Just get over it.

[ixthrock]

would you care to be more specific?

 

[Drops of Jupiter]

No... you make perfect sense actually. I agree with you.

 

[texyboi]

some people are just drama queens, they live for diaster......I have a good friend that gets more and more like that...I kinda try to avoid her , but can't just make myself abandon her. Her life has turned to hell from this. And also anyones elses that asks her for advice.....it really is pretty sad actually.....all that negativity has to help bring negative results

 

[NedNickerson]

Sometimes someone already knows what they "should do" in a situation, but they're having problems with what they "want to do," which often, isn't the same thing.

I think they come here to see how many of us tell him to do what he should do and how many of us tell him to do what he wants to do. Some people come here for a "kick in the pants," to make them do what should be done. Others come here looking for justification for doing what they want to do. Posts like that should come with a poll:

A: Do this
B: Do that

I've posted comments on a few of those threads myself, telling the person, "I think you already know what you should do/want to do. So, do it..."

 

[HaraKiri]

What a wonderful word: "drama queen" ;-)

Earnestly: I often tell a person to stop lamenting. The time he/she is complaining is more than sufficient to complete this unwanted task.

I'm not quite sure whether this advice always is appreciated. Especially when I'm giving it to myself...

 

[ixthrock]

m just

I don't want to say what issues I want to tell people to just get over, because I think it would be a little mean on my part with not fully understanding some ones 'problems'.

I'm just saying, when you hear about some ones problem and the solution seems to be quite obvious, but the person keeps playing it off like they have no clue of a solution and continuelly ignore what they really have to do because they can't accept the solution.

I might sound confusing?

im just asking because i have a complex of issues thats at least five years old and causes me an extraordinary amount of discomfort. the paranoid egocentric in me assumes you have seen some glint of MY issues in this forum, and have addressed this thread to me this despite the fact that i have never truly unburdened myself here. still, I believe those that know me must feel that the solution to my dilemma is soooo simple; and it is just a symptom of my own unreasonableness that i havent executed it yet.

 

[ixthrock]

oh, the simple problems....i agree with you 100% then.
don't regret not being str8,
don't lament the unattainable,
don't go on forever about how lonely you are when we all feel the pain, and then assume you must be wholly undesirable (cuz we all feel the pain)
*sigh*
you might not even be addressing any of these, and, yes, it's good you put "simple" in quotes, 'cuz it doesn't feel simple when yer in the middle of it...

i have an immediate hostile reaction to the phrase "get over it," that you'd have to know my backstory to understand (and even then...) but it's my issue. and even in my case, its probably dead on the mark

 

[Andreus]

I dont like to be that abrupt anymore

i think there are really kind ways of saying such things, though

 

[chas007]

I would agree in a "simple" problem situation. Maybe take it on a case by case bases, and/or do it via PM.

Sometimes some people need to get confirmation from others and then some people just need a good ole "bitch slap" wake up call.

 

[Andreus]

this thread makes me sad

 

[Xenrai]

Yeah, you may want to say "just get over it". But if you did, would it honestly help? If something is hurting you, and someone else who doesn't understand how you're feeling says "get over it", how would you feel?

Best thing is to either ignore them or offer something helpful.

 

[Andreus]

kind and constructive posts seem to get people to understand your ideas far more effectively than nastiness

 

[looseliam]

Oh, get over it!

j/k

But yes, I, too, have had the urge to respond in such a way. I usually yell at the screen and move on.

 

[dpnice]

When ever I am in the depths of dispair, depressed or grieving an extremely close friend of my will finally call me up and tell me to "snap out of it and get on with life".

It has and always will annoy me but I must admit it does do the trick and I pull myself together and do indeed get on with life.

But it is something that I wouldn't allow myself to do on JUB. It is not an attitude one should use with people who, in the most cases, are complete strangers. What ever their problems it is too cruel to treat them so calously.

So think it, if you must, but don't express it.

 

[gsdx]

I think there's a fine line between telling somebody to "get over it" when the situation is worth the conversation, and when it's about something stupid, petty, and IMO, not even worth mentioning.

I would never tell somebody to "get over it" in the case they're talking about a deceased loved one, financial difficulties, you know, things that actually matter.

I believe TheBled and almost everyone else knows where that 'fine line' is, and they don't cross it.

'Financial difficulties' is one area which irks me most, and there are a lot of situations where I would love to tell people to 'get over it'. I mean, I'm on disability. It's not a secret. I must budget every penny. To read about someone wondering where they are going to get the money to tint the windows on their new 4X4 is beyond my compassion when I'm trying to figure out how to make a loaf a bread last another week.

 

[gsdx]

it's an open forum. it's not my fault if you're tight with money. So if my dad dies i should not say anything in case somebody's Dad is sick.

I'm not sure where you got the impression I was even hinting such a thing.

 

[gsdx]

The people whining about not being able to afford tinting, expensive clothes, jewelry, petty stuff like that, isn't worth listening to.

Unfortunately, that is the type of thing which gets people's attention. They don't want to read about someone who is wondering where their next meal is coming from - which is precisely why I don't bother talking about my personal financial difficulties.

 

[Lube]

^ Get over it.

LOL. Sorry, you set yourself up for that one!

 

[looseliam]

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