James Marsden is 37. Is This Considered "Over the Hill"?

[gsdx]

According to a lot of people here, James is half-way down the other side.

 

[birddog7]

Yeah, if you're over 21, forget it.

 

[QuinnRider]

I'm 18 and James is still completely lickable, but he is also very youthful.

 

[hylas]

is this a thread about marsden? he never did anything for me, i though his casting in the x-men movies was even worse than berrys.

or is this about age? people who think in terms like "over the hill" need to grow up, especially if theyre applying it to people who are only just approaching middle age.

 

[gsdx]

And I hope there aren't any men who are in that age range who allow themselves to feel bad because of it.

We don't allow ourselves to feel bad because of it. A lot of young guys here make us feel bad enough about it all by themselves. You rarely see the word 'old' in a post without seeing the words 'ugly' and 'fat' used in conjunction with it.

 

[birddog7]

I've always seen going "over the hill" as something that was determined by your looks and figure, not reaching a certain age range.

I mean, I know some guys in their late twenties who look beat, many of them simply from being big drinkers (even those that got their bodies back in better shape; their face never lost that "bloated, rough" texture). Some you would swear were over 40 just by looking at them.

And of course, some guys manage (usually through hard work) to keep themselves looking 25 when they're pushing mid-40s.

So when I use the phrase, it's when I'm talking about someone who's finally reached the point, no matter how old they are, that they've finally lost their shine.

I've never once used it based on age alone.

I agree with this analogy.

Bad part is, by this analogy, I've been over the hill for 25+ years.

I lost my "shine" a long time ago...

 

[birddog7]

We don't allow ourselves to feel bad because of it. A lot of young guys here make us feel bad enough about it all by themselves. You rarely see the word 'old' in a post without seeing the words 'ugly' and 'fat' used in conjunction with it.

I do feel badly about it. I'm always depressed around my birthday.

I do feel, and look, old, worn out, fat, and ugly...among other things.

 

[LilBit]

Oh, noes. :~(

Li'l Bit just turned 38!

But Li'l Bit also lies about his age.

 

[wooffy]

I'll be 39 in December, and as lot of my friends 15 years younger would die if they did my daily commute - 9km by bike to the office, and 9 or 10 back depending on route. Never mind days I do 50km or more just for the fun of it.

One of my closest friends is 57. He is a leader in the leather community.

Another friend just celebrated the 18th anniversary of his 39th birthday, he's a total pig (that's a compliment), well known in the community, and not rejected due to his age.

I know the gay community can seems ageist, and some of it is. But really, if you ignore the twink clubs and go to men's bars or ignore the bar scene entirely you will find men of all ages. And yes, actually picking up and having sex. The only time I have been turned down due to my age in years was because I was too young for the guy.

I'm looking forward to my 40s. Time to earn my leather daddy creds

 

[Audio Tech]

I hate these threads.....

According to how I physically feel, I'm still climbing UP the hill.

According to "the culture" (FUCK EM!) I should be dead.

SOMETIMES I think about it, as some of you know. But not often. I have to agree with the real definition of over the hill. My best friend and serious crush from 17 years ago is now 39. I went to see him a few months ago..... He is SHOT!! I damn near cried, since he was sooooo handsome when I knew him in his 20's. (God, I would have DIED to have him)

Now he has a Wife, (SHE's drop-dead cute!) 3 kids, balding with a poor comb-over and 60 pounds overweight. Yep...

I realized then just how much more I have left in me at 46. ( And how LUCKY I really am )

It's not ALL about looks, but how well you keep yourself. So I do not consider myself over the hill yet, but I do agree that the youthful "shine" is gone. It's been replaced by the greying of wisdom, though.

 

[fetaby]

The lifespan of a gay....
1-17 yrs nonexistant. No pedo's allowed!
18 finally legal! Get out your dancing shoes.
21 Old timer. Been around the block a few times but still fuckable.
23 Senior Citizen, can still lay the pipe.
24 Dead
25 Zombie
26-29 mummified
30+ invisible.

At least that's what you'll be lead to believe if you listen to people who listen to people. Cause honestly, while a person may be right, people don't know jack shit.

 

[Willie Boy]

In the Gay World I mean. Are guys who are 37 and older too old?

for what?

Do you still pay attention to them? Or should gay men who are this age just stay home?

As opposed to going grocery shopping? Going to work? Your statements are quite vague

I'm sure a lot of gay men (including myself) still think James Marsden is extremely hot.

He was never hot, but is he over the hill?

Nope. He's still just a wee laddie.

 

[Negasta]

I'd still let him fuck me six ways from Sunday

 

[BRIOHAZARD]

37? That's still hot to me.


I draw my line at about anyone above 47.

Tho there are some exceptions.

 

[hotatlboi]

I agree that it's more about looks than age. You can be 40 and still be fit and good looking or you can be fat and old looking.

 

[freefall]

Categorisation based on age is stupid.

Besides, the older the guy, the better for me

Btw, this thread reminds me of my sister who said men above 25 are over the hill and so are the same for women above 22

 

[hylas]

my problem with the whole concept of "over the hill" is that it implies that at one point in your life, you will just stop being desirable to anybody. im still quite young and maybe naive, but id like to believe that you will always find romance if you are a good person and keep in shape (within reason).

when i was a wee teen, 30 seemed like "old" to me. and it was, from that perspective. now im in my mid 20es and many of my friends and lovers are 30+. i might not have any interest in fucking the attractive 50 year old guy, but i think i would if i were between 45-55. there are many older guys on the dating sites that make me think, hes a little to old for me, but id hit that if i were in his age range.

 

[bankside]

Why would anyone waste decades of his life feeling over the hill?

You can get a lot done in 3 or 4 decades if you're not sitting around moping about not being 22 anymore.

 

[wooffy]

Another way to look at it - at every stage of my life, I have known me older than me who looked better, had more sex, and accomplished more in the community.

 

[gsdx]

They say the older you get, the faster the years go by!

And frighteningly so.

Relatively speaking, if you live 80 years, in your mind, you will have lived half your life before you reach your thirties.