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Just Started New Job, and Received A Better Offer

joshz88

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So, I got laid off from my firm earlier this summer, and I just started a new job a couple of weeks ago. The new job is good and all, but I just got an offer yesterday for a better job that pays more and is more in line with what I like to do. Also, the company I received the offer from seems to be in a little bit better economic shape. I'm trying to figure out what to do, it's just a bit of a moral dilemma. Do I accept the offer and quit the job I just recently started, or do I stick it out with the first job I originally committed to. I would hate to pass up a great career opportunity, but in quiting so quickly, I'd also feel bad about letting down my current employer and possibly putting a dent on my reputation in my field from quiting a job only after a couple of weeks. I've gotten some mixed feedback from some friends and family that I've asked, so I'd like to see what you all here think I should do.
 
that's a tough call. But I don't think anyone have ever said No to a better job before.
 
You have to think of what you want and what is good for you. If you stay in the current job knowing you could have had something better you will resent it and be angry with yourself the whole time for not taking the opportunity when it presented itself. Think about this: If your current employer, for whatever reason, decided you needed to be layed off; do you think they would think twice about it? I bet not. Do what is right for you. You can be assured any employer is doing what they think is right for them. Don't feel bad about letting your employer down by quitting. A job is a business transaction, you're not married to it.
 
Tough call and can appreciate what you are saying about the moral dilemma.
Mikeylove offers a good suggestion in his post.

Gone are the days of company loyalty to the employees in most cases. That was another year.

Ask yourself what would your new employer do to you if a sudden change in business climate dictated a rapid change in its financial structure to survive or increase profits and benefit the owners. Realizing you haven't been there long enough to have a clear view of how it might be handled however inside you have a idea of your employment status in this case.

Do what is best for yourself. While you can do this with class and tact I don't think you can worry about how it will be perceived as long as you are satisfied it was the best you could do.

edit: LOL City boy said about the same thing as me.
 
I'd take the offer. I would also go to my new boss, apologize and explain the situation after taking the offer. They will probably just go back over their applicant list and pick your runner up.

We're in a tough business climate. You have to look out for yourself.
 
Been there done that before, but here it is,

Listen to your heart and gut is feeling.

wiegh the pro's and con's

always look out for #1 -->you


and if you go to new one, just have a honest talk with your current boss and tell him that when you were applying for job's you had applied to a few and you just got a call back. Tell him it is a job that you were looking for but no postion was available at time. Prior to you taking current one.

Let him know that you will be taking the new postion but wanted to give him 2weeks notice for him to search for a new hire.

Never burn bridges, make sure you tell him your sorry but that the new job is more in line with what your field of work is and feel it would be a better fit for you.

If the new job is a competitor of your current job some boss'es just say "
you can leave now" . If he is a sensible person he should understand what you are telling him.

But dont just quit on him--dont burn bridges
 
Been there done that before, but here it is,

Listen to your heart and gut is feeling.

wiegh the pro's and con's

always look out for #1 -->you


and if you go to new one, just have a honest talk with your current boss and tell him that when you were applying for job's you had applied to a few and you just got a call back. Tell him it is a job that you were looking for but no postion was available at time. Prior to you taking current one.

Let him know that you will be taking the new postion but wanted to give him 2weeks notice for him to search for a new hire.

Never burn bridges, make sure you tell him your sorry but that the new job is more in line with what your field of work is and feel it would be a better fit for you.

If the new job is a competitor of your current job some boss'es just say "
you can leave now" . If he is a sensible person he should understand what you are telling him.

But dont just quit on him--dont burn bridges

Exactly what he said. Gone are the days of being loyal to an employer with hopes that you'll grow with a company (mostly) so if its good "go where the money is". Just make sure to give a 2 week notice if possible.
 
In less than 10 posts - I saw everything i wanted to -

Loyalty? there is none ! those days are gone -- they would not bat an eyelash if it came to giving you the boot -- they would not say (later) - oh but Josh has another offer when he first started, remember, and he stayed with us -- BULLPUSSY - they would fuck you without any grease in a heartbeat !

If the better offer is what you want - (obviously you applied there so you were interested - now they're interested in you ) so as was said - take it- and know that the current "new" job will get filled with the "second choice" probably -- and companies should be used to this --
especially this year !

Do you know how many times I've been told -- we're afraid you'll just take this as a temporary stop-gap an move on the minute something better comes along --
what they didn't understand is that with me, nothing better would be coming along - and if i got ANYTHING - I'd kiss their feet and hug them every day . but geeze, i'd have to get an interview and then an actual job offer first !!

Don't feel bad - you didn't sign a 2 year contract -- you accepted a position - with no promises on either end --
You can shitcan them just as fast as they can shitcan you !! (and that goes for the "better offer" people too - better hope that they remain in good condition and can pay you for a long time to come !!!
 
I would take the new job, who can pass up a larger paycheck? Also if there's more career opportunities at the new job, why pass it up?

I would give as much notice as you can to your current employer and move on to something better. I think the sooner, the better. If I was an employer, I wouldn't want to waste the time training an employee who's going to quit in a few weeks.
 
accept the new job offer and put your two weeks in at your current job

That's what i would do .
 
I would accept the better offer but do your current boss the courtesy of speaking to him (or her) rather than simply submitting your resignation. It will give you an opportunity to explain your situation and hopefully help to prevent any denting of your reputation in the industry.
 
Most employers understand that workers need to do what's best for them, and when a really good offer comes along, that you have to take it. And if they don't, you probably don't want to work for them anyway. :)
 
Take the better job, explain to your current boss. They'll be okay, and so will you.
 
That's always a tough call but these are tough times.

REMEMBER SOMETHING...in ANY new job, you probably have a "probation period". That is a two way street. It is an opportunity for the employer to examine you as well as a time for YOU to examine the employer. Legally, you do not need a "reason" to leave because you are on probation. By the same token, they do not really need a "reason" to let you go during a probation period. You could make use of the "probation" as a tool, if you wish. You can simply say that the job is not what you expected and, rather than waste anymore of their time and yours, you have chosen to move on. Business is business. If that is a "moral" issue for you then simply tell them the truth. However, they may counter the offer. If they do, do you still want to stay at a job that you admit is not as good as the new offer? If the new offer is that much better in all the ways you stated, I would not give them the chance to counter-offer. Simply bow out professionally and with dignity and respect.
 
Here are my thoughts, and I speak as having been an assistant manager for a dollar store for a year and a half (Sept 2008 to April 2010). Let me disclose out of fairness that I work in storefront retail - the absolute WORST-paid profession there is, and that the whole of my experience/frame of reference is viewed through that particular prism. And I worked under a wonderful store manager who felt - and still feels - the same way I do on this subject.

What I used to tell the new cashiers I used to work with, when I first met them, is that: "First, welcome aboard, and we're glad to have you. But Second, I'm letting you know now, that from years of experience, I know that storefront retail is, like, the worst-paid profession out there."

"I understand that the whole point of working is to have $$$ enough to pay the bills, take care of your living expenses, and have enough $$$ to just enjoy life, in general. With that said, if you find another job anywhere else that pays you better than what we could pay you...by all means, go for it. Cause, if you don't, I will. ;) We don't care if you take that better-paying job, and you just started here. All we ask, all we expect from you, all we want from you...is for you to just be straight up with us, and come and tell us that you got a better-paying job."

"Lord knows, times are hard enough for everybody - that's not news. But if, at anytime, you find a better job, just be honest with us that you're leaving, and why you're leaving. We will smile, give you a hug, and wish you well."

As a former boss, I would have 1,000,000,000,000,000 times more respect for a new hire who came and told me that he/she had found a better job than what we could pay them, and told me, "Look, there's a better opportunity over there than there is here". My old store manager and I have ZERO respect for someone who just quits out of the clear blue - no notice, no-call/no-show, no nothing. Even if you wanted to quit *this afternoon*, and I just hired you *yesterday*, all I ask of anybody who would work for me is that they be a person of character and come talk to me, first. I won't bite, I promise! ;)

I remember this one girl who worked for us for a week and a half. We instantly clicked with her, and she was great with the customers. Later that week, one of her applications she had sent out was for a new supermarket that was going up closer to where she lived. She had told us that they wanted to make her an hourly supervisor over the front checkouts (ie. more $$$). While we didn't like losing her, there was nothing we could do at store-level about increasing her starting pay rate. And we were happy for her that she'd found something better. Her last day with us was the Tuesday of the next week. My boss, the other assistant manager and I went in equal on a $30 gift card to Denny's.

Be a person of character: Even if you wanted to quit *today*, just be honest about it.

Hope that helps.
Thanks! :wave:
 
I'm always afraid of this happening to me. Luckily it hasn't, but I've planned if it does, I would just be upfront about it. Tell your employer you have just received an offer that is more suited to your career goals and pays more etc. In this economy, can anyone really blame you for trying to look out for yourself ;)?
 
Weigh the pros and cons, and where your heart lies in terms of career satifaction. You really have NO obligation to the new employer. you wont be able to list that job on a resume, so if that doesnt matter to you, move forward with the new, higher paying position.
 
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