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It's Official!

I use partnered, but have thought about changing it to dating because it's not quite serious enough for the partner moniker. In the end, I decided to keep it partnered because I'm not dating anyone but my bf and I wanted to show that he and I are exclusive.
 
Congratulations, Mikey.
I hope all goes well.

The fact that you've taken two years to get to know him in a more casual manner speaks well.
 
MikeyLove said:
Hey Guys, a bit of a follow up! We are hitting a brick wall with his Mom, and yes, he lives at home with his Mother, and he's actually 30 years old. His Mom found out about us, how we met, the whole shebang, and now she forbids him from seeing me. I am heartbroken over this. She fears that her son will get HIV/AIDS, even with all the knowledge available, she still fears. The idea of Condoms goes in one ear and out the other. She knows her son is Gay before he met me. What can we do to over come this obstacle in the early part of our relationship. We are actually thinking about sneaking around. He can't afford to leave home, and I'm stuck with a rule from the person I rent the back house from- She says that he can only come over once in awhile. I can't even afford to move elsewhere.
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well no offense but, tell him to get off his ass and out of his mom's house, lol.

30 is too old to still be living with your mom.
 
MikeyLove said:
Hey Guys, a bit of a follow up! We are hitting a brick wall with his Mom, and yes, he lives at home with his Mother, and he's actually 30 years old. His Mom found out about us, how we met, the whole shebang, and now she forbids him from seeing me. I am heartbroken over this. She fears that her son will get HIV/AIDS, even with all the knowledge available, she still fears. The idea of Condoms goes in one ear and out the other. She knows her son is Gay before he met me. What can we do to over come this obstacle in the early part of our relationship. We are actually thinking about sneaking around. He can't afford to leave home, and I'm stuck with a rule from the person I rent the back house from- She says that he can only come over once in awhile. I can't even afford to move elsewhere.
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Sneaking around will definitely put a strain on the relationship. Why does his mom have such a hold on him at 30? Does he work or go to college?
 
MikeyLove said:
You are very harsh, did you even read the entire thing I wrote?
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Yes, and I don't see where you put why he cannot afford to leave home. Does he have a job? Or is he looking for one? Could he get a roommate or stay with a friend?

I think someone that is still living at home at age 30 probably needs a serious reality check and some motivation to move out. Perhaps you could provide that motivation. :)
 
MikeyLove said:
He works, but isn't making enough money, and therefore he's not able to move out. He has a handicap that is barely noticable, but is normal every other way. She fears that her Son will get AIDS, etc. as I already mentioned. She seems to be set in her ways, etc. She is being overly protective of her Son.
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Mikey, just be careful because if he's not willing to stand up to his mom that can be indicative of other issues.

I had a similar situation happen when I was 18 with my ex. My mom didn't want me seeing an older man because I'd had a history of trying to contact them when I was under 18 and when she found out about my ex and I she said it's either "him or me" and I chose him. He was able to support me while I transferred schools, which helped. However, the lack of acceptance from my family was always a sticking point in the relationship. We broke up due to incompatibility, but I don't think the strain of my mom's disapproval helped.

Now, I'm 25 and have graduated from college, but I lost my job and have been contemplating a move to Boston to be with my current older bf. I have familial support now as far as the relationship goes. I'm dealing with some depression and a lot of overanalyzing, which is causing me to not get a lot done on the job front. However, I don't have any bills and it makes it harder for me to want to move out. I'm used to living relatively comfortable. I think this makes my bf less willing to go to the next step in our relationship and I can understand that.

I also have a slight disability, which causes a limp and limited flexibility. However, it's not the disability that is holding me back it's my over analyzing and spoiled nature.
 
MikeyLove said:
He works, but isn't making enough money, and therefore he's not able to move out. He has a handicap that is barely noticable, but is normal every other way. She fears that her Son will get AIDS, etc. as I already mentioned. She seems to be set in her ways, etc. She is being overly protective of her Son.
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Ok, I hadn't seen this prior to my last reply.

Can he work additional hours to make more money? Or perhaps search for another job?

If he works and does make some money, maybe he could get a roommate or you could move in together to help share the costs.

It seems like if he really wanted to there is room to work with that situation if living at home becomes too much of a problem.
 
Well as long as you're both happy with where it's at MikeyLove and you don't have expectations that it's going to change in the foreseeable future, you should stick with it.

It's hardly an ideal situation though and I think you'll have some problems in the long-term if nothing changes. Sometimes external pressures can have an impact on the relationship.
 
I just don't know how comfortable I'd feel about having to get his mom's approval when he's 30 years old. I'm glad you had a good time though.
 
Being in a relationship with someone you met two years ago means that you can decide whether you both want to have sex together without any advice from his mother.

Good luck :) Stick by each other, and enjoy the time you have together. :)
 
MikeyLove said:
Well, at least it made me feel like a teenager/young at heart all over again, even though I never dated till 2008, and I think that it may be better to get on her good side concerning her Son, as she is also afraid that people will take advantage of him, and I am not that kind of person who will take advantage of anyone.
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She needs to get over that fear and he needs to help facilitate that change.

I totally agree with bankside on this. It's been 2 years. How serious have you been since you've known each other?
 
Good luck. I hope she can come to understand the truth and leave her groundless fears behind.
 
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