbooty said:
Hey guys, it's my 38th birthday today, I've woke up with no messages or cards to open. In general I'm lonely, but today feels worse.

Any tips on not feeling lonely, to be OK with being alone/enjoying my own company?

I'm fit, so I could join a running club, it's been so long alone, Idk how to make friends without being awkward though.
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I hope you had a great birthday. Yes it’s OK to be alone. Sure having someone to share with is good. But, in the meantime enjoy yourself. Sometimes your own company is what the doctor ordered. I have a few favorite videos that are my go to videos when I know I’m going to be alone. Two hot guys doing everything I want to do. Then set up a long edging session. Make it last as long as you can. I can go a couple of hours and fantasizing and enjoying myself. Licking my precum and holding out till I can’t take it , then when I cum I treat myself by eating all my cum. I know having someone to share it with would be better, but at least you enjoyed yourself. It’s OK to enjoy your own company. Until you find that someone. It works for me. I’m looking though, because I’m going to be good when I have the opportunity. Good luck…
 
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