just venting, airing out, talking shit, personal beefs, problems, anger management, and etc thread

[maxpowr9]

Careful there -- you can get socked by the postal service for vandalism of US property for that (whether you had to buy it or they did, all mail boxes in the US are considered property of the post office).

My neighbor is too derpy to do anything about it. He's the one that shoots off fireworks on the 4th which are illegal in MA and burns his brush, particularly pine, in his backyard stinking up the entire neighborhood. Never mind violating leash laws and pooper scooper laws in the town.

Anyway, I had some friends over for kicks and I put a bottle of fernet on the coffee table after dinner and only one puke victim. So disappointed.

 

[Kulindahr]

My neighbor is too derpy to do anything about it. He's the one that . . . burns his brush, particularly pine, in his backyard stinking up the entire neighborhood.

I had a neighbor who did that and just cursed me for suggesting she follow the law, when I commented on the fact that the fumes from the trash she threw in were dangerous to my lungs. I mentioned it to a fireman, who mentioned it to the chief, who sent a message back saying next time she did it call.

I called. They showed up with a truck and crew, and hosed down not just the fire barrel but the entire back yard. Then they charged her $2000 or so for the house call because it was a violation. When they found plastic and PT lumber in the remains, they slammed her with another fine, for unlawful toxic emissions.

The judge reduced the fines, but since the chief had reported that she was burning trash when someone she knew had health problems lived next door ordered her to take a class at the community college, one that dealt with smoke and toxicity (in the firefighter certification program), at her own expense.

 

[maxpowr9]

So one of my friend's husband is at Biden's holiday party right now and my friend sent me a pic of his hubby with Joe and Jill. How'd he get in? He does their makeup!

 

[darden]

fuuck. totally forgot that my boyfriend owes me $700.

3 months later, I almost feel weird even bringing it up. (when we took vacation back in the fall, I put the whole thing on my credit card and he was going to write me a check to cover his half the following week after he got paid)

 

[pat grimshaw]

... $700...

That's cheap for conjugal rights. Did you have a pre-nup?

 

[maxpowr9]

That's cheap for conjugal rights. Did you have a pre-nup?

That's a codependency relationship waiting to happen. Hope the sex is great because you will end up paying for that indirectly.

 

[cgymike]

Careful there -- you can get socked by the postal service for vandalism of US property for that (whether you had to buy it or they did, all mail boxes in the US are considered property of the post office).

Not true..you can get your own mail box. It's yours not anyone else's.

 

[maxpowr9]

Not true..you can get your own mail box. It's yours not anyone else's.

Yep. That is only for destruction of mail and NOT the mailbox. HUGE difference there.

Any who, I just got an extremely awkward text from my "not single" guy in Chicago saying he can't wait to meet up with me when he gets back home next week. Almost feel bad for his BF but it's his problem, not mine.

 

[Kulindahr]

Not true..you can get your own mail box. It's yours not anyone else's.

If it's used for US mail, then it's theirs. You can't allow anyone else to put anything in it -- I know it seems silly but courts keep upholding that -- and you can't do anything to harm either yours or anyone else's... they'll get you for vandalism, or if you mess it up bad enough, for interfering with the delivery of the mail.

My dad had a tenant who had to go to court over it for filling someone's mailbox with expanding insulation foam -- the gal got a hefty fine and had to pay to replace the mailbox.

A clear statement from an interesting source:

A U.S. Postal Service press release dated September 9, 2010 says, “The U.S. Postal Service would like to warn people that only authorized U.S. Postal Service delivery personnel are allowed to place items in a mailbox. By law, a mailbox is intended only for receipt of postage-paid U.S. Mail….. the Postal Service has received complaints of flyers without paid postage being placed in mailboxes. … this type of activity is illegal by federal law.”

The Postal Service's Domestic Mail Manual states, “No part of a mail receptacle may be used to deliver any matter not bearing postage, including items of matter placed upon, supported by, attached to, hung from, or inserted into a mail receptacle….” Even though homeowners purchase and maintain the residential mailboxes, the mailboxes belong to and are controlled by the U.S. Postal Service. That means that any tampering or misuse of the mailbox is a federal offense that comes with substantial penalties.

Here's an example that IIRC was discussed briefly on JUB:

http://articles.latimes.com/2002/jan/03/local/me-19918


You can look in the manual yourself: http://pe.usps.com/text/dmm300/dmm300_landing.htm

I find this law that applies -- there may also be more:

Whoever willfully or maliciously injures, tears down or destroys any letter box or other receptacle intended or used for the receipt or delivery of mail on any mail route, or breaks open the same or willfully or maliciously injures, defaces or destroys any mail deposited therein, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than three years, or both.

So the moment you have a box that says it's for US mail, nothing else can be delivered there (though, interestingly, they don't care if you actually put it there yourself so long as it has postage!).

 

[mikey3000]

A friend of mine recently left his wife and kids, jumped on the gay bus, and got a boyfriend two months ago. Almost from the get go he's been drunk with this guy daily. Should I be concerned or just let him be?

 

[Kulindahr]

A friend of mine recently left his wife and kids, jumped on the gay bus, and got a boyfriend two months ago. Almost from the get go he's been drunk with this guy daily. Should I be concerned or just let him be?

Yes, and yes.

 

[maxpowr9]

My entire week has just been a series of unrelated awkward moments.

My ex's roommate texted me at 2am [probably drunk] asking if I could call him. I obviously didn't but still fucked up.

 

[mikey3000]

Yes, and yes.

. Now I really am worried.

 

[Kulindahr]

. Now I really am worried.

LOL

Be concerned, but don't butt in. Be ready to listen a lot and well if he comes to you -- or if she does, for that matter. Offer no advice, but point out possibilities (including the ridiculous and hilarious; they can help a person step back from something to think more clearly about it).

 

[darden]

That's a codependency relationship waiting to happen. Hope the sex is great because you will end up paying for that indirectly.

no, I just need to remind him.

he offered to pay me straight away, but there was something I can't remember going on and I told him to wait (I think we were running errands and he said he'd go to the bank to takeout cash, but then I was like "no, just write me a check when we get back" and then I think it just slipped from both of our minds).

completely forgot about it until I was looking at my bank statement the other day.

 

[JPGhost]

Actually..without throwing tantrum, I'd try to be calm when I accidentally burn my carpet with blow dryer
just today because I spilled my aquarium waste water onto the carpet

 

[JPGhost]

and when I tried to find tut of 'how to'
this vid didn't help

and this vid: 'handsome guy but too much "ummm, ahhhhh, sometimes it's ummmm uuuahhh a bit uuuuhhhh "

 

[jasoncrew03]

My dumbass nephew is making me a great uncle at 22.

Teenagers are so fucking stupid.

 

[cgymike]

If it's used for US mail, then it's theirs. You can't allow anyone else to put anything in it -- I know it seems silly but courts keep upholding that -- and you can't do anything to harm either yours or anyone else's... they'll get you for vandalism, or if you mess it up bad enough, for interfering with the delivery of the mail.

My dad had a tenant who had to go to court over it for filling someone's mailbox with expanding insulation foam -- the gal got a hefty fine and had to pay to replace the mailbox.

A clear statement from an interesting source:




Here's an example that IIRC was discussed briefly on JUB:

http://articles.latimes.com/2002/jan/03/local/me-19918


You can look in the manual yourself: http://pe.usps.com/text/dmm300/dmm300_landing.htm

I find this law that applies -- there may also be more:



So the moment you have a box that says it's for US mail, nothing else can be delivered there (though, interestingly, they don't care if you actually put it there yourself so long as it has postage!).

Yeah but mine here doesn't. It's owned by me and I bought it in Lethbridge AB. I own it and when I move again it goes with me. Looking around this neighborhood many have wooden boxes. Some quite creative. And yeah they own them.

 

[jdcnow]

My Christmas Wish...