Just had sex for the first time. Confused!

[matt2829]

So i always thought i was gonna love my first time with a guy. i usually thought i was bi/curious then today i got together with a guy he was fit and all good looking. I wanted to experiment so he had me suck his cock and while he said i was good i was not really into it as much as i thought i was gonna be and i was not enjoying it he sucked mine too and again i did not like it, then we kissed and decided i should ride his cock so i did, of course it was painful for a lil bit then it wasnt, after i thought i was gonna like it but again i was not really into it i just wanted to get it over with. So i came on him then talked and realized maybe im really not into guys at all or What do you think??

 

[MoltenRock III]

So i always thought i was gonna love my first time with a guy. i usually thought i was bi/curious then today i got together with a guy he was fit and all good looking. I wanted to experiment so he had me suck his cock and while he said i was good i was not really into it as much as i thought i was gonna be and i was not enjoying it he sucked mine too and again i did not like it, then we kissed and decided i should ride his cock so i did, of course it was painful for a lil bit then it wasnt, after i thought i was gonna like it but again i was not really into it i just wanted to get it over with. So i came on him then talked and realized maybe im really not into guys at all or What do you think??

I think you have a whole 'lotta of mental issues you have to work out as a gay/bi guy yet. There's so much b.s. wrapped up in sex and especially gay sex, much less the pressure and loathing related to gay sex vs. str8 sex.

Frankly, sleeping with people you don't really like, or find sexy, regardless of sexuality is a letdown.

 

[iwantbig]

more details please .
Maybe you were nervous and tense , maybe you should have just put your ass in the air and said " Hammer me , Pound my ass , Turn me inside out ".
There are times when i want to ride a cock and times when i want to just cop whatever is coming at me so i can just concentrate on the feeling that my insides are going to be pulled out of me by a huge cock.
Dont give up yet if youve come this far.
Getting cock in you is one of the best things in life so if youve already done it once youve already passed the biggest hurdle.
Hope this encourages you , it reminds me of stories that young girls tell of their first fuck ( dont be offended ) but the physical sensations are incredible so it can take a while to realise the pleasure.
most girls ive fucked in the ass didnt really get into it until i really let them have it , then they couldn't get enough .
any way , I love a cock in my ass , so what can i say ? get more cock , i'm sure you 'll start getting into it soon.

 

[Nomenclature]

Well, it could just be a bad hook-up; if you don't feel a connection with that person, the sex can usually be awkward.

I felt exactly the same way with my first hook-up; I didn't really feel it, and was beginning to feel really discouraged. I figured to myself: "Well, I didn't HATE it, but I know i'm attracted to guys. . .so I at least know i'm not straight." So, I tried it again a different guy. We happened to connect, and I was able to relax with him a lot more.


The sex was much better.

 

[wooffy]

Bad sex happens. Don't ignore the experience, but don't read too much into one time either.

 

[Willie Boy]

So i always thought i was gonna love my first time with a guy. i usually thought i was bi/curious then today i got together with a guy he was fit and all good looking. I wanted to experiment so he had me suck his cock and while he said i was good i was not really into it as much as i thought i was gonna be and i was not enjoying it he sucked mine too and again i did not like it, then we kissed and decided i should ride his cock so i did, of course it was painful for a lil bit then it wasnt, after i thought i was gonna like it but again i was not really into it i just wanted to get it over with. So i came on him then talked and realized maybe im really not into guys at all or What do you think??

Sounds like you just weren't into him. There was just no connection, no bond. That is why you didn't feel the emotional satisfaction. It was just a physical coupling.

Next time try it with someone you care about, not just someone who is fit and all good looking, or at least try building a bond between the two of you first. Then see how you feel about it. Or you could try finding a pretty woman and see if sex is any more enjoyable with that stranger. Remember, you wont get any more out of a relationship than you actually put into it.

 

[ratrat]

You are asexual.

But this is sort of happening with me. And I don't have any "mental bullshit" clogging my skull. I get off to porn, fantasize about gay sex, but when I'm actually doing it it never feels as right or hot.

 

[anchihiro]

Maybe the other persons way just didn't feel right, lack of connection, you'll know when it's right. I wouldn't put too much thought on this one instance.

Secondly you said this was your first time?
Well for 99% of us our first time sucked ass. So don't worry about it.
Sex can be amazing, but in most cases its false advertisement.

 

[sixthson]

then talked and realized maybe im really not into guys at all or What do you think??

Maybe you aren't. It's ok not be gay, you know?

 

[rysmiley88]

Maybe you aren't. It's ok not be gay, you know?

Spot On! I myself, am not really interested in sex with men. I find the intimacy, hugging, kissing, spooning, etc., with a man that I trust, and like, to be much more satisfying than sex. To me sex is sex. I can find someone to have sex with anytime, but it never feels right, unless I feel a strong connection. But, it's OK, like sixthson said, you don't have to be Gay to have sex with other men. Maybe you got the curiousity out of your system, and have no interest in persuing another Gay encounter. Good on ya! Glad you had the chance to dip your feet in the proverbial bi/gay pool..More men should have these experiences in their lives. The World might be a better place..

 

[matt2829]

Spot On! I myself, am not really interested in sex with men. I find the intimacy, hugging, kissing, spooning, etc., with a man that I trust, and like, to be much more satisfying than sex. To me sex is sex. I can find someone to have sex with anytime, but it never feels right, unless I feel a strong connection. But, it's OK, like sixthson said, you don't have to be Gay to have sex with other men. Maybe you got the curiousity out of your system, and have no interest in persuing another Gay encounter. Good on ya! Glad you had the chance to dip your feet in the proverbial bi/gay pool..More men should have these experiences in their lives. The World might be a better place..

Thats exactly how i feel i dont think i can ever be in a relationship with a guy i just dont have it in me but i do notice a man appearance and think theyr hot but thats about it i just cant see myself be romantic and be affectionate as id be in a woman. But then again maybe i just need to try it out with someone else or something.

 

[palemale]

I'm going to guess you are pretty young. My advice, NEVER overthink sex (except always overthink any impulse to have unsafe sex, and don't do it). As someone above said, there is good sex and bad sex. Especially when young or with someone new, there can be a little performance anxiety. The next guy you are with, or the next time you are with this guy, maybe fantastic. Maybe the guy was just a lousy lover. Sometimes two people who are both good lovers don't click with each others. If you are attracted to someone, just do it and enjoy.

 

[texan_slant]

I wouldn't be so quick to place judgement on your first time already;
It's sometimes doesn't live up to your expectations and could be awkward.

It could be a number of things - connection with the other person, mental hangups, nervousness, etc.

Give it time and continue to explore. Everyone has specifics as to what floats their boat.

This was only one time. It is what it is. Sex is sex. Just because you didn't enjoy it the first time doesn't necessarily mean that you're not into guys.

 

[Sha-Rok]

My first time sucked...the next 30 different guys Rocked!!!!

 

[hotatlboi]

As a general rule, first times always suck.

Yes, you might not be gay, but I don't think we have enough information to say.

 

[GEMATRIA12]

idk the fact that you actually had sex with a gay makes u partially attracted to guys, otherwise why would u hook with a guy in the first place..

 

[On The Edge]

It sometimes have to deal wud the connection...the hook up & how u feeling then...I know once..didnt feel much..was more bothered of who is gonna be driving by lol..