I've no idea if I'm bi or not. Help.

[leladax]

So I always assumed I'm straight because I found big hairy men repulsive. But then I realized I may be more into less hairy and smaller men. But then, I still like cute girls and usually more than men, and certainly more than big hairy ones. But then again, 'cuter' boys may still look attractive.

(It could still be a 'antisocial' complex or a 'curiousness' complex, no idea (and smaller unhairy men reminding of women))

weird, confused.

So, I tend to say to myself "I'm 2% gay", but no idea what's going on

 

[Halifaxboy8]

There are many types of people out there, body types included. Some are big and hairy, as you mentioned, and there are a lot of others that fill out the rest of the spectrum. Being attracted to someone that is of the same sex does not necessarily mean you are gay or even bi. It just means you can appreciate someone who is physically attractive to you.

There is a scale of sexuality out there, done by Kinsey. Its a more realistic idea of human sexuality, and less black and white than what general society would have us subscribe to. "Gay", "straight", and "bi" are really rough labels. There is a lot of gray.

So, you like guys with a certain body type. Is it an admiration type thing, as in, "Hey, he's a good looking guy" and that's as far as it goes? Or, is there that, as well as that inner gut feeling of more than a casual attraction?

Whatever you are feeling, its all good. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to the same sex, at all.

 

[Seasoned]

You may not be straight if certain types of guys give you a boner.

 

[Dodger712]

Gay, straight, bi... they are all just labels. Labels tend to shove one into a catagory and limit you. Instead of having to catagorize yourself, lets just say you are a sexual being and are more attracted to women but find some men, a certain type, also attractive. The thing I love about the Kinsey scale is the "shades of grey" in it. Too many straight men feel that things have to be cut and dried/black and white/ either this OR this. The scale recognizes that human sexuality is not necessarily "fixed" and rigid but changing and flowing. I know plenty of people who are willing to label themselves for the convenience of others but float free sexually. ex- I have been with two women and have two children by one of them. That relationship began in High School and continued, off and on, for over 10 years for brief interludes. The other lasted for about a year. BUT I do not consider nor call myself "bisexual" because I know where my TRUE feelings and preferences lie. I self identify as a gay man. i am no more "bisexual" than a guy who mostly has sex with women but occasionally will accept a blow job from another guy or will "mess around" with another guy. They would say they are straight but get off with another dude on occasion. Just go with your attraction and screw having to label yourself for the comfort of others. And yes I know other men who identify as gay who have had relationships with women as well as women who have had relationships with men but identify as lesbian. Find your "shade of grey" and go from there (even though that is sort of labeling yourself but at least it is less restrictive than the gay/straight/bi route). Play safe and have fun.

 

[subobj]

Yeah, don't be too quick to pick a label. Sexuality can be way more fluid than whatever labels are available.

Just try to enjoy the genders/types you're attracted to, and don't worry too much about what it all "means."

 

[KaraBulut]

Here's the deal: if someone were to ask you if you liked alligator steak, you'd probably say, "I'm not sure, I've never tried it". You wouldn't say, "I don't like reptiles because they're green and scaly and a alligator is a reptile, so I must not like alligator steaks".

So, you're here worrying about whether you might like guys, well... some guys... and desperately trying to find a way out by finding guys that you're not attracted to, so that you can say, "Well, I don't find all guys attractive".

The fact that you're asking this question on JustUsBoys, the largest gay porn website, is probably an indication that there's something going on. Maybe it's time that you try to figure out what that something is.

 

[Nomenclature]

I know a bi guy who's only attracted to twinkish feminine boys with no muscle mass and long hair.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>So I always assumed I'm straight because I found big hairy men repulsive.

Have you always been attracted to fat ugly women? No? Did that suggest you're gay?

There's a guy here on JUB who finds skinny hairless guys attractive. And since he finds them effeminate, he feels he's still 100% straight. I find that rationale a bit bogus myself, but as Lewis Carroll said, "Every word I say means precisely what I choose it to mean. No more and no less." If you want to call yourself "straight", "98% straight", "bisexual", "gay for small twinky boys", or "Charlie" - go on with your bad self. And keep fapping to girls, guys, robots, or whatever floats your boat.

Lex

 

[leladax]

hehe. thanks for the replies; they're inspirational and informative.

 

[rareboy]

I'd say stick to fucking girls until you sort yourself out.

I agree, you sound 2% gay.

 

[Araigu]

Well, I know for sure that I like men, but not that much the hairy type, but that won't make me any less gay. I just have preferences inside my orientation.

But that doesn't mean that I cannot appreciate a woman, yesterday I met a woman that TRULY fired up my interest, not that it's the first time I've found a girl attractive, but this time it was new and kinda different. In the Kinsey scale I'm not on the ends neither the middle, so she was still not enough for me to get in her bedroom and make her happy. Too bad she isn't a boy.

So there's yet another example of how sexuality isn't a static and clear-cut thing, you just have to let it flow and most importantly, listen to yourself!

@Lex: I loved the Lewis Carroll's quote!

 

[Lube]

Gay.

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