I wish to hell that the friends I housekeep for would stop outing me to everyone they know and meet!
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An hour ago, I had dinner at their place with one of the girlfriend's coworkers who actually lives down the street between them and I. The girlfriend's coworker has been having car trouble, and so my boss/friend and a friend of his who lives in my apartment complex came to the coworker's apartment to fix on her car.
So fast-forward to earlier tonight, an hour ago. My friends I housekeep for, the coworker, and the coworker's kids (11yr old son and toddler daughter) were all sitting around the dinner table with me, when my friends made the conversation about me, and how I'm coming along. The coworker started to talk to me about things I need to correct and work on, because "no woman would want to be around that."
That's when my friend/boss stepped in (oh, boy, here we go... /facepalm), "Let me set the record straight about one thing - He (me) bats for your team."
The coworker: "Wait, what?"
My boss's girlfriend: "He's gay."
That's when I said in a very low voice, almost a whisper, "I'm going to leave." The only reason I didn't is that where I sat at the dinner table, I'm literally physically trapped in until someone else beside me gets up and moves. In this case, it was the coworker's 11yr old son.
In my head I'm like "Wow! Really? Like really really?" Really classy. You told a woman, who may be your girlfriend's coworker, and she's a very nice lady I'm sure, and I've met her a few times at your girlfriend's store, but she's still more or less a complete stranger to me. She really didn't need to know that I'm gay. And to broadcast that adult like that while there are young children present - Dude, what the hell were you thinking?
Thankfully, the coworker took both my boss and his girlfriend to task, and basically said what I was thinking.
It gets on my last damn nerves when they out me to complete strangers like that. He and his girlfriend are good people who have done a lot for me, and have helped me out a lot. And part of me thinks that why they don't really get it that it's not at all cool to out me to everybody we know is because they're straight, and that's only something a gay/lgbt person would truly understand. It's been my experience that you have to be gay yourself to really get and comprehend why it's actually quite offensive to out somebody like they keep doing to me over, and over, and over again. Nobody has ever had to be outed as straight. Especially over dinner, especially in mixed company, and especially when there are small children present.
, and relax my mind even further, I'm hoping I'll be good to go, so that I can focus more.
