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Just came out to my mom

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An update from my side. The "frustrating new year's eve" definitively started something. After that, I started attending coming out evenings of a local gay group. And today, I finally came out to my mom.

I had plans to tell her since February, but I did not have the nerves to say it face-to-face so far. This weekend I plan to visit her, so I just sent her a text message saying that I do no more want to hide an important part of me, that I was gay, offering to talk about it this weekend.

Her answer was very positive. She meant that she had felt it for a long time but did not say anything out of respect and that she loves me the way I am. Now I'm really looking forward to seeing her this weekend! I'm totally happy and relieved!
 
Way to go!! I remember your new years thread. Now it should be smooth sailing from here on out. congrats!
 
What can I say except kudos.

It's okay. A lot of men don't come out until later. Sometimes they've just been too busy. They have careers to pursue, oceans to sail on, and mountains to climb. We all live our lives and have our adventures in a different order. I will have a drink of whiskey for you now, hoping that this will be one of the better ones. Congratulations.
 
There is nothing like the love and support of a parent. Your fear of being yourself and being loved is over! Congrats.
 
My mom and I talked for several hours on Friday afternoon, she asked, of course, the obligate set of questions, which is normal, I guess. All in all it went much better than I had hoped for. On Saturday I used the chance to also tell it my brother, he was also totally cool, he even congratulated me for the courage to make this step! :)

The weekend's events took a big load off my mind, now I feel ready to progress with telling my friends!
 
Wishing you the best. Cheers!
 
Congrats. I sent my mom an email and she was totally cool about it. It definitely made our relationship better
 
Congratulations with these important steps, and good to read that your mom and your brother are supportive. Good luck!!
 
Congratulations! I hope I have the courage to tell my Dad though he must have suspected it since I kept bringing boys home and he saw some of them... :p
 
Yay, I'm glad your family is super cool with it. Isn't it an amazing feeling?

Welcome to the club. :)
 
An update:

My coming out is progressing quite nicely. I informed my mum and my brother in April, went to a gay party in May, participated the Zurich Pride Festival inclusive procession in June (met a co-worker there), told my best friends that I was gay in late June and expanded the circle of informed friends to about 20 until late July. I plan to inform the last ~10 friends in August and September, then that part of my coming out is done (!)

The vast majority of all reactions was very positive/supportive often resulting in profound discussions. The worst I experienced so far was that someone could not really start a conversation on the topic, which is OK for me. No friends lost so far.

The trickiest candidate is yet to be informed: Despite of holding a master in ethnology, so in theory he should be pretty open-minded, I fear that he is the most homophobic of all my friends. We'll see how this goes. It would be a pity if he couldn't cope with it, though.

Then, as a next step, I plan to focus my energy on getting to know more gay people and on dating.

All in all my coming out experience was much more positive than I could have imagined. Last year this seemed to be totally impossible! Your posts/hints/encouragements were of great value for this journey!
 
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