and on an unrelated note... I can't decide if I'm being a dick to my roommate or just having an appropriate reaction. he recently confessed to me that he's been in an exclusive relationship for the past 3 months. I'm feeling a mix of disappointment (that he felt like he couldn't talk about this with me) and annoyance (that he let me throw myself at him for 3 months, making me feel like a total chump).
I'm getting the feeling like he wants me to give my permission for the boyfriend to sleep over, but I'm not biting. mostly because I don't want a total stranger in my house (and it's bad enough having one freeloading roommate much less 2), but there's definitely an undercurrent of me just passive aggressively wanting to express my annoyance by not helping him.
on the better side, during honesty-palooza '13 (when he confessed to having a boyfriend and proceeded to unload 6 months worth of relationship drama on me, with the current guy and other guys he'd been dating and hiding from me) I told him how much it fucking annoyed me that he didn't pick up after himself. it's gotten me at least 3 days of him doing his dishes and taking out the trash