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It's Official! I no longer have a rectum (or an anus, or...)

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Several hopes for you:

1) you recover quickly and painlessly from the surgery

2) the cancer is now gone

3) you manage to enjoy a full and fruitful life from now on

4) you have a supportive partner or family or both

5) you maintain what seems to me to be an enormously positive and up-beat attitude

6) that you can always find a listening voice hear at JUB

I raise my hat to you - you are a brave man, with more trials than most of us can dream of.

love,
-T.
 
my goodness... i'm sorry that you had to endure this and for as long as you have. i really hope that this procedure has relieved you of your cancer.
 
You poor darling! They have been torturing you!

9 months ago they botched a simple surgery on me and I ended up with a scary bag strapped to my leg with chunks of decaying me dribbling into it for weeks. And 3 more procedures. It was not fun, but it was over after a few weeks. And I knew that it would be.

But you, my friend, have been to hell and back. I feel for you and commend you for sharing your story with us. I'm sending you a heartfelt hug (*8*) and sincere wishes that this procedure gives you the energy to live well at long last!
 
Big hugs.

My brother-in-law went through this last year.

I hope that every day finds you better and better.

You sound like a remarkable kind of guy.

Oh, and while you're away, the inmates are running the institution.

And they all have scissors.

Hurry back.
 
It's true that "CANCER SUCKS" (a friend gave me a coffee mug that has that on it when I was diagnosed with cancer a little over 2 years ago) and it isn't something you'd wish on even your worst enemy.

I made up my mind, and I'm sure you've done the same - judging from your post - that even though I couldn't change the cards that life had dealt me, I DID have a choice in how I was going to embrace the challenge. No doubt, there have been rough days, but I admire you. Keeping your sense of humor through something like this is important. It speaks volumes about what kind of person you are, too.

Keep up the good fight, my friend! (*8*) You're not alone in your battle, and together, with strength, we can overcome this challenge and life life to it's fullest!

(You wanna get together and compare scars???) :lol:
 
It sounds like you are a real fighter and will do what it takes to beat your challenges. Best wishes and lots of luck in the future! Lots of good energy coming at you. ;)
 
I said all I had to say in my pm to you. Just keep on doing what you have for the past 6 years.
 
Thank-you everyone for all your well wishes and support.

I entered the hospital on December 31st, had the surgery on the 9th (January), and was finallly released on the 18th.

I have to say- out of all my surgeries, this one was (is) the most painful, and difficult one to recover from. I've had a total of 10 surgeries (9 of them, I THINK, cutting into my abdomen). (And an appendectomy when I was like 15 where my appendix had already ruptured).

Anyway, just slight movement (let's say from the couch to the kitchen! lol)... tires the hell out of me. Heh.

I'll admit too- getting used to have a bag full of poo follow me around is quite hard to get used to, too. I have a home nurse coming over tomorrow to make sure I've been doing things right.

As far as my inmates- yup- they know what's going on. For many of them, I am the only person they see. (as far as relaxing/calming people to talk to). So, when I'm gone for a few days, they wonder what's up.

You know another really odd/funny feeling thing?
The sutures/stitches in my anal cavity! (Right where my asshole used to be).

It looks like a spikey black sea urchin sticking out of my ass!!! LMAO.
The surgeon, when sewing up my anus, used this really hard, stiff, black suture material. Hahahaha.
So, from a side view, there are all these black, spikey (and stiff!) things sticking out of my ass!! Hahahahaha.

(Sorry if my humor offends anyone- but its how I deal a LOT of "negative" things in my life. So, if my humor offends you, please stop reading. Obviously, we handle our issues VERY differently, and our methods are quite incompatible. )

Anyway, I haven't tried sex yet- but obviously, me being a bottom (and having anal sex) is quite impossible... unless I use the stoma. Hahahahaha!!!! Now THAT would be a sight to see!!

Since I'm mainly a bottom, I guess I'll stick to oral.... until I find some alternative to the anus. Heh.


Thanks again, everyone for all your support, questions, and thoughts. Please- KEEP THEM COMING!!! It's the only way to educate people on the issue!!
 
Your humor in no way offends me! I think it's great you have that as part of your personality. I imagine it's one reason you're still among us.

I consider myself pretty much a bottom too, so I can just imagine the adjustments you will have to make. Keep in mind, sex isn't all about anal. I bet you can still (once recovered) find many things to make sex satisfying.

I hope you telling your story gets others to have the check-ups needed to prevent what might otherwise prove to be fatal. I see you as an inspiration to all of us who fret over much less in life.
 
i think your humor over all this is fantastic!

it tells me that you are a survivor.

you keep at it mister. :)
 
Its AMAZING that youre not letting this obstacle get you down.. I wish you the best and I know things will get better for you everyday..promise. :]
-Sky
 
Paathogen said:
Thank-you everyone for all your well wishes and support.

I entered the hospital on December 31st, had the surgery on the 9th (January), and was finallly released on the 18th.

I have to say- out of all my surgeries, this one was (is) the most painful, and difficult one to recover from. I've had a total of 10 surgeries (9 of them, I THINK, cutting into my abdomen). (And an appendectomy when I was like 15 where my appendix had already ruptured).

Anyway, just slight movement (let's say from the couch to the kitchen! lol)... tires the hell out of me. Heh.

I'll admit too- getting used to have a bag full of poo follow me around is quite hard to get used to, too. I have a home nurse coming over tomorrow to make sure I've been doing things right.

As far as my inmates- yup- they know what's going on. For many of them, I am the only person they see. (as far as relaxing/calming people to talk to). So, when I'm gone for a few days, they wonder what's up.

You know another really odd/funny feeling thing?
The sutures/stitches in my anal cavity! (Right where my asshole used to be).

It looks like a spikey black sea urchin sticking out of my ass!!! LMAO.
The surgeon, when sewing up my anus, used this really hard, stiff, black suture material. Hahahaha.
So, from a side view, there are all these black, spikey (and stiff!) things sticking out of my ass!! Hahahahaha.

(Sorry if my humor offends anyone- but its how I deal a LOT of "negative" things in my life. So, if my humor offends you, please stop reading. Obviously, we handle our issues VERY differently, and our methods are quite incompatible. )

Anyway, I haven't tried sex yet- but obviously, me being a bottom (and having anal sex) is quite impossible... unless I use the stoma. Hahahahaha!!!! Now THAT would be a sight to see!!

Since I'm mainly a bottom, I guess I'll stick to oral.... until I find some alternative to the anus. Heh.


Thanks again, everyone for all your support, questions, and thoughts. Please- KEEP THEM COMING!!! It's the only way to educate people on the issue!!
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GOOD ONYA! On a positive note as far as sex, have you ever thought of becoming a top dude? :sex:
 
Blakiepoo said:
lol! ^

I wonder if the stoma works as a sexual receptacle...


To answer one of the questions...

Stage 1 is the first stage, Stage 4 is the last and most advanced stage. It means the cancer has spread to the lymph nodes and has gotten to other parts of the body. So it's pretty damn hard to remove it all at that point. You can snip out the most problemed areas sometimes though, and that helps out with some problems.

Oh, and if I understand correctly, the large intestine doesnt' have much "food" in it; it has been mostly digested by that time, but it's not formed into solid poops. I think the water comes out of it in the large intestine and when it's ready to go, it drops down into the rectum.

So when you get rid of your bumhole, they redirect your large intestine to a port on the outside of your body (called a Stoma) and it comes out into handy poobags!

My question is... Are the poobags transparent?

Paathogen is teh best! He's like the Rocky of Cancer.
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Blakie EE POO... did I ever mention that you're the bestest buddy a person ever had?

The "Rocky" of Cancer? Hahahaha. Cute.

I tend to think of myself more of the "Rodent" of cancer, rather than Rocky! Hahahaha! Cause I look more like a chipmunk than Stallone!

Anyway, you're right about the function of the large intestine. It mainly handles the extraction of water (and some other nutrients, I assume) from waste. But I'm not a medical doctor... so I'm not too sure.

My Stoma is so alien looking!!!
First, You know what it looks like? It looks like someone flung a piece of pink shrimp at me (while it is still curled) and stuck to my side! Hahahaha!)

In fact, when I press on it, it's all soft and warm. Kind gross...... but it gives me an odd craving for mushrooms. LMAO.


Blakie, if you (or anyone) wants a picture of my stoma, PM me! I'm more than happy to take one! (I would, of course, clean it off first.). And don't worry- I WILL NOT post the picture in the forums, as it might make some sick. Not sure.


Anyway, thanks for your continued love, Mr. EEPOO. You're always so freakin' cuddly!
 
*squirms with warm fuzziness!*

craving for mushrooms? that's kind of bizarre!

Maybe you're the Rocky of cancer of ferrets. (A ferret who of all of the ferrets is most like the Rocky of cancer). Just stay out of my boxers while I sleep, you strange creature!

As for alternates to anal sex. I've heard of armpit and inner-elbow fucking. I talked to a straight guy once who wanted to try it with his girlfriend. Or there's also fucking through the thighs, just lift up your ball sack. Hmmm maybe neck/shoulder fucking?
Odd positions are HOT.
 
Jesus Christ, you're too young to have this happening to you - this is truly frightening.

Whenever I have been involved in APRs, it has been on people over 60. The youngest that I saw was 52. Out of curiosity, do you have a genetic disposition to bowel cancer (FAP or HNPPC) or are you just unlucky (for want of a better word)?

Good luck with the further treatment.
 
Hugs, stay strong buddy. we're all here for you!
 
I hope the love being offered to you helps you.

You are part of the JUB family - which is very important to many of us. Please keep in touch when you are able.

God Bless you.
 
Paathogen -- your humor and outlook, I am sure, is why you are still fighting. And yes, I believe you are more Rockie than....well than Rockie! Hell, all he did was throw some punches; you've had to roll with them!

Having lost both my parents, two brothers-in-law, grandfather, a sister and brother to cancer....I only know what you are going through as a survivor, not a patient.

During some of their hospitalizations and treatment we had some crude humor times; some people couldn't believe the things we would say. But then, sometimes it's better to laugh than to cry! Just try not to laugh to much right now or that shrimp might just spit into that bag!

And just think how much you'll be saving on toilet paper!
 
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