Just met someone, don't want to meet again.

[KaraBulut]

I would strongly recommend against Telstra's solution of just cutting off communication. Frankly, doing that is passive-aggressive bullshit. Sometimes you have to tell somebody something they don't want to hear or that will make them upset. They might perceive you as being a jerk for doing that. From the other side, it's just being up front and direct.

I'd much rather a guy think I'm a jerk for laying it all out there rather that him think I'm a jerk for just no longer returning his calls.

The point of this forum is to get a bunch of different perspectives but ultimately it is your choice on which direction you want to go.

drhladnjak's advice does treat the guy with respect and doesn't leave him hanging. Since the guy sounds like a nice guy, talking to him openly and honestly is the best thing to do in the situation.

What doesn't make sense is greenbriefs' description of a great conversation and a nice guy that he doesn't want to be friends with. It's one thing to not have a sexual attraction to someone or to have a reason why you don't want to spend time with them. It's another thing altogether to say that you've been up until 3AM talking with them and then say you don't want to see them again.

So, is the issue that greenbriefs wants to avoid commitments or he's afraid one or both of the guys might be getting too emotionally invovled?

 

[JMR00]

just stop responding and soon everyone will go their separate ways.

That has happened to me everytime I've wanted to get know someone.....I could handle if they just said "not interested" but to just start ignoring me makes me feel like shit. And because it happens to me so often it makes me just give up and feel that no one could possibly be interested in me...

Greenbreifs....PLEASE break it off properly...tell him the truth - it may suck for him, but it's better if you're honest...I've been on the other side many times, and I would have appreciated the honesty..

 

[greenbriefs]

Well, to put a period on this issue, I think I was just freaking out because we had seen each other a whole lot in a short time. AND, we stayed up late chatting, so I was getting tired, which added to my weird mood. That sounds stupid, but I think that was a big part. We hang out a couple times a week, and for a couple less hours that those first few times, and everything is going well. Thanks for the words, guys!