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This will be a long read, you might end up being offended as well, I mention no names on this, I don't like playing favorites so I don't mention screen names. Enjoy.
This is just my experience on JUB and what I felt. I am sure that not everyone here will have had the same experience as I had some might even consider their JUB experience 100% positive while others might have had a bad experience on JUB. It's just what you make of it.
JUB For Me
By Brandon
Part 1 – Joining Just Us Boys
I know JUB has been out there for a long time when it was LinkMeOver but 2004 was the date I joined so this is my experience. When I was a young gay, I joined JUB. I think I was interested in the bear porn during that time, also the mature men porn as well. I visited the Daddies, Bears, Chubs, etc. I believe that was the name of it, it had the word “chub” which made me think they welcomed chubs. I observed the many different threads at the time, people posted pictures of older men nude, and then posted bears. This section was probably the least protected, there was little to hardly no guidelines in that section, I considered it the most neglected section on JUB.
I had a very weird screen name when joining JUB in October 2004 it was daddiesboy19. I could not think of a better name for it but it fit I suppose, I never really ventured out into the other sections, at the time, there was not section for Fun & Games. Most of all the threads were in Hot Topics, which I never really cared much for so I stayed in the Bear / Chub section, you can kind of say I stayed with my own kind since I never really could fit in with the twinks and the horny older men who lusted for them. I also started attending the JUB chat room, which would fill up with other members, some looking for a good conversation while others looked to jack off on webcam elsewhere (Yahoo Messenger or MSN Messenger).
I won’t use any names since I don’t like playing favorites cause there is always somebody that is left out, I know the feeling since I’ve been left out in many of those popularity threads on JUB about “Which JUB member do you want to meet most?” fucking hate that bullshit but oh well. I made several good friends off the JUB chat, I have also witnessed a lot of drama on there, and the JUB chat was becoming my hang out spot when I was not interested in posting on the message boards.
I also found a boyfriend on there; it was my first real love / boyfriend relationship too. Sadly that only lasted a couple of months probably a good 4 months then he dumped me for a twink, lol figures, they always go for the skinny model types the ones that look 18 and have smooth bodies. I was unable to understand it, but I guess looks win over personality any day of the week, I guess that is the mind of a shallow gay male in the gay world.
I continued to join the chat room, the drama was always there, and people would come in and be complete fucking jerks. Then along the line, JUB added video and voice chat to the room, a completely new layout and design, the video feature brought in many new JUB members, some even jerked off on cam, which was nice because people enjoyed the show. Voice chat on the other hand it was a good feature but one that was never used, I did use it to confront the boyfriend about him dumping me, I didn’t like to create drama but it was the ONLY way for me to confront him and some people witnessed it happen right there in the chat room. I also saw the true colors of some JUB members, again I’m not naming anyone but they probably know who they are if they are reading this right now.
Part 2 – Discrimination or just how the gay community works?
I won’t understand how the gay community works with the so called “preferences” I figured if you don’t like a certain group of guys why be a troll or a dip shit and post in a thread about how disgusting or ugly someone is. If you don’t like it, don’t click on that section. The Daddies, Bears, Chub section brought in a lot of unwelcomed guests as they made their assault on the section. Whenever a JUB member would made a thread posting their pictures of themselves, now keep in mind no twinks were posted in this section so I don’t understand why people came to this section hoping for twinks, they have a section for that.
Maybe some just cannot read the fine print, but anyways a particular member who I still can remember the name to this day posted a thread with his pictures. He was not 200 lbs he was over that maybe on the super chub side, every so often there would be a troll JUB member coming into the thread and posting “Ewww gross” then another in that very same thread saying “Disgusting” then another. Until the entire thread was nothing but posts, about how disgusting the person was and how he should lose the weight, even some who thought he was completely ugly. I just sat there and was shocked to see how many people found this member repulsive. It made me think twice about posting my picture on there I was not skinny in 2005 I was rather large and chubby.
It seemed the report button was broken cause the comments stayed there even when I reported it to moderators they even told me “I’m not able to moderate that section sorry”. I messaged an administrator one who was also a huge fan of chubs and bears I told him about what was going on. He deleted the comments but I noticed that entire section never had any kind of moderator assigned to it, and then I think it was someone who told me that any moderator could go in there and moderate the forum. I didn’t know about that but not many people really helped make it any better, there were always people coming in making negative and fucked up comments. It was as if that section was troll central, I believe I even asked if I could be a moderator to help maintain that section later I was informed that there were already too many moderators to begin with.
For many months, I just reported the negative posts it took a lot of effort for the moderators to delete it, I thought to myself when reading most of these threads. Was this how the gay community really is towards their fellow gays? Just because they didn’t find them sexually attractive it was their job to put them down because they were different, some of the posts made were EXTREMELY harsh to the point I would probably get depressed if it was said to me.
In 2005, I was also struggling with my sexuality, though JUB was not much help in that department since everyone seemed to be so hateful and you hardly saw many supporting threads. That’s probably what was missing was a section for people looking for support, I believe later that year they did add a Coming out section, I think they always had a health section but I never ventured into the other sections because I was only use to posting in the Daddies / Bears section. I never knew what was added or removed on JUB but design changed a bit but they did take away a lot from the profiles.
Part 3 – JUB and its Features
JUB had many features added including the chat room, but it also had a very large selection of porn, some of the porn they showed was not really my type of porn that I was interested in watching. The gay porn market advertised twink porn; I never even saw the daddy porn with older men with youngsters it was added in later but not the type that many liked and found attractive. They did have muscle studs too but I was not even interested in that either chub was not very liked on JUB even today it’s still not attractive. I felt I was attracted to the type of men that most would throw away out in the dumpster or kick out of bed.
The profiles had the basic information that most people wanted to know, height, weight, dick size; if you are cut or uncut, it had all that information. To help aid the dick size part of the profile they included a ruler, which showed how big a person’s dick against a ruler. Most profiles had a dick size of 7 to 9 inches. A JUB member once said, “9 inches was the average requirement for JUB members”, I am sure he was joking though. I did not see many members who posted pictures of their dick that had anything lower than 4 inches, at one point I did see some threads but they were not as popular than the guys who posted their pictures and had massive cocks.
I think I joined at the time when JUB had a reputation system where a person can give you a positive or negative rating on you. Therefore, if people didn’t like you they could rate you a negative rating which probably some members complained about so they removed it. I’m glad I didn’t have to deal with that or else I would have just deleted my JUB account all together, when JUB had their design make over they removed the ruler and some options like the weight and all that good stuff. I guess if you wanted to give away the size of your cock, it would have been best to do it over a private message followed by a picture to attach.
They later added a more customizable profile letting you add background images and other fun stuff that was somewhat confusing for some members so they made it easier for members to customize their profiles.
They did remove the chat room, I believe it was having so many issues that they couldn’t maintain it anymore, they did have moderators in the chat room but due to a huge situation which brought in the Administrators they took out chat room moderators. All together the chat room was not as popular back in the days of around 2004 and 2005. It slowly died down and sometimes you would only see one or two people in the chat room, they removed the voice and video chat so that disappointed members.
Through the years, JUB changed drastically in site design, in owners and even members. However, I suppose people came for the porn then later came for the message board. I came along very as well, I wrote a huge blog, which was popular with some people, but nobody really read it I did back that blog up and I still have a document somewhere on a CD or DVD, which contained all the blog entries. It talked about my many struggles in life, probably about my depression, my break up with my ex-boyfriend, and just having no friends in general. I felt that people disliked reading it but that’s life. Probably why it was difficult for me to make friends on JUB, so many people were interested in the porn, but at one point, there were people who made threads with great conversations in it.
Part 4 – Giving in and taking the plunge
I believe it was in 2005 or 2006 when I started posting pictures of myself, they had a section called Show yourself off. Since the Daddies, Bears and Chub section still had trolls invading the section every so often I felt that maybe posting my nudes in that section was not such a great idea. I made a thread of me topless at first to test the waters, I only received a few posts three members messaged me and told me they enjoyed my pictures. I think it was an Administrator the one who loved bears and chubs, a woman who also enjoyed hairy men, and another person who just loved men in general.
I did fall victim to one of the many different nasty posters who called my pictures disgusting, JUB really did not care much at the time about posters giving their opinions towards the pictures of fat or obese men. I felt in general gay men had a really nasty issue with fat men all together, it was like the most hated type of men ever, hardly anybody showed interest in it. Even in the mature men section, it received many negative comments describing how old or how fat the men were in the videos and pictures.
I believe I posted a cock picture on the very same thread that I made my topless picture, some guys said my cock was small but JUB was crawling with size queens so anything under 7 inches was considered small to them. I believe I even read a thread of a person who considered his 7-inch cock to be tiny. I don’t know if it was just members being shallow or just downright rude when it came to looks they used every word in the book to put down a chubby member who posted his pictures.
I couldn’t take it anymore and had the thread of my pictures removed and deleted because there was just so much hate on JUB about chubs. The three members who were interested in my pictures I just sent them a private message with my pictures, one of them lost interest in me, the other two still liked my pictures.
Part 5 – Fighting the Losing Battle (Chub Hate on JUB) aka Rant
I still defended chubs and older men through the years there was so much hate. I stuck in there and posted when I could and reported the negative posts. I think a JUB member posted a thread about the hate about chubby men on JUB, many people said there was no hate and they did not see anything I suppose they needed proof that such a thing was occurring on JUB. I showed them the thread about where all the people were making fun of the chubby JUB member’s pictures. They made the excuse that it was people’s preferences, I don’t understand when people post on a thread calling someone disgusting, ugly, fat, and gross that it was because of their preference and that they had to post their fucked up opinion about how grossed out they were with the person’s picture.
That’s why so many people have a low self-esteem because gay people always seem to say “If you’re not fit or young you’re not attractive” so many people lost the weight not to be more healthy they did it so they could actually fit in to the gay community so they could be attractive to someone. JUB was never a big help in that department. So when you see people saying, “You need to have a better self-esteem” HELLO you’re not helping when you go to a thread and post how disgusted you are of a person who doesn’t fit your mold of attractiveness. You blame straight people for being homophobic but you’re just as worse calling someone disgusting because you don’t find them hot and a turn on. JUB was guilty of this same bullshit and tried to cover it up using “preferences”. A preference was another word to cover up someone’s discrimination or racial hate against someone in the gay community. “I don’t like black people, it’s my preference.” “I don’t like fat or obese men, it’s my preference” How about saying something different like just telling people what you’re attracted to and not what you don’t find attractive that way people will know without having to hear “It’s my preference”
In the end, they removed chub all together from Daddies, Bears section. Chub was replaced with Chasers, which then they said the chub was “etc.” so I’ve seen many members who post chub threads and they get no posts in it until you mention Muscle then it becomes popular. I’ve come to the conclusion that chubs are not really welcome on JUB and so it’s pointless to post threads about it, cause the idea of chub in JUB member’s minds is someone who is 200lbs and not over that. They completely got it wrong and so many believed that was the definition of a chub.
Part 6 – Finding Love and Deleting my Account
I had posted a lot, I went on JUB a lot, and most of my 60% of posts were posts with good advice, my 2 cents. I think I had over 27,000 posts before telling an Administrator to reset my post count, along with the hate was the hate about post count so many members bitched at me about my post count. Really, it was probably the members who made threads congratulating others about their 1,000 posts, then when they saw me or another member with a large post count they just showed how much they hated people with large post count, like there’s not enough hate in the gay community as is.
I had my post count reset and I posted a lot more, I posted a lot on the Fun & Games section, I believe I hit 10,000 posts. Sometime in 2007 I fell in love with someone, it was a huge step since it took me months to get over my ex-boyfriend, though my ex-boyfriend did post somewhat on JUB it was difficult to keep up with his life, he ended up finding love and so I tried to get over it. That’s when I found love for myself. He was a JUB member too and we took it slow, that’s when I started to see a huge change in people’s postings. They became ass kissers, so when you didn’t kiss ass or didn’t fit in their clique that’s when they ignored you. It was so fucking evident that people were in a clique.
I couldn’t take the ass kissing anymore so I did the only logical thing, I deleted my account. I didn’t care about my post count, I just got tired of good people being treated like shit because of assholes who wanted to form a clique then post and talk shit about other people. I found love but it seemed that members were just being pricks. The Boyfriend also deleted his account even though he was a member for two years. I never returned to JUB until almost a year in a half, I saw new members joining, I lurked behind the scenes reading threads and it looked like only a few took notice to me being gone.
I made many enemies on JUB, even those who just were born being an asshole all their life so they had to take it out on other people so they could feel good about themselves. In the end, I was glad to have been gone from JUB for over a year; I got away from the drama to finish schooling. I had a lot more time on my hands now, but I did miss JUB but I found that free time and spent it with the boyfriend doing all kinds of things.
Part 7 – Returning to JUB and final thoughts
When I returned to JUB on April 2009 nobody knew who I was, then I let the cat out of the bag and made some comments. I think a few JUB members were happy to see me back while others were asking themselves “Who the hell is that?” the new members welcome me like I was a newbie. Hot Topics still had his massive amounts of drama, I even thought of never visiting Hot Topics and just posting in Fun & Games because it seemed that’s where my real friends were.
The reason why I wrote this lengthy blog entry was cause someone made a thread about JUB being over? I think through the years JUB did kind of die down, probably because of the porn, or maybe it was because of new members coming in trying to take over and claim it as their own while the last remaining JUB members from 2003 tried to defend the turf. Some of those members from the good old days disappeared and deleted their accounts. Now it’s like a new generation of gay guys joining JUB, with the addition of the support section for young confused gays who are struggling with their sexuality, it’s helping a lot of people who are depressed or suicidal or even looking for helpful advice In relationships or physical health.
I still see the hate and discrimination on JUB but it’s just not really noticeable as it once was when I first started out. The trolls still invade and you’ll still get these new people with one post asking stupid questions to stir up member’s minds. I think JUB use to have that community feeling now it’s been totally lost with all the drama and bullshit that is saturating the message boards. I pray that it might one day become a loving and caring message board like it use to be but in the mean time I keep my distance from it.
This is just my experience on JUB and what I felt. I am sure that not everyone here will have had the same experience as I had some might even consider their JUB experience 100% positive while others might have had a bad experience on JUB. It's just what you make of it.
JUB For Me
By Brandon
Part 1 – Joining Just Us Boys
I know JUB has been out there for a long time when it was LinkMeOver but 2004 was the date I joined so this is my experience. When I was a young gay, I joined JUB. I think I was interested in the bear porn during that time, also the mature men porn as well. I visited the Daddies, Bears, Chubs, etc. I believe that was the name of it, it had the word “chub” which made me think they welcomed chubs. I observed the many different threads at the time, people posted pictures of older men nude, and then posted bears. This section was probably the least protected, there was little to hardly no guidelines in that section, I considered it the most neglected section on JUB.
I had a very weird screen name when joining JUB in October 2004 it was daddiesboy19. I could not think of a better name for it but it fit I suppose, I never really ventured out into the other sections, at the time, there was not section for Fun & Games. Most of all the threads were in Hot Topics, which I never really cared much for so I stayed in the Bear / Chub section, you can kind of say I stayed with my own kind since I never really could fit in with the twinks and the horny older men who lusted for them. I also started attending the JUB chat room, which would fill up with other members, some looking for a good conversation while others looked to jack off on webcam elsewhere (Yahoo Messenger or MSN Messenger).
I won’t use any names since I don’t like playing favorites cause there is always somebody that is left out, I know the feeling since I’ve been left out in many of those popularity threads on JUB about “Which JUB member do you want to meet most?” fucking hate that bullshit but oh well. I made several good friends off the JUB chat, I have also witnessed a lot of drama on there, and the JUB chat was becoming my hang out spot when I was not interested in posting on the message boards.
I also found a boyfriend on there; it was my first real love / boyfriend relationship too. Sadly that only lasted a couple of months probably a good 4 months then he dumped me for a twink, lol figures, they always go for the skinny model types the ones that look 18 and have smooth bodies. I was unable to understand it, but I guess looks win over personality any day of the week, I guess that is the mind of a shallow gay male in the gay world.
I continued to join the chat room, the drama was always there, and people would come in and be complete fucking jerks. Then along the line, JUB added video and voice chat to the room, a completely new layout and design, the video feature brought in many new JUB members, some even jerked off on cam, which was nice because people enjoyed the show. Voice chat on the other hand it was a good feature but one that was never used, I did use it to confront the boyfriend about him dumping me, I didn’t like to create drama but it was the ONLY way for me to confront him and some people witnessed it happen right there in the chat room. I also saw the true colors of some JUB members, again I’m not naming anyone but they probably know who they are if they are reading this right now.
Part 2 – Discrimination or just how the gay community works?
I won’t understand how the gay community works with the so called “preferences” I figured if you don’t like a certain group of guys why be a troll or a dip shit and post in a thread about how disgusting or ugly someone is. If you don’t like it, don’t click on that section. The Daddies, Bears, Chub section brought in a lot of unwelcomed guests as they made their assault on the section. Whenever a JUB member would made a thread posting their pictures of themselves, now keep in mind no twinks were posted in this section so I don’t understand why people came to this section hoping for twinks, they have a section for that.
Maybe some just cannot read the fine print, but anyways a particular member who I still can remember the name to this day posted a thread with his pictures. He was not 200 lbs he was over that maybe on the super chub side, every so often there would be a troll JUB member coming into the thread and posting “Ewww gross” then another in that very same thread saying “Disgusting” then another. Until the entire thread was nothing but posts, about how disgusting the person was and how he should lose the weight, even some who thought he was completely ugly. I just sat there and was shocked to see how many people found this member repulsive. It made me think twice about posting my picture on there I was not skinny in 2005 I was rather large and chubby.
It seemed the report button was broken cause the comments stayed there even when I reported it to moderators they even told me “I’m not able to moderate that section sorry”. I messaged an administrator one who was also a huge fan of chubs and bears I told him about what was going on. He deleted the comments but I noticed that entire section never had any kind of moderator assigned to it, and then I think it was someone who told me that any moderator could go in there and moderate the forum. I didn’t know about that but not many people really helped make it any better, there were always people coming in making negative and fucked up comments. It was as if that section was troll central, I believe I even asked if I could be a moderator to help maintain that section later I was informed that there were already too many moderators to begin with.
For many months, I just reported the negative posts it took a lot of effort for the moderators to delete it, I thought to myself when reading most of these threads. Was this how the gay community really is towards their fellow gays? Just because they didn’t find them sexually attractive it was their job to put them down because they were different, some of the posts made were EXTREMELY harsh to the point I would probably get depressed if it was said to me.
In 2005, I was also struggling with my sexuality, though JUB was not much help in that department since everyone seemed to be so hateful and you hardly saw many supporting threads. That’s probably what was missing was a section for people looking for support, I believe later that year they did add a Coming out section, I think they always had a health section but I never ventured into the other sections because I was only use to posting in the Daddies / Bears section. I never knew what was added or removed on JUB but design changed a bit but they did take away a lot from the profiles.
Part 3 – JUB and its Features
JUB had many features added including the chat room, but it also had a very large selection of porn, some of the porn they showed was not really my type of porn that I was interested in watching. The gay porn market advertised twink porn; I never even saw the daddy porn with older men with youngsters it was added in later but not the type that many liked and found attractive. They did have muscle studs too but I was not even interested in that either chub was not very liked on JUB even today it’s still not attractive. I felt I was attracted to the type of men that most would throw away out in the dumpster or kick out of bed.
The profiles had the basic information that most people wanted to know, height, weight, dick size; if you are cut or uncut, it had all that information. To help aid the dick size part of the profile they included a ruler, which showed how big a person’s dick against a ruler. Most profiles had a dick size of 7 to 9 inches. A JUB member once said, “9 inches was the average requirement for JUB members”, I am sure he was joking though. I did not see many members who posted pictures of their dick that had anything lower than 4 inches, at one point I did see some threads but they were not as popular than the guys who posted their pictures and had massive cocks.
I think I joined at the time when JUB had a reputation system where a person can give you a positive or negative rating on you. Therefore, if people didn’t like you they could rate you a negative rating which probably some members complained about so they removed it. I’m glad I didn’t have to deal with that or else I would have just deleted my JUB account all together, when JUB had their design make over they removed the ruler and some options like the weight and all that good stuff. I guess if you wanted to give away the size of your cock, it would have been best to do it over a private message followed by a picture to attach.
They later added a more customizable profile letting you add background images and other fun stuff that was somewhat confusing for some members so they made it easier for members to customize their profiles.
They did remove the chat room, I believe it was having so many issues that they couldn’t maintain it anymore, they did have moderators in the chat room but due to a huge situation which brought in the Administrators they took out chat room moderators. All together the chat room was not as popular back in the days of around 2004 and 2005. It slowly died down and sometimes you would only see one or two people in the chat room, they removed the voice and video chat so that disappointed members.
Through the years, JUB changed drastically in site design, in owners and even members. However, I suppose people came for the porn then later came for the message board. I came along very as well, I wrote a huge blog, which was popular with some people, but nobody really read it I did back that blog up and I still have a document somewhere on a CD or DVD, which contained all the blog entries. It talked about my many struggles in life, probably about my depression, my break up with my ex-boyfriend, and just having no friends in general. I felt that people disliked reading it but that’s life. Probably why it was difficult for me to make friends on JUB, so many people were interested in the porn, but at one point, there were people who made threads with great conversations in it.
Part 4 – Giving in and taking the plunge
I believe it was in 2005 or 2006 when I started posting pictures of myself, they had a section called Show yourself off. Since the Daddies, Bears and Chub section still had trolls invading the section every so often I felt that maybe posting my nudes in that section was not such a great idea. I made a thread of me topless at first to test the waters, I only received a few posts three members messaged me and told me they enjoyed my pictures. I think it was an Administrator the one who loved bears and chubs, a woman who also enjoyed hairy men, and another person who just loved men in general.
I did fall victim to one of the many different nasty posters who called my pictures disgusting, JUB really did not care much at the time about posters giving their opinions towards the pictures of fat or obese men. I felt in general gay men had a really nasty issue with fat men all together, it was like the most hated type of men ever, hardly anybody showed interest in it. Even in the mature men section, it received many negative comments describing how old or how fat the men were in the videos and pictures.
I believe I posted a cock picture on the very same thread that I made my topless picture, some guys said my cock was small but JUB was crawling with size queens so anything under 7 inches was considered small to them. I believe I even read a thread of a person who considered his 7-inch cock to be tiny. I don’t know if it was just members being shallow or just downright rude when it came to looks they used every word in the book to put down a chubby member who posted his pictures.
I couldn’t take it anymore and had the thread of my pictures removed and deleted because there was just so much hate on JUB about chubs. The three members who were interested in my pictures I just sent them a private message with my pictures, one of them lost interest in me, the other two still liked my pictures.
Part 5 – Fighting the Losing Battle (Chub Hate on JUB) aka Rant
I still defended chubs and older men through the years there was so much hate. I stuck in there and posted when I could and reported the negative posts. I think a JUB member posted a thread about the hate about chubby men on JUB, many people said there was no hate and they did not see anything I suppose they needed proof that such a thing was occurring on JUB. I showed them the thread about where all the people were making fun of the chubby JUB member’s pictures. They made the excuse that it was people’s preferences, I don’t understand when people post on a thread calling someone disgusting, ugly, fat, and gross that it was because of their preference and that they had to post their fucked up opinion about how grossed out they were with the person’s picture.
That’s why so many people have a low self-esteem because gay people always seem to say “If you’re not fit or young you’re not attractive” so many people lost the weight not to be more healthy they did it so they could actually fit in to the gay community so they could be attractive to someone. JUB was never a big help in that department. So when you see people saying, “You need to have a better self-esteem” HELLO you’re not helping when you go to a thread and post how disgusted you are of a person who doesn’t fit your mold of attractiveness. You blame straight people for being homophobic but you’re just as worse calling someone disgusting because you don’t find them hot and a turn on. JUB was guilty of this same bullshit and tried to cover it up using “preferences”. A preference was another word to cover up someone’s discrimination or racial hate against someone in the gay community. “I don’t like black people, it’s my preference.” “I don’t like fat or obese men, it’s my preference” How about saying something different like just telling people what you’re attracted to and not what you don’t find attractive that way people will know without having to hear “It’s my preference”
In the end, they removed chub all together from Daddies, Bears section. Chub was replaced with Chasers, which then they said the chub was “etc.” so I’ve seen many members who post chub threads and they get no posts in it until you mention Muscle then it becomes popular. I’ve come to the conclusion that chubs are not really welcome on JUB and so it’s pointless to post threads about it, cause the idea of chub in JUB member’s minds is someone who is 200lbs and not over that. They completely got it wrong and so many believed that was the definition of a chub.
Part 6 – Finding Love and Deleting my Account
I had posted a lot, I went on JUB a lot, and most of my 60% of posts were posts with good advice, my 2 cents. I think I had over 27,000 posts before telling an Administrator to reset my post count, along with the hate was the hate about post count so many members bitched at me about my post count. Really, it was probably the members who made threads congratulating others about their 1,000 posts, then when they saw me or another member with a large post count they just showed how much they hated people with large post count, like there’s not enough hate in the gay community as is.
I had my post count reset and I posted a lot more, I posted a lot on the Fun & Games section, I believe I hit 10,000 posts. Sometime in 2007 I fell in love with someone, it was a huge step since it took me months to get over my ex-boyfriend, though my ex-boyfriend did post somewhat on JUB it was difficult to keep up with his life, he ended up finding love and so I tried to get over it. That’s when I found love for myself. He was a JUB member too and we took it slow, that’s when I started to see a huge change in people’s postings. They became ass kissers, so when you didn’t kiss ass or didn’t fit in their clique that’s when they ignored you. It was so fucking evident that people were in a clique.
I couldn’t take the ass kissing anymore so I did the only logical thing, I deleted my account. I didn’t care about my post count, I just got tired of good people being treated like shit because of assholes who wanted to form a clique then post and talk shit about other people. I found love but it seemed that members were just being pricks. The Boyfriend also deleted his account even though he was a member for two years. I never returned to JUB until almost a year in a half, I saw new members joining, I lurked behind the scenes reading threads and it looked like only a few took notice to me being gone.
I made many enemies on JUB, even those who just were born being an asshole all their life so they had to take it out on other people so they could feel good about themselves. In the end, I was glad to have been gone from JUB for over a year; I got away from the drama to finish schooling. I had a lot more time on my hands now, but I did miss JUB but I found that free time and spent it with the boyfriend doing all kinds of things.
Part 7 – Returning to JUB and final thoughts
When I returned to JUB on April 2009 nobody knew who I was, then I let the cat out of the bag and made some comments. I think a few JUB members were happy to see me back while others were asking themselves “Who the hell is that?” the new members welcome me like I was a newbie. Hot Topics still had his massive amounts of drama, I even thought of never visiting Hot Topics and just posting in Fun & Games because it seemed that’s where my real friends were.
The reason why I wrote this lengthy blog entry was cause someone made a thread about JUB being over? I think through the years JUB did kind of die down, probably because of the porn, or maybe it was because of new members coming in trying to take over and claim it as their own while the last remaining JUB members from 2003 tried to defend the turf. Some of those members from the good old days disappeared and deleted their accounts. Now it’s like a new generation of gay guys joining JUB, with the addition of the support section for young confused gays who are struggling with their sexuality, it’s helping a lot of people who are depressed or suicidal or even looking for helpful advice In relationships or physical health.
I still see the hate and discrimination on JUB but it’s just not really noticeable as it once was when I first started out. The trolls still invade and you’ll still get these new people with one post asking stupid questions to stir up member’s minds. I think JUB use to have that community feeling now it’s been totally lost with all the drama and bullshit that is saturating the message boards. I pray that it might one day become a loving and caring message board like it use to be but in the mean time I keep my distance from it.