I've got a slight problem.

[Lunchbox]

Well, this is gonna prolly sound a little disturbing, but...Sometimes I go online and pretend to be a girl. I'm quite clearly not, I'm bisexual and slowly starting to explore more and more venues of homosexuality. Well, I found this guy while I was acting as a girl, and we've been talking for quite a while now. I've told him the entire truth about me, except for actually being a guy...I really enjoy talking to him and I don't really think I have a homosexual crush on him, but more of a just really good friendship. I've been wondering if I should tell him, or just let this masquerade continue on, because I'm afraid that I won't get to talk to him anymore, and he's really helped me a lot over the last month. I know I shouldn't have fucked up from the start, but I'm trying to find the best way to fix things as best as possible. Any suggestions would be greatly appriciated. Thank you!

 

[metta]

you started on a lie....I don't see how that is going to work...playing mind games with someone....not good at all.

The only thing that you may want to try is create a new profile as a male and start over as a guy and see if that works.

 

[Dave_83]

Common Sense. END IT. What good is it to tell him?!?!

 

[Lunchbox]

I don't want to end it, because I really really connect with him and I've been totally honest about myself, except the gender. That's the only lie that's been told. Other than that, I'm completely honest, and I really like talking with him.

 

[Legend500]

"except the gender" that's a great biggie for straight men. Any idea if the poor schmuck is "into" you as a cool girl?

Bad news. Eject now. This stuff ends up badly any way you cut it.

 

[Smitho]

I think you need to end it, you may be really getting on, and feel you have been honest, but sorry to say you just haven't been honest, lieing about your sex is a grade A lie! I understand people lie on the internet all the time, but if I was chatting with someone and he suddenly said I'm actually a girl, I would just think weirdo, and thats what hes going to think to. No matter how well we were getting on.

 

[cocktales]

Man!

What is wrong with you?

Why did you start this masquerade??

You must know that a lie will ALWAYS come back to bite you in the ass!

Now, you want advise to get out of this fuck-up that you've created because you really, really like the guy........

Well whoop-de-do and all that!

I'm sorry that I am coming across so crass with you; but clearly you deserve all the ire that we can bestow upon you.......

Sorry....

So, do you come clean and break his heart and he will clearly hate you and run as fast as he can the other way.....

or....

Do you just drop outta site and let the act disappear with you ......

and....

You come back as yourself and try to be-friend him this away as yourself without any lies and deception???

Your choice, of course.........and I hope you choose wisely this time my friend!

 

[just_mills]

If you're wanting to "carry on", I think you should set it straight, and tell him what's up..
Just think what personal/honest information he has told you, in trust!
Not having a dig at you, but that's not a nice thing, tagging someone along, who thinks you're someone who, to be honest, let's face it.. you're not!

 

[Soilwork]

heehee.

you know, all of my straight friends go on and on about the hot girls they meet on the internet, and they don't believe me that 90% of them are gay men pretending to be girls.

Sorry, maybe the stereotype of the lying, manipulative bisexual man playing with the emotions of others isn't really fair... but you sure do personify it.

Just cut it off.. end it.. don't tell the guy.. just let him think "she" disappeared.

And go make some friends in real life, for crying out loud.

 

[1st love ron]

How far are you going to carry this? What if he wants to meet you? Then what?
What if he wants your pic? What if he wants to call you?

 

[elmysterio]

stop the lies, end it, move on, and what ever you do never ever do it again. you say you care for this person but have lied and manipulated them from the start. If you really care for them end it don't try to be their friend because the truth will come out anbd they will not be happy. you lied and this could get ugly. get out now.

 

[VICTORIADON]

JESUS CHRIST! I thought you just bought that webcam! What make is it? Maybe check the settings or turn on the lights! Wholly crap.

 

[star-warrior]

Tell him you've got great news, and are getting married to a Czech businessman with loadsamoney, so he can't possibly compete ever, and tonight's your last night with him, and thank him for the memories.

Then start again as a guy and hopefully you'll meet someone else who is as good.

 

[gsdx]

I don't want to end it, because I really really connect with him and I've been totally honest about myself, except the gender. That's the only lie that's been told. Other than that, I'm completely honest, and I really like talking with him.

Whether or not you connect with him, you have lied to him in the most important way. All your other honesty won't mean crap to him if you tell him you're a guy. Continue the masquerade if you wish, but I wouldn't ever tell him you're a man if I were you.

I agree with Metta. Create a male profile and try it that way as well, but don't tell him of the dual identity.

 

[Christopher123]

I agree with the others. Either tell him or cut it off. Don't lead somebody on like that, man. What if he starts having real feelings for you? Don't you think that's a little cruel?

For crying out loud, don't let it continue. You have to take your chance as to whether or not he'll talk to you after you tell him you're a guy. Most likely he'll tell you to piss off.

Be straight up with him now or cut if off somehow.