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justifying why you date men

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BI guys: Do gay men say shit to you like, "since you have the ability to choose between guys and girls, why would you just not stick to having relationships with girls since it is socially more acceptable? " how would you respond to that question? do you feel guilty for preferring to (or having more of an emotional attraction to) date guys instead of girls? I guess I ask these questions cause it seems like bi guys on here seem to feel the need to justify wanting to be in a LTR with a guy because alot of gay guys will give them a hard time about going after what they want instead of doing what society tells them to do. It seems that some bi guys are afraid to admit they prefer guys and be open about it (no offense to anyone on this lovely site!) I dont understand why people have to justify what they like
 
I don't feel a need nor compelled to justify anything I do to anyone as long as it is a legal activity. After all, I am over the age of 21 and considered a free man. I am who I am and just do what I do. As long as the other party is agreeable it is none of your beeswax.
 
For every bi guy its different. I'm in a relationship with a woman now and its the first in several years. I've been in relationships with guys as well but have never once felt guilt over it nor was I looking for attention. No gay person that I know has really asked the question like that. Most are sincere and are really curious. I agree about what you said and how no one should have to justify who they like or see. Some people just can't resist and will tell you exactly how you feel, even if they don't know you at all. They hate being judged by others, but feel the rules are totally different for them to judge. Its hypocrisy at its very best!
 
Romantico said:
For every bi guy its different. I'm in a relationship with a woman now and its the first in several years. I've been in relationships with guys as well but have never once felt guilt over it nor was I looking for attention. No gay person that I know has really asked the question like that. Most are sincere and are really curious. I agree about what you said and how no one should have to justify who they like or see. Some people just can't resist and will tell you exactly how you feel, even if they don't know you at all. They hate being judged by others, but feel the rules are totally different for them to judge. Its hypocrisy at its very best!
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Excellent post! Some people just feel the need to be hateful. You can't change how people are, only your reactions to their ignorance
 
I'm bisexual and my gender preference is men, but I don't justify anything to anyone.
 
Thanks for the kind words INtrospective! I know this will sound really corny but Shirley Maclaine I think said it best. I don't have the exact quote so I'm paraphrasing. She said she believes when we die our souls cross over and we recognize loved ones,even though we don't see their bodies. Our souls are just a light and they are sexless and this is why when we meet someone its that inner light that we recognize is what we fall for,not the body or gender. Its pretty deep and I'm not sure if I believe it all,but its something I often think about and wonder if she's maybe onto something. To hear her say it is beautiful. I got a little misty eyed when I first heard it because for me, it made perfect sense.I'm capable of falling for either sex, so I think I related to it more than some people. Who we love and spend our life with is about the most personal thing there is and for someone to feel they have a say in that is beyond arrogance.
 
As long like that person, you should date him/her. Sexuality doesnt make a difference. I don't think societal acceptability makes it otherwise if it's true love. Your question comes back to self-acceptance and the overcome of social stigmas. It's something everyone goes through despite sex, race, and look.
 
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