just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

[FuryOfFirestorm]

I'm addicted to Cinnamon Toast Crunch.

I prefer Golden Grahams. Same great texture, without the cloying sugar and cinnamon. Not a fan of super sweet cereals (Corn Pops were created by Satan) and I really hate anything that goes overboard on the cinnamon.

 

[justanothershyguy]

I came out to a couple of friends last night.

And just a few minutes ago, I got a text from an unknown number saying, "We know you are gay."

I guess I'm a little creeped out, but more curious.

Yay! Congrats

Well, you could try to creep them out in return, or just say you dropped your phone in water and lost your contacts a while ago.... lmao

 

[refujiunderground]

You know, I will never not be amused by people who need to equate height with power or dominance and then equate dominance with being the "top."

I can't. It's so elementary.

I also feel the same when I constantly overhear women talk shit on short men. This is the kinda shit that makes me the most insistent on solitude. I simply can't deal with human beings and their way of thinking.

there's a lot of guys that are like that outthere though that let's their height either stroke their ego or hurt their confidence. you have the tall dude that thinks he's special because he's 6 feet and you have the short guy that is all sad about how short he is because of other people talking shit about short people.

never understood why so many people give a fuck about height though. *shrugs* i treat everybody the same, short, tall, medium sized or whatever. whenever someone tries to play that height game bullshit such as "you're short so you're going to be the bottom or my sex toy", i correct them right away because i don't let my height dictate shit. i will hurt a tall guy if i have to to show how much i really care about that shit. i can't fight so better believe i'm going to grab me a baseball bat and swing off. folks need to learn not to judge a book by its cover because they might be surprised what's in that shit.

I came out to a couple of friends last night.

And just a few minutes ago, I got a text from an unknown number saying, "We know you are gay."

I guess I'm a little creeped out, but more curious.

well, no offense but judging from your pic, even a blind man could see that shit. congrats btw.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Found this by accident, and laughed my ASS off !!!

 

[The Fly]

Hey guys...will you do me a favor for the next couple of days? or permanently...if you can manage it...

When you're out and about and find yourself interacting with strangers (whether it be in passing, or whatever)...be sure to smile, or speak when you can. Even if they don't return it...smile and/or nod at them anyway.

You never know what people are going through inside.

I've been in some of the worst moods some days, but because I had a random person go out of their way to speak to me, or simply smile at me...it made me feel so much better.

I actually do this all the time, just by habit, and it does make people smile. And their smile in turn will make you feel good. It's a simple gesture that can make a difference.

 

[oakpope]

I need a boyfriend. Now.

 

[Kiwils]

Funny, I thought I'd feel more connected to the gay community by being on here, but it's had the opposite effect. I feel even more disconnected and detached. Maybe I'm just looking in the wrong place(s).

It could just be all the crap I'm dealing with right now. Maybe I'll feel differently after a, much needed, week long break. Have an uncle coming to the US during spring break, so my family's going to show him around NY and other neighboring states. Gonna have a going away party for my grandma too, since she's going back with my uncle 'cause she might pass away soon and that's where she wants to be.

 

[FuryOfFirestorm]

Hey guys...will you do me a favor for the next couple of days? or permanently...if you can manage it...

When you're out and about and find yourself interacting with strangers (whether it be in passing, or whatever)...be sure to smile, or speak when you can. Even if they don't return it...smile and/or nod at them anyway.

You never know what people are going through inside.

I've been in some of the worst moods some days, but because I had a random person go out of their way to speak to me, or simply smile at me...it made me feel so much better.

Totally agree. When I see someone smiling - even a stranger - I feel so much better, no matter how bad my day was.

I try to be courteous to every one, say "Please" and "Thank You", address others by "Sir" or "Miss", excuse myself if I'm in someone's way or bump into them, and hold the door open for ladies, the elderly and handicapped persons. I might sound like a goody-two shoes (Not quite), but it takes more effort to be an asshole than polite.

 

[maxpowr9]

Totally agree. When I see someone smiling - even a stranger - I feel so much better, no matter how bad my day was.

I try to be courteous to every one, say "Please" and "Thank You", address others by "Sir" or "Miss", excuse myself if I'm in someone's way or bump into them, and hold the door open for ladies, the elderly and handicapped persons. I might sound like a goody-two shoes (Not quite), but it takes more effort to be an asshole than polite.

In terms of customer service, I have an involuntary reaction to be nice to others. I hardly ever smile [I guess it's an Eastern European thing] but will still be courteous.

Even when I was at the store today picking up ginger ale for my fernet, I said "have a nice day" without a second thought.

 

[FuryOfFirestorm]

Funny, I thought I'd feel more connected to the gay community by being on here, but it's had the opposite effect. I feel even more disconnected and detached. Maybe I'm just looking in the wrong place(s).

It could just be all the crap I'm dealing with right now. Maybe I'll feel differently after a, much needed, week long break. Have an uncle coming to the US during spring break, so my family's going to show him around NY and other neighboring states. Gonna have a going away party for my grandma too, since she's going back with my uncle 'cause she might pass away soon and that's where she wants to be.

I feel you. I recently had to take a break from Tumblr, because seeing everyone on there with their shit together made me feel like my life was a waste. I had to take a step back and realize that

1) My life isn't perfect, but it's up to me to make it better.

2) Stop comparing my self to other people.

3) The grass is always greener on Tumblr. I'm only seeing the shiny paint job, not the rotting foundation underneath. Just because someone takes a lot of pretty pictures with their BF doesn't mean their life is peaches and cream.

Take as much time off the internet that you need, handle the crap you've been dealt, use this time to connect with your family. Good luck!

 

[Lefty]

WOW Kiwils, just WOW

You win the AWARD for March.
Hit every part of this threads title and
hit short jabs but Hard as hell ones.

Attempts at humour aside.

Reach out here a bit man.

Connection is a two way street and

it's paved with communication.

You need/want to talk

people here will listen.

Our highway has a place for your car.​

 

[dereperez]

Hey guys...will you do me a favor for the next couple of days? or permanently...if you can manage it...

When you're out and about and find yourself interacting with strangers (whether it be in passing, or whatever)...be sure to smile, or speak when you can. Even if they don't return it...smile and/or nod at them anyway.

You never know what people are going through inside.

I've been in some of the worst moods some days, but because I had a random person go out of their way to speak to me, or simply smile at me...it made me feel so much better.

I actually do this all the time, though not necessarily always consciously. There are so many things one can be negative about in this world (even the news seem to focus on these events) so why not do the simple little things that can make people feel better. I notice that a genuine smile is almost always reciprocated.

 

[ElmosToe]

It's time to get my butt out of the Midwest.... It's March 22 and 30 degrees. We're expecting snow tomorrow. Had my heart set on setting up some veggie gardens this weekend. wtf.

But yeah Kiwis takes it by far.

 

[MissAnne]

reality is...there's no timetable. People reach different 'heights' in their life at different times.
.

Yes, yes. I run into people from high school and Ill ask "So what are you up to ?" and some of them reply. "Oh, I just went to Community". I think: What do you mean you just went to Community. They have an associates that they should be proud of.

I do it too, I compare myself with people that are already in Master or Phd programs. I try to be most grateful for the things that Ive accomplished. It can be difficult though, so I get it.

 

[Callum]

reality is...there's no timetable. People reach different 'heights' in their life at different times.

Truth. Sexuality crisis, religious crisis, wicked mental health issues, attempted suicide, still trooping along. Haven't peaked yet. Best friend peaked at 21...house, car, 47$/h contractor. He's 28 now and a total fucking emotional mess.

Can't deal with the "what-ifs", and as much as I sometimes do, the "what can be" is more powerful.

 

[refujiunderground]

man, my stomach is bothering me right now. feel like i want to throw up.

 

[Kiwils]

Just so there's no misunderstanding, I wasn't coming from a place of anger. I also wasn't trying to imply anything negative concerning this site or the people on it. If anything, knowing how great some people are on here only exacerbates my disappointment in feeling the way I do. Certain people here, especially on this specific thread, have been quite nice to me. I guess I just thought I'd feel some sense of belonging, instead of feeling further out of place.

@Lefty I'm sure it's very much my own fault. I'm very closed off, even with family. Outside of casual conversation and activities, I feel no need to interact with them. As much as friends and family vent to me and ask me for advice, you'd think I'd be comfortable enough to reciprocate.

 

[justanothershyguy]

Just so there's no misunderstanding, I wasn't coming from a place of anger. I also wasn't trying to imply anything negative concerning this site or the people on it. If anything, knowing how great some people are on here only exacerbates my disappointment in feeling the way I do. Certain people here, especially on this specific thread, have been quite nice to me. I guess I just thought I'd feel some sense of belonging, instead of feeling further out of place.

I didn't take anything negative from it. JUB is a very interesting place. I've met some really cool people, and some not-so-cool people. But you know what? That's how life is. Some people say hi, some people don't. Some people stop and talk, some people walk on by like it's none of their business. What I've learned about JUB is that it's really no different than what's out there in real life. You only get to see some sides of people. It's not always the best and it's not always the worst.

So you know what I say? Smile and take JUB for what it is: a place where bigots are in the vast minority. A place where you could be a prancing pony and nobody would give a shit.

 

[ElmosToe]

JUB...A place where you could be a prancing pony and nobody would give a shit.

Awesome quote!

 

[Lefty]

Kiki

This is going to be difficult for me seeing as how you are a New Yorker and all, but we of the Left Coast
have learned that a few (RonBoy and 'DQ' for example) of you are worth saving. You personally can't be
all bad since our little Shy-Ster admits you are a friend.
-------------------------------------------------------
Now, humour moment is over my serious opinion begins...

This thread started out as therapy for RJ/fuji. He created it to confront the items in its' title. Amazing,
it has helped him but even more amazing the other people it has helped do the same things. The size of
the issue has no weight here. The person does. It is not a judgemental place, it is a place where you
shake out anxieties, share them or air them or both. Kind of a pressure valve and a damn useful one at
that.

Stick dude, there's lots of places to go, learn grow and even have a bit of fun. BTW, I think its' fantastic
that you grandmother ...a. knows she wants to finish on this plane near where she started. b. it is a wish
or desire she can still attend to and c. a family member will be there for support. We should all be so very
fortunate.

End of lecture, welcome to the Chiaroscuro that is JUB.