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i've got issues

xic55401 said:
still, scary stuff for me :\
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Baby steps xic55401, baby steps!! And ones you can feel really proud of! I'm sure that took a lot and you handled it brilliantly.

The important thing is that you also realized no one judged you or stared or made you feel lesser... and for you not to have been so self conscious and frozen with fear is huge!!!

And your decision to go the therapy is also a brave one... you have come a long way in such a short time! Great stuff xic55401! I hope you feel really really proud!
 
thanks, tallguy. I am really proud of my self, actually...
are all the australian dudes as nice as you are? if so, i am moving there....
 
Hey, xic. Sorry I didn't get in on this discussion early on (I was on vacation), but it looks like you're getting some good advice. And it looks like you're making some good steps forward.

You don't need to come up with excuses as to why you're in places like gay bookstores or gay coffeeshops. Remember, if anyone you know sees you there, THEY'RE THERE, TOO! If you need an excuse, they'll need one, too. :) And there's no excuse like the truth. "I wanted to try this place out."

Most of us had the panicked thoughts - our friends will leave us, everyone will "know", nobody will treat us the same once they find out. But honestly, most of the people closest to us just want us to be happy, and most of the rest of them couldn't give a rats ass if we're gay or not. Yes, you'll probably run into a couple people who might feel differently about you afterwards. It happens. Assume it'll happen, and don't let it get you down when it does.

And never fear - you've got quite a support network here on JUB. ..|

Lex
 
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i am afraid to go to one of these places and know someone who is totally out who has no idea that i am in the closet, etc.

this website is so awesome... i wish it could reach to everyone who is in the same situation i am right now.... it took me years to find it.
 
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