Joining the Army & My Loser Dad

[Oden_grey]

The fact is that there will always be people who are richer, smarter, better looking than you can hope to be. The fact is to make yourself content with what you have. I came from a rather humble background myself. I have a career now making a decent amount of money... but there's a kid I knew who is making twice as much as I am and he only had 2 classes in college. It's pretty easy to be envious of him especially since I went through 6 years of college and grad school to make only half as much as he does... but that's life. There are just people out there who will have a distinct advantage at the getgo. The trick is to be comfortable with your own life's situation and to be thankful that you have many years of good health to change your life's course for the better.

 

[backpacker]

When I read the title to your post, I expected to read that your dad was some jobless bum. Instead I find that he works and supports his adult son. That's a far cry from a loser. I believe you have the priorities in your life all screwed up and that is probably what has lead to your current situation. You have a lot of growing up to do and the military certainly would help with that.

 

[texan_slant]

Job prospects, RUINED credit, most of all MONEY. I have NOTHING now.

I agree with everyone else here.
Everyone has got to start SOMEWHERE.

Let this be a lesson learned - esp if you have ruined credit. Take this opportunity to find/do things in life that truly move you.

Perhaps get to know your Dad a little bit more while you're at it, find out what makes him tick, or maybe find out why your Dad is happy the way he is...or is he *not* happy? Unless you feel like he wronged you, why would you call him a loser?

You can't base the richness or happiness of your life on material items cuz there will always be someone *better* than you are, and that is why you have to be happy with yourself, deep down inside, first and foremost.

You're still YOUNG and have your entire life ahead of you.

 

[BabiGayPimp]

For starters you need to stop fixating on doing "great" things and do something basic and sensible: decide upon a career and pursue the education required to be a success in that field.

I think you're far too focused on the outcome (wealth, fame, adventure) than upon the process, which will involves a lot a drudgery, study, sacrifice and disappointment.

Did you know that the typical Mercedes owner is 52 years old and has a household income of $175,000? Yes, it normally takes decades to get there.

Is anyone going to pay you $175,000 a year because you want to be destined for "greatness?" Absolutely not.

It's about having the knowledge, skills, experience and willingness to pay your dues with long, thankless hours in some dreary office with a boss hollering over you for his report!

Of course, if you can sing, rap or look like America's next top male model you can skip to the head of the line and get your millions before everyone else.



Otherwise, GO TO SCHOOL, shake and bake and stay there till you're well done son!

 

[3nipples]

I'm 22 [to be 23 in January] and I feel like my life is wasting away. Either my life picks up or I want to die. I'd rather die than to live a mediocre life composed of lack.

I wonder what you father was like at your age? Probably not as you see him now. Possibly he was more like you than you would like to think, but at some point gave up when he couldn't achieve the high goals he set for himself.

I don't know, of course... I don't know either of you, but to paint yourself as a loser in the making at 22/3 makes me wonder if you aren't lacking a lot in perspective.

 

[Zildjian]

I would like to take the opportunity to thank everyone who has contributed edifying information in this post.

I also want to ask for everyone's forgiveness, as calling my Dad a 'loser' was a very wrong thing to do. I should be more grateful to him for allowing me to live in his house after my infamous demise.

While I might not agree with my dad's attitude of a mediocre life, it is wrong to call someone who has supported me financially a 'loser'. My dad and I might not see eye to eye on ALOT of issues [socially, politically, personally] but I do love the man, and I would glady render the same courtesy of taking care of him in his latter years as he is doing right now.

Last night I prayed to God for forgiveness of calling my Dad a 'loser' - I certainly didn't want anything more damaging to carry emotionally or spiritually.

What I am focusing on the next 7-10 days is meditate deeply and to draft a feasible plan to get me out of my current circumstances and re-enter the 'game of life'. Everything that I am experiencing now is a result of MY own bad choices. No one is to blame but me. I accept full responsibility for my actions, and plan to seriously correct and get back on track.

It won't be easy, but correcting these mistakes of mine will be an invaluable learning experience. I need to rebuild my income, manage it properly, invest it properly [to grow it], correct these credit flaws, educate myself in areas where I lack professionally, and get professional help to deal with the 'demons' of my damaged past.

Thank you all for your advice, comments, and considerations.

 

[M4P]

Best of luck Zildjian

I wish you enough

 

[backpacker]

I would like to take the opportunity to thank everyone who has contributed edifying information in this post.

I also want to ask for everyone's forgiveness, as calling my Dad a 'loser' was a very wrong thing to do. I should be more grateful to him for allowing me to live in his house after my infamous demise.

While I might not agree with my dad's attitude of a mediocre life, it is wrong to call someone who has supported me financially a 'loser'. My dad and I might not see eye to eye on ALOT of issues [socially, politically, personally] but I do love the man, and I would glady render the same courtesy of taking care of him in his latter years as he is doing right now.

Last night I prayed to God for forgiveness of calling my Dad a 'loser' - I certainly didn't want anything more damaging to carry emotionally or spiritually.

What I am focusing on the next 7-10 days is meditate deeply and to draft a feasible plan to get me out of my current circumstances and re-enter the 'game of life'. Everything that I am experiencing now is a result of MY own bad choices. No one is to blame but me. I accept full responsibility for my actions, and plan to seriously correct and get back on track.

It won't be easy, but correcting these mistakes of mine will be an invaluable learning experience. I need to rebuild my income, manage it properly, invest it properly [to grow it], correct these credit flaws, educate myself in areas where I lack professionally, and get professional help to deal with the 'demons' of my damaged past.

Thank you all for your advice, comments, and considerations.

It takes a big man to admit the errors of his ways. I'm so glad you don't consider your dad a loser. Sounds like you are developing a plan to get your life back on track. I wish you the best of luck.