just not interested after break up

[crest22]

Any of you guys ever feel so disgusted after a bad relationship that you just don't want anything to do with guys for a while? I've been completely solo for about 2 years and am just starting to feel like I might want to start looking again.
Is 2 years too long?

 

[benlemieux2003]

I feel the same way you do.

And there's no such thing as too long or too short. It's all about how comfortable you are dealing with yourself and your past experience.

But in my case I haven't dated anyone in almost two years and I've just met someone really nice. Time does things well.

So don't worry, be happy

 

[Jeimuzu]

It happens, just take life as it comes at you. If you want to get a boyfriend now, find one. If you don't want one, don't get one. The world isn't going to run out.

Anyways, it proves you aren't a colossal slut, a depressingly common trait, and that'll probably help your relationship with your next boyfriend. After all, significant others are often put off by all the other people you've shagged, or so I'm aware.

 

[maxpowr9]

I think we have all felt that way before (unless we are a total slut then probably not).

 

[jimrent66]

my ex and I broke up over two years ago and i'm just now starting to see the beauty of meeting people and trying again.

"always have enough courage to trust love one more time"

 

[Swellegant]

No! It's not normal! It's not even healthy! You aren't getting any younger! Use it or lose it! Get back on that horse, boy!



So long as you're not sitting around wasting your time by grieving over that last relationship and thinking about how awful and embittering it was, taking some Me Time before letting yourself get interested in other relationships is usually a good idea. Two years, two days, whatever it takes. So long as you're using that time to good advantage and working on yourself, learning to make yourself happy.

Because if you aren't learning something and growing from your experiences, your next relationship is going to be just like the last one.

(So saith the man so embittered by his last bid for a relationship that he's only even considered another relationship once in the last seven years, and ended up not following through on it because it was too painful).

 

[Ninja108]

Not unusual after a breakup to not want to even mention the word dating. Go at your own pace, eventually you will comfortable dating again

 

[cabal74]

After one ex I didn't want to date anyone for about 3 or 4 years. Even now, 7 years later, I get discouraged sometimes.

 

[RicanDAB]

It's a personal decision and just a matter of when you're feeling comfortable about the whole thing. You also need time to get over the old relationship and start moving forward. On average, I've been single for at least a year before entering new relationships - that doesn't mean I don't date for a year, it just means I don't get serious for about that long after a breakup.

 

[hairycub29]

mate you know in your heart and loins when it is time to jump back into the saddle..... i was ina 8.5yr relationship and conciously didnt have sex for a year!! i knew when the time was right... there is no right and wrong follow ur heart.... im sorry to sound so oprah-esque... its true tho

 

[Absolut]

yup...

two years sounds about right for me too!

but, like you said, time will tell when you are ready. Just accept it but don't rush into anything that will either make you regress or feel uncomfortable.