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Just Told The Lad I Like That I Like Him...

mattyboi_aus said:
Hey Bi!

First off, just like everyone else has said, I think it's awesome that you have told him. I admire you're guts mate!!

About your latest message, the Friday night thing, you've made your feelings clear, you've told him, you've cuddled up...but somehow I don't quite think it has clicked for him. Maybe he's thinking something along the lines of "this is nice, but I still want to try for a girl"

I personally think you should continue along the lines that you are going already, and if you are ever in the lying down cuddle type position you describe...go a little further. Kiss him!! !oops!

He has allowed things to go this far, and he hasn't expressly said "there is a problem with this, I want it to stop." I don't think he knows quite what he wants.
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I tried so many times to kiss him but i thought to myself maybe i will give it a little longer before i do something like that, and you are right he has never said that this is a problem. i have asked him if he is comfortable with me doing things like that to him and he has said it is fine.
Unfortunately he is going away for a week on Friday so i wont see him till he gets back :( But he did say if you miss me that much then give me a ring or text me.
 
mattyboi_aus said:
Hey Bi!

First off, just like everyone else has said, I think it's awesome that you have told him. I admire you're guts mate!!

About your latest message, the Friday night thing, you've made your feelings clear, you've told him, you've cuddled up...but somehow I don't quite think it has clicked for him. Maybe he's thinking something along the lines of "this is nice, but I still want to try for a girl"

I personally think you should continue along the lines that you are going already, and if you are ever in the lying down cuddle type position you describe...go a little further. Kiss him!! !oops!

He has allowed things to go this far, and he hasn't expressly said "there is a problem with this, I want it to stop." I don't think he knows quite what he wants.
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Hi,

I agree with mattyboi above. Keep pushing it along and see what happens.

This business of the " ball is in his court now", "just be his good friend", is bullshit. It is going to drive you crazy.
 
Hi again guys... Since i first posted this thread i have only been talking about all the good stuff. I guess its time that i posted some other things about the lad i like... Well he is a big liar, i hate saying he is but i know he is, only lately his lies have been getting worse and worse... If you remember, i told you he stayed at mine the Friday just gone and that he was going round to this girls house the day after he stayed to "fuck" her, he said it wasnt the first time he has "fucked" her either. Well i told my other close friend who is a girl and to my surprise she is mates with the girl who he is apperently having sex with. This is where it gets interesting... My girl mate was talking to the other girl and asked her if she had been having sex with the other lad, and her response was :confused: "No i have not!"

Now why the hell has he said that he is having sex with a girl when he is not!! This isnt the first time he has said something like this because i have found out that these other girls he has done things with have no idea what i am talking about when i ask them :confused:

To be honest i think he is hiding something, or he wouldnt be telling me all these lies... it really upsets me that he is lying to me :(
 
Ok guys another update... he was supposed to be coming round to mine tomorrow but he has made up another lie to get out of it... today he was fine with me in college and then we were speaking on msn and he was back to his old ways (in the past he didnt like me that much) and just being really off with me, i dont get him at all and right now i couldnt care at all about him :(

I need your guys help with what to do... Should i just try and forget about him and find someone else or should i be persistent and hope it all works out???

Thanks Guys, im feeling kind of down at the moment :cry:
 
Again, proceed with caution. averageguy hit the nail on the head about not pressing too much.

It may be awful and tormenting for you right now, but he could also be wrestling with the same feelings, emotions.

Were I in the same situation, I'd make plans for another sleep over. See if he's willing to share the bed. You can all keep your clothes on if it make things more comfortable. This way, during the night, you can snuggle. And in the morning he's right there if he chooses to make a move. And in the morning if you feel up for it, go in for a kiss and see what happens. Be mindful, though, of body language that may signal "I'm not ready." You don't want to get hurt.

If it doesn't work, you still have a snuggle buddy. =]
 
Well hes confused me even more today... we were chatting away on msn and he decides to start saying i have a small penis... Yeah hes a big kid, but anyway before he started saying that he told me to go on webcam so i did. He then started saying that and i replied to him saying i could end this argument right now if i wanted and he said how... well eventually he clicked on and said i was bluffing and wouldnt do it, and for about another 5 minutes he kept saying i was bluffing and that i had a small cock, so after his constant going on and on i decided to show him and his reply was ewewewewew and then said i didnt think you would do it... Then we chatted for a little bit but his reponses were getting dirtier and dirtier, then he said to me are you alone, i responded yes because i was and then he said "suck my cock lol". Then a little bit later he said "can i ass rape you?" then the biggest one was "i think i might turn bi"

He has well confused me by this, because i dont really know many straight guys that would do or say things like that. So when i see him tomorrow i am just going to ask him out and see what he says.

I really do think he is bi but i cant be sure.
 
There are some I've met who will say some of those things jokingly.

But none, I've found, would have let you actually disrobe for them.

I'm telling ya dude, have him over tomorrow night.
 
looseliam said:
There are some I've met who will say some of those things jokingly.

But none, I've found, would have let you actually disrobe for them.

I'm telling ya dude, have him over tomorrow night.
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I would have him over tomorrow night but he goes away for a week saturday morning so he cant :(
I see him tomorrow so i am just going to ask him out then.
 
Chances are he likes guys.

Chances are that you're the first guy he's been with.

Chances are you're just an experiment to him.

Even if he's bi or gay (which is probably where the lies come from...insecurity), your feelings are probably going to get hurt.
 
It sounds like he has serious repression issues. While you are a healthy individual who accepts yourself for who you are, he does not. Don't be surprised if you find yourself going crazy over his behavior.
 
MindBlast said:
Chances are he likes guys.

Chances are that you're the first guy he's been with.

Chances are you're just an experiment to him.

Even if he's bi or gay (which is probably where the lies come from...insecurity), your feelings are probably going to get hurt.
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I too am afraid you are going to get hurt - - he might enjoy messing around with you - but he has a long ways to go to be able to express emotions to you.

take care ~
 
He says he wants to be "friends" and you "think" he's bi.

Go find a guy you don't have to chase. You never really catch those guys.
 
Well personally I can appreciate my friends for sex and for a friendship. But its hard after you actually have sex.

Maybe he feels this way and doesn't want to start anything with you because he wants to hold your friendship. I mean he did say he wanted to just be friends, can't really push that unless you know that he secretly likes/loves you.
 
I am actually starting to get angry with him now... I like this girl i know and have for a little while, but the thing is i introduced him to her and after me telling him that i like her he said that he likes her aswell! The thing is he just wants her for sex but i actually like her and it turns out she likes him aswell :cry: Its all my bloody fault for introducing them to each other. What worries me is if they end up going out with each other because it would really break my heart if the two people i like end up hooking up with each other, yes i know i am being jealous but for something like that to happen would put me in a pretty bad state. The only way those two usually see each other is when he is round at mine and she usually comes round to mine aswell. I then thought... if i dont want those two to see each other all i have to do is not invite him round to mine ever again, now thats not going to happen!

I just don't know what to do anymore because yesterday i broke down and ended up breaking my knuckle by punching the wall. You probably think i am stupid for doing something like that but i don't know what else i can do now.

Any advice would be greatly accepted...
Thanks Guys
 
Okay.............here's the thing. If the two of you were really meant to have a meaningful sexual relationship, it would have happened by now. All I see is a web of juvenile head games here and it is time for you to extricate yourself and tell your bud that you like him as friend and then cool everything down. Even the stealing the girlfriend thing and the jealousy thing and all the effort you are all wasting on this unecessary drama and angst...time to mature and start to develop healthy relationships....otherwise you might be establishing a pattern of behaviour that will last the rest of your life and it ain't pretty.

Good luck.
 
awww,this is too cute!
uhm.. forgive me.. ^^''

hmm.. i'm not one for headgames,
if i were you, i'd be completely honest with him, so that there are no misconceptions, express to him, with calm voice and determination what your true feelings about this situation are, honesty lasts longest.. and it is a good cornerstone for any healthy relationship.
keh...being bi and being in love with one of your best friends...
i guess this situation can indeed be very difficult..
i wonder... what is your attraction to him.. is it a crush? or is it...something more?
because if it is...know that if you truly love him, you also should know when to let go..

aah how beautiful ^^
i do hope it works out though
both of you seem very much confused
but i wish you two the best (*8*)
and do know.. that even if this doesn't work out,
it's not the end of the world ^.-

i hope you'll keep us informed
 
nijuusei said:
awww,this is too cute!
uhm.. forgive me.. ^^''

hmm.. i'm not one for headgames,
if i were you, i'd be completely honest with him, so that there are no misconceptions, express to him, with calm voice and determination what your true feelings about this situation are, honesty lasts longest.. and it is a good cornerstone for any healthy relationship.
keh...being bi and being in love with one of your best friends...
i guess this situation can indeed be very difficult..
i wonder... what is your attraction to him.. is it a crush? or is it...something more?
because if it is...know that if you truly love him, you also should know when to let go..

aah how beautiful ^^
i do hope it works out though
both of you seem very much confused
but i wish you two the best (*8*)
and do know.. that even if this doesn't work out,
it's not the end of the world ^.-

i hope you'll keep us informed
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Your right it isn't the end of the world... I am still young and have the rest of my life to live and right now the rest of my life has stopped because of all this. You asked if it is a crush... Its definetely not that, and that is why i am finding it so much more difficult to move on and find somebody else. My head is all over the place because i know that we could have some sort of sexual relationship between us but he would never commit to have anything else but that.

Thanks for all the support you have been giving me guys (*8*) I will keep you updated on things when he gets back off his holiday...
 
Its been a while guys but he got back off his holiday today and i couldn't be more happy :D
I was chatting to him for a bit on msn and we were just playing some of the msn games and he randomly asks me if i am bi... i replied: now where is all this coming from lol, then said i dont really know to be honest but i am pretty sure i am bi... that was the end of it. I sat there for a little bit, confused to why he asked me, he knows that i am so why ask me again.
A little later i asked him if he likes any girls at the moment and he said, i like alot of girls at the moment, i then asked him who they were and he said you dont know any of them so i said thats more reason why you can tell me who they are and he still said no he isn't telling me who they are...
Do you think he just trying to make me jealous and mess with my head or that he has some feelings for me deep down inside?

Anyway i am going to bed soon... its getting late and i havent had much sleep. Night guys x
 
BiAndSingle said:
A little later i asked him if he likes any girls at the moment and he said, i like alot of girls at the moment,
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A nice follow up would have been something like, "so, do you like any guys at the moment too?" He could either say yes or laugh it off.... Would be low risk on your part.
 
Hi guys... This will be my final update. Obviously not good news, but he told a friend of mine the other day that he is uncomfortable around me and that he really is straight... Of course i am crushed by this, and considering he will be going out with one my best mates who is a girl by the way has devasted me even more. They arent going out with each other at the moment but they both like each other, so it looks like they will soon. I will be on my way back home soon, well my other home... I will be miles and miles away from all the bad memories and be back living with my dad by tomorrow night. You probably think i am stupid running away from my problems, but there is just to many bad things that have happened in the last 6 years that i have been living here.

Thank You So Much For All The Support And Advice You Have Given Me (*8*)
 
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