^ I didn't know your mom was from England? Was she born and raised there?
That's interesting to me, as my partner is English.
Also: it really does make me feel bad that you're in such a crazy situation with your parents, 'fuji. Have you ever considered taking your mother along with you to therapy sessions or anything? It sounds as if she's so "used to" and comfortable with the hell she has gotten herself into that she doesn't go all the way with seeking a way out of it.
One can sit around all day and complain/talk about making changes...but until you actually get up and start doing something about making those changes happen...well...you know.
somehow, i ended up being sent to one of the backpages while responding to this.
why the fuck does this keep happening to me?
your partner's english?
cool. the english really don't give a fuck.
my mom's from jamaica. she was raised by her grandmother from the time she was a baby because her mom moved over to england after her father went up there to set up a home base for the rest of the family. she moved to england when she was 13 to live with her parents who sent for her to live with them along with her other sisters. i don't know exactly everything that happened but my mom and her mother didn't get along where her mom would belittle her, basically putting her down, saying she wasn't going to be shit and she had some issues with her sisters since they didn't grow up together. she had anxiety and depression issues. she basically went off to the army so she could get away from her issues at home and be out on her own. whatever issues she had, she pretty much tried to ignore them and move on with her life but it turns out that her issues that she's been avoiding, trying to handle on her on apparently led to the choices that she's been making all her life which have been some decisions that are kicking her in the ass today. unfortunately, she passed some of that shit down to me.
i've tried to encourage her to go to counseling with me but she isn't interested. she was one of the people around me that had discouraged me the longest from even getting involved with that telling me that i was better off ignoring it or dealing with it myself. she has gone to therapy on her own to see somebody and she stopped going because she didn't get anything that she wanted from it. she doesn't get it. like you said, she is too comfortable with her situation but i think that she refuses to accept that she needs help. she thinks that accept that she may have a problem on her hands where she needs to get serious help will take away her independence when it's the other way around. like she is literally hurting herself to keep a marriage alive that isn't working and trying to help someone who has no interest in helping himself. if my mother didn't come into my father's life, he would probably still be homeless or living in some apartment shack in brooklyn basically fucking up his money.
it makes me cringe thinking about my father, man. he REALLY irks me and he doesn't think he's fucked up. the man literally doesn't care about himself and basically uses other people for what he can get out of them. as long as i've known him, dude doesn't buy any clothes of his own. my mom has brought him damn near everything. even his underwear. he'll wear my clothes too and not give a fuck. he'll even wear my fucking draws, man that can't even fucking fit him. i had some boxer briefs that were 32-34 that i've been wearing for years and recently, dude decides to fucking stuffed his overweight ass into them. i tried to wear them and that shit has stretched to the point where it fucking falls off of me.
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2 weeks ago, dude stole some pants my mom brought for my brother and claiming that it was his. he literally argued with my mom saying that those pants that couldn't fit him was his because he wanted them. i really can't stand his ass. dude will be the first person to tell someone what to do, what to eat, how to dress, try to make someone feel stupid while making himself out to be some genius or something BUT yet he'll turn around and use that person for money to for whatever he wants talking about "he doesn't have money for work". the motherfucker has a job, spends his money foolishly on lottery tickets, scratch offs, liquor and who knows what else then turn around saying "can i please borrow your money?"
just dealing with my father, i want to move the fuck out BUT damn, it ain't as easy as one, two, three like i wish it would be.
what was she expecting? she thinks that trying to be superwoman trying to help a fucking sociopath who doesn't give a fuck about even his own damn self and is also a narcissist is going to turn out well. i feel that i'm being burdened with someone elses problem and they expect me to do something for them that they should have been done for themselves. 
horrible.
Nick produce some of the best stuff during these times. Disney and CN too. I know CN use to air the black and white movies at midnight during cable channel and sometimes I stay up late to watch them