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Just found out a former sex partner is HIV +

CoolguyAT

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I got an e-mail this morning from a guy whom i've had sex with a few times over the past year and a half (kind of a friends with benefits type thing). We last had sex back in June. He told me that he is HIV + and while i'm not freaking out I am worried. I got tested about a month ago and it came out fine but you all know that it takes 3 months for the HIV virus to show up.

I am going to get tested again at the beginning of October just to make sure it has been three months since I don't remember the exact day in June we last had sex. I'm not mad at the guy but I am a little concerned because he seems to play safe and thinks he may have gotten it orally. We only have had oral sex and have never done anal.

I guess I just need some guys to talk to.
 
Yes, you should get re-tested, if for no other reason than to give you peace of mind. While oral sex is considered "low risk", there is still risk, even if it's one-tenth of 1%, therefore, re-testing is warranted. As you describe the situation, the odds are in your favor for being negative but don't leave it to chance. KNOW for sure. Also be grateful that he told you.
 
I agree with above. Definitely get retested and thank your stars that he has the moral fiber to tell you.
 
I hope everything works out okay for you. For what it's worth, my partner was HIV+ and we were together for 3 years. He got his dick sucked almost every day. I remained HIV- and still am to this day.
 
Thanks everyone for your support. I know the risk is really low but from what it sounds like he thinks he may have gotten it through oral sex or perhaps a condom broke. When I asked him how he thought he got it and from whom he said he honestly did not know. He's a good guy and I told him how appreciative I was that he told me.

Like I said I will get retested in early October since that will have been within three months of the last time I had sex with him. Though until then I have to say this is going to be pretty worrisome. Anyone have any advice on how to deal with the waiting period? In the past when i've gotten tested I usually only get nervous the day of my test results.

Bear 972.....thanks for your story about your partner, it has helped put me a little more at ease.

Thanks again everyone for your support.
 
AT, the operative word in your original post is "seems"...He seems to play safe. Well I am sure you weren't witnessing his other sexual romps so you cannot be sure what went on. He could have been methed out or something.
 
Go for your re-test if Neg go on living life, if Pos go on living life to the fullest either way.
My 23 y.o. Thai BF is HIV + was a shock when we found out, but there is a very good Dr. in Thailand <he lives in Thailand I am there about 6 months a year>. BF is on med and in good health, we use condoms for anal, but oral I suck him <he does not cum in my mouth> My last test I am still HIV -
Either way just live and enjoy life.
 
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