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Jerking off brings problems every now and then

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Hey guys I kinda need your help because my bf and I really don't have anyone to talk to about me or our problem. Jerking off is an issue for the both of us. evry now and then we have a talk where we decide how it's gonna be.
ABout two months ago we've had a fight where I said that I wanted to start to jerk again. Before that I didn't because he does not like it. After the fight we said it's okay that I start again. Today we had a talk where he said, he wants me to stop again. I hope you get my problem. I wanna jack off he doesn't like it.
My problem with jacking off is that I think I am addicted to internet porn. I watch vids read the forum while jerking which can take up to two hours, about three times a week. Everytime we have a talk I say that I won't do it that extrem but after a few weeks we're back to extrem.
We really love each other and we're really cool when it comes to three even foursomes. But jerking off is a problem. Espacially when I talk about it. I do that because there was a time when I did it all in secret and that almost ended our realationship. I wanna tell him because he has a right to know. He says he'll never leave me becaus of the jerking of it but he's not happy with the situation. When I'm at the extrem even doesn't even like to have sex.
Please guys take this topic serious. I tried it in a differen forum and all they had to say was crap. So any advice, maybe from relatioship guys would help.
Thanks
 
the problem is that we don't see a compromise. It's not like we wanna break up, god forbid. But we just don't see a compromise. He has a problem with me jerking off I have a problem with not jo at all. so any compromise advice is well appreciated :)
 
Lower the time you spend and do it less. I see his point it seems like you need porn to satisfy yourself and he is not good enough for that. Jerking off feels fantastic but if you do it less you will have a bigger load during sex. So I suggest once a week 30 Min. For the record I'd do anything for my guy so I dont know if it's realistic for me to say that to you.
 
Thread on more or less the same issue here few weeks ago

http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=364500&highlight=Jerk+off

In regard to sexuality needs all guys are different, its nice in a relationship you can accommodate each others needs but it may be necessary for compromise in some cases like yours. If you have a good relationship with your partner you should be able to come to some agreement over the issue, perhaps you could show him these responses :)
Best of luck with your bf hope you can resolve your problem .
 
acually he doesn't know. Right now he's not happy with me jacking off at all because he see how it's become in two short months again.
The thing that takes so much time is to download the porn. I start jacking while doing that I look for pron to download, then I keep jacking (sometimes I cum a bit a few times during) waiting for the porn to finish, then I watch it, then start watching the next porn.
 
jerk off in the shower when you feel like it and dont say anything.
 
How long have you both been together? Do you live together?

Have more sex together?
Jack off together?
Send dirty pictures back and forth?

I am kind of confused on what the real issue is.- Is it that you invest more time into jerking off then you do in your relationship, and he wants more attention? or?
 
The issue isn't you jerking off, as you've implied The real issue seems to be addiction. Go to the Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA) website and see if you seem to fit.

http://www.sca-recovery.org/
 
the problem is that i do it so long. Acually we only have sex we stopped sending dirty pictures and stopped jo together.
 
Check out the site. You've nothing to lose.
 
Sorry but FUCK THAT! Masturbation is a good way to relieve and spend time alone, your boyfriend is obviously insecure if he has so much of a problem with your solo sessions. As long as the sex is there, he shouldn't really care how long you jerk off, its your dick, its attached to you, you can just about do whatever you want with it (solo wise). Make him feel more comfortable about it and jerk off with him.
 
Its not that when we have sex I can cum. Though when we only jack off I can't sometimes. But this is cause of the pills my doc subscribed me. We do have sex but he loses interest in it cause I jo so long.
I like what deadrussian said maybe sending dirty pics and jo together. But I still think he'd have a problem with me doing it on my own.
 
If it takes too long it means you don't got enough sperm that's why you save it up with jerking off the whole time your sill capable to shoot a nice load but it will takes ages I suggest stroking it but not jerking off
 
Did any of you have a simmilar problem? Are you in a relationship? How would you solve the problem?
 
I think that a lot of the problem with your bf is that you take so long to come. Most guys cannot maintain the same interest in sex once they have cum themselves. If this is due to the medication you are taking perhaps you could discuss it with your doctor. This may also be the reason why you jerk off to porn for so long because you are taking so long to finally shoot your lot.
 
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