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... OR you could just say it to him ???

Passing a note is... cute... but maybe a little bit Jr. High?

Who knows... he might be charmed by the gesture. I'm trying to think how I'd feel in his place...

The only time I can think of where I was in a similar situation was in a gay bar. I was at the urinal taking a leak, and some guy who liked me followed me in there and started talking to me, and handed me his number in my mid-piss.

... needless to say I wasn't amused, and never called him.
 
There's this guy that I am supposed going on a date with on friday. He is a sweet guy and decent looking [already sucked him off] but his voice is just so grating [very thick Italian accent] that I just cannot get past that.
 
Well, I'm kinda not exactly thrilled with the guy who's doing construction work on my studio, but not for the reason you think.

He's a friend of my boss who lives in my apartment complex. He's getting married on the 26th, and the bachelor and bachelorette parties were supposed to be on the 19th. In addition to being my boss's housekeeper, I'm also his and his girlfriend's personal assistant, and as such was actually going to required to go to one of the parties. And honestly, I was looking forward to them - living a little, getting out of my humdrum routine, and perhaps even getting into a little mischief. ..|

[ insert record scratch ]

Unfortunately, there will be no mischief. Because there will be no parties. Turns out, the groom wrote a hot check, and after my boss did some investigating on his own, turns out the hot check in question also has a warrant attached to it. Since my boss is this guy's best man, he paid the groom's hot check and warrant - I think about $470-some-odd bucks all totaled.

So that right there was the groom's bachelor party, the bride's bachelorette party, and their wedding present from my boss and his gf. You get to keep your ass out of jail, and get to go forward with the wedding.

My boss likes it, because he actually came out about $150 cheaper by doing this, and I like it, because the guy gets to stay out of jail and build my damn studio. Although I would have like to have gone to the parties. :(
 
So yesterday, October 11th was my birthday. I came back home very late....and as usual, my mother was waiting for me.

She gave me some money and bought a small cake for me.


I was really hoping she will forget about my birthday. But she always remember every year without fail.


I don't know ....I just feel so bad and guilty.


I feel like telling her, "It's okay if you forget about my birthday. I won't blame you. I don't need you to give me money or buy a cake for me every year..."
 
travis82 said:
So yesterday, October 11th was my birthday. I came back home very late....and as usual, my mother was waiting for me.

She gave me some money and bought a small cake for me.


I was really hoping she will forget about my birthday. But she always remember every year without fail.


I don't know ....I just feel so bad and guilty.


I feel like telling her, "It's okay if you forget about my birthday. I won't blame you. I don't need you to give me money or buy a cake for me every year..."
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Thinking too much can be injurious to ones health.

In your place I would have thanked your mother for her kindness.

Be grateful for your mother's thoughtful act of love remembering your birthday.

Your posts indicate a heightened level of negativity that might suggest you are severely depressed....perhaps talking over your issues with a mature, older friend, or acquaintance might assist you better cope with your life by assuming a much more optimistic approach to living your life.
 
borg69unimatrix said:
... OR you could just say it to him ???

Passing a note is... cute... but maybe a little bit Jr. High?

Who knows... he might be charmed by the gesture. I'm trying to think how I'd feel in his place...

The only time I can think of where I was in a similar situation was in a gay bar. I was at the urinal taking a leak, and some guy who liked me followed me in there and started talking to me, and handed me his number in my mid-piss.

... needless to say I wasn't amused, and never called him.
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Okay.....it's just that sometimes, I feel more better expressing myself through writing than talking.
 
kallipolis said:
Thinking too much can be injurious to ones health.

In your place I would have thanked your mother for her kindness.

Be grateful for your mother's thoughtful act of love remembering your birthday.

Your posts indicate a heightened level of negativity that might suggest you are severely depressed....perhaps talking over your issues with a mature, older friend, or acquaintance might assist you better cope with your life by assuming a much more optimistic approach to living your life.
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Thank you for your advices.....

I do feel depressed and sad most of the times.....


I find it quite hard for me to be overly excited, extremely happy, laughing and joking around every day.


Maybe it's my personality. A lot of people say that I'm shy and quiet. I get that a lot.
 
Confidence is HOT... even if you have to fake it sometimes.

Believe me, by being meek about it could really be a turn off to him. It just comes across as wishy washy, and like you're only half interested. Someday you're going to ask a boss for a raise... are you going to walk in his office with your head held high with determination, or are you going to slip a note under his door and hope he takes you seriously???
 
travis82 said:
Thank you for your advices.....

I do feel depressed and sad most of the times.....


I find it quite hard for me to be overly excited, extremely happy, laughing and joking around every day.


Maybe it's my personality. A lot of people say that I'm shy and quiet. I get that a lot.
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I'm also shy, and reserved but manage to avoid being depressed....by adopting a much more positive response to my daily challenges.

How we respond to those issues that trouble us determines our ability to achieve results that raise our self esteem, and create a much more fulfilling life....

Take another look at your diet, ensure that you are eating a variety of vegetables daily, also consume seasonal fruits daily....avoid convenience foods....for a poor diet often contributes to a feeling of worthlessness for lack of good nutrition.

Remain positive, and patient...
 
If you guys ever go on a date with someone, don't tell your date that you can't make it because you're spending the night at your sisters 40 minutes before the date....
 
I wish I worked with more responsible people. People need to realize that you're going to miss out of things because of work and people can't keep changing their schedule on the spot for you.
 
i hate when people try to push their stresses, struggles and miseries on to you when they're down BUT yet when they see you struggling, stressed out, and miserable for years on end, they don't even give a fuck. they're like "as long as you're able to do whatever we want you to do. fuck your pain or whatever you're going through". some nerve. i'm trying to deal with my own issues and you know this. the fuck are you tossing your shit to me for? and it's not like you weren't dealing with that shit before i was born too. that's not fair to me. i'm supposed to save myself and you @ the same time. yeah, we family BUT @ the same time, how much of an effort have you made to get yourself out this situation instead of prolonging it for whatever reason. you keep saying that you're afraid and you don't know what to do BUT you had like what 30 years to figure it out by now.
 
^That was me in my early 20s. People would come to me all the time when they were stressed out and abuse me as therapy but would never return the favor when I had issued needing discussion. I was seen as a refuge for them because on the surface, it seemed like I had my shit together. The petty bullshit I just let it go but on the more "serious" stuff, I can't deal with that anymore from others. I tell them to go take a prozac or xanex now.
 
maxpowr9 said:
^That was me in my early 20s. People would come to me all the time when they were stressed out and abuse me as therapy but would never return the favor when I had issued needing discussion. I was seen as a refuge for them because on the surface, it seemed like I had my shit together. The petty bullshit I just let it go but on the more "serious" stuff, I can't deal with that anymore from others. I tell them to go take a prozac or xanex now.
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they don't realize how draining that shit is for real. don't know what they're expecting to happen. talking about it is one thing. actually making a change is another.
 
One thing I've learned is that these avenues tend to be one-way. If you've been somebody's sounding board and agony aunt and shoulder-to-cry-on for years, when you suddenly need one, do NOT go to them. The few times I've tried, I've gotten responses that mainly boil down to "No, YOU're the strong one in this relationship - YOU're supposed to help ME."

Lex
 
^I used to do that too. Learned that pretty quickly. I have two people I go to now for when I need that "chat". It's not often but they are there for me when I need to. Reckon one of them does "bitch" to me too and it works out perfectly.

As refuji pointed out, it's when you get into the "cycle rants" that you need to just back away. The...

"I'm depressed because I'm fat. I'm fat because I eat too much. I eat too much because I'm depressed..." ad nauseam.

Unless they themselves are willing to break the cycle, it's a complete waste of time listening to what they have to say.
 
I'm just glad somebody took the time to finally say "LEX, I don't want my problems SOLVED! I want my problems LISTENED TO!"

Lex
 
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