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[KennyD]

OK; I am back . I've been ill and have not paid too much attention to it .
The other day I got up and was feeling just fine . Out of nowhere, I began to have pains in my lower right flank ... symptoms that I reconized as Kidney Stones that hurt like Hell .
The funny thing is ..just the day before ; we'd had a thread about them here on JUB .... NOW; I was in the middle of a kidney stone attack ...
So; I hoped into my car and headed over to the E/R and signed in at noon .... However; it was 2:00 P.M. when they called me back to the cubical.
Just as the nurse was hooking me up to the monitors; he started yelling ..."This man's having a Heart Attack" and suddenly my room was fillled with doctors, nurses and tech ..all doing their thing .... and ... in waltzes this bitch with a clipboard and barrels her way thru everyone to make me sign payment forms so in case I die; the hospital can collect from my estate ....
Anyway ; I had very minor heart damage ... and the stones are gone .... and I'm back and doing the things I do ...
Nick got his settlement and is out blowing $$$$ ... he just better remember the $$$$ he owes me or he'll be spending his $$$$ on a new place to LIVE ....
That is all for now ...

 

[KennyD]

LOL ... Well , Nothing has really gone smooth or really "Right" for me for about ten years ... and, guess what ? As I type this , a TORNADO WARNING has just been issued for this area !!!
... To answere the question .... I actually had Kidney Stones the test revealed that and I knew it anyway from the PAIN in the in my lower right flank ..... However; I also went into Cardiac Arrest while I was in the waiting room ... it seems I've been so stressed out lately that the kidney stones was the last straw and my heart went crazy ....
But; I am doing a lot better now ... I don't want to croak until I get my new will done up ... going to make some major changes that will shock someone and make a couple other folks really happy .....
Thanks to you all for the thoughts and words ...they are appreciated ....
Well ... back to some good ole Bedrest ...

 

[KennyD]

Well .. after all that has happen recently ; I am starting to design my new will . Today, I spent a couple of hours on it ... as I need to make sure that my sister can't step in and try to make a claim .
Then; there are those who are certain that they are going to benefit from my demise ; BUT they are sadly mistaken ... I've been used and abused by many over the years and now it is time for me to prepare the will so a few special folks receive my thanks after I am gone ...
Then too ... I went out and got the stuff to make my FOR SALE Sign to put in the front yard ... Hope the realtors pick up their sign within the week as my ad will come out Wednesday ...
Well ... I've got to do some more stuff ..so guess I'll go for now ...

 

[KennyD]

Actually; I do not mind making a will ... It leaves me at peace knowing that my $$$ is going where I want it to go and not where the government says ...
I have NO ONE to leave my estate to as Nick is Moving Out this Friday ... long story and I will post more about that in a day or two ...
Thus; I must look around for a good charity such as the Florida Sheriff's Youth Ranch which helps troubled youth and the $$$ is well used ....
I also thought about having my estate go to a childrens home or two ..... and to make sure the $$$ is used for the kids ; appoint a reputable attorney to oversee it all .
I believe that there is a Gay Youth organization that could use a few $$$$ ......
Then ; I know a young man who is just 13 years old. He is so considerate of me. When he is around ; he's always asking if my blood sugar is ok and am I feeling well etc ... He wants to be a doctor very badly , so I might just leave it all to him ...
The possabilities of where to leave $$$$ of your estate is endless ..... a little reasearch into the type of organization you prefer and you'll get dozens ...
DAMM ... I miss Nick already; but this is all HIS own doing ....

 

[KennyD]

Ok; well it appears that he is NOT going to move out ... We have reached an agreement where he will pay me about one half of what he owes in cash ... he will sign a promissory note for the rest and pay $50 per week on the account PLUS his rent.
We will be just FRIENDS and that is the part that kinda kills me now ... BUT ; that is the way it will have to be for now .... and; it was MY decesion to make as difficult as it was ....
He still tells me he loves me and wants / tries to kiss me on the lips .... BUT; I am able so far to hold oout and keep us just as "Friends" until he shows a little more responsability.
Am I wrong ? NO; I don't think so ... It is about time that I quit being all wishy washy and stand up for what I truly believe ... een though I do LOVE him with all my heart and soul ... I'm in PAIN !!

 

[KennyD]

I cried myself to sleep ... then woke up and could not get back to sleep , so here I am .
Yesterday was my birthday .. I received one b/d card thru the mail and 2 thru e-mail ... and two calls over the phone . I never even got a 50 cent card from the dolllar store from Nick ... Not a word or mention .
He's also went back on our deal and if I cannot come up with the $$$$ I won't be able to pay the damm taxes so I'll lose the house and the equitey it has .....
I'm bouncing off the walls .... to beat his ass really good right out in the back yard .... throw him out and then sue his ass .... or let him stay and sue his ass and take that nice car of his that he got with the $$$$ he was to use to pay me .... I'm just not for sure what I'll do at this point .
Thanks dp for the comment ...they are appreciated as always ...
Now that I've vented, I hope I can go to sleep .

 

[KennyD]

Ok; I've had time to get myself together and quit behaving like a five year old who did not get the toy he wanted .
I realize that we all have problems and if the worst thing that happens to me is not getting a birthday card from Nick ; then i will do ok .
I'm still in ad slight dilemma over the $$$ for the taxes in November ; but that is a couple of months away and a lot can happen between now and then ..
I might even just try to re fi the house as cheaply as possible ... that would cover my taxes and a couple of small bills if I wanted to pay them off ...
Thanks so much to DP Nice ... always with the nice words and thoughts ....
Ok ; got to go rest my eyes ... can't do as much as I used to ...

 

[KennyD]

I guess it is ok to go ahead and wish all the fathers here on JUB , a Happy Father's Day ...
My son is up in a Ohio prison doing ten years for armed robbery of a bakery ... IF he had only listened to me and moved down here when I told him to .... things would have been a lot different for the both of us ....
My other boy is going to be in Clearwater in about a week ; BUT I do not know if I'll be able to see him . He won't have transportation and I don't think I can see that well and long to go that far .... Just have to see .
I guess I will go to church in the morning .... then come home and cut the grass and trim some trees and bushes ... Hmmmm does anyone wish to come by and help ?
Nick is still here .... says he does love me and as far as I can tell , he still wants to go to Ohio .... ???? BUT; for now, we are back in our own rooms ....
Well; guess it is time to take a break and rest my eyes ...

 

[KennyD]

Yeah; Nick gave me the news today that he IS going to move out at the end of the month ....
I've cried all day long; BUT I also knew it was going to have to happen sooner or later ..... Maybe he can grow up a little and mature ... He did ask IF he couldn't make it ...IF he could come back ... lol ... What do Ya' think I said ????
One of the saddest things about all of this is probably the fact that I might not be able to keep my lil' dog . I did not want a dog .. fought against getting one ; BUT Nick begged and begged until I gave in ... Now , he is leaving and I'll have the extra expense of about $40 a month feeding a dog .. vet bills , and grooming the dog (giving him a bath once a week) , which kills my already bad back ...
My eyes finally dried up and I can see to do my blog entry ..but this has been a really rough day for me ...
Anyway ; I managed to get the yard mowed ... and I'll do the trimming on Wednesday ..... Thanks to Countessa for thinking about me for Father's Day and doing the yard work ..it is deeply appreciated ..
I doubt if I'll get any sleep ; but I'll try .... I can feel the waterworks starting back up .. OMG ; why me all the time ???
Good Night all ....

 

[KennyD]

I went out to Wal Mart today and purchased five of those plastic/rubber tubs ... They are excellent to pack stuff in to move , especially my movies and dvds as I have so darn many ...
I do not know why; BUT I have a feeling that this house is about to sell .... so, I need to get on the ball and get everything done before I only have a few days as some closings are very quick ... OK; yeah; it is silly to be all packed up when there is not even a contract yet ..BUT I just feel better anbd it keeps my mind half way sane ...
The Comments from DpNice and Countessa Scrub are very much appreciated ..... Funny; I've been told before about my doing too much for Nick ... But; that is just the kind of person that I am ... Of course, now it has me in one heck of a bind with the tax folks if I cannot get re financed ... or sold ... don't know just what I'll do ....
Nick did come home early tonight .. well, early for Nick ... said that he was tired and going to bed .... since the light is all out in his room , I imagine he is sleeping away ...
Think I will go to bed soon myself .... I have to trim those shrubs and bushes as well as the trees tomorrow and NO HELP ... UGH !!!
Good Night ....

 

[KennyD]

Yeppersd folks .. there is no doubt that Nick is moving out this coming week end sometime ... He will get one quick lesson in REAL LIFE when "HE" begins paying all the bills ... so much for his running around and partying all the time ..lol ...
I'm still upset about the dog ... I've grown so attached to him ..he follows me everywhere .. even lays outside the bathroom door while I am in there ... lays by my feet when I'm in living room or at the computer etc ... I hate the thought of giving him up ... Maybe; I'll just have to cut back on my own eating in order to keep him ...
Thanks Countessa Scrub for your thoughts and prayers as they are needed ...
I've lowered the price of the house so low that I'm practically giving it away ... GEEE , maybe I should offer to pay someone to buy it from me .... J/K ... my sarcasm is not up to par ..
I've got a lot of stuff to pack ..and ..a lot more to get done .... BUT; I'm just taking it a little at a time ... I don't need another heart attack ....
Well .. think I'll head on to bed or maybe go to the forums for awhile ... Back later ..

 

[KennyD]

The Realtor called yesterday and ask if they could show the house in about an hour . Usually; I would have cussed them out as I demand a 24 hour notice before I have folks coming in and out of my house .. However; I agreed and Yep; they LOVED it !! At least the Grandmother, Daughter, and the little grandaughter did ... there were two men who I just could not read at all. Then the grandmother stands right on the back porch and declares that THIS is the house that she l;ikes and wants ... So; I am keeping my fingers crossed that they put a contract on it within the next day or two ... especially since they would be Ca$h buyers ... YEAH !! I could be closed in about two weeks and gone ...
Well; I do still have a lot of packing to do . There is the shed and a lot of stuff in the house ... Wish I had some HELP ... Maybe I will ask Adam if he will give me a hand for a couple of days ...
The house I want in Ohio is STILL available .... a nice tri level in a nice area about a mile from where all the new shopping centers and stores etc are going in ... and about three blocks from my best friend . So; I am really wanting this to sell so I can get that one ...
I have decided to take the dog ... I just can't give him up as I've got too attached and he is like Mary's little lamb to me ..never lets me out of his sight ...
Ok ...enought for now ... got to go ..

 

[KennyD]

Ok; I'm still kickin' ... and ..as usual, not too happy .
The folks that looked at the house were divided . The women LOVED the house and as the grandma told me .. "I Love 'n Want THIS house. " BUT; the men wanted a house a little closer to each other albeit this house is only ten minutes away ... Just can';t please some people ...
Nick is Gone . He moved out Saturday with promises to pay me what he owes etc .... BUT; the way he lies and all that , I really can't believe him . He still wants us to be friends and all that ; BUT I am about to say good by and let it be ... especially IF I can get this house sold and get moved tp Ohio ... I cannot take the pain and hurt anymore .
Thanks for the good words Ya'll ... it really means a lot to hear feed back about my ongoing soap opera ...lol ... called a life .
Yeah; I'm glad I kept the dog also ... BUT; he is quite a pain in the ass ... He has taken two of my Direct TV remotes outside and destroyed them . So; I have to have the remotes and that will cost me $90.00 each .... I should make Nick pay "Dog" Child support since it was his idea to get the dog .. and he begged and begged 'n pleaded until we got him ..
As far as this house goes .. I've got a big $65 ad coming out this coming Saturday .... Maybe someone will respond to it .. can only wait and see ... I hope so before this other house I've found gets sold out from under me ... like the other one did ...
Well .. I'm going to check out the forums etc while I still have some strength left in my eyes today ... Back later ..

 

[KennyD]

Ok; before I begin again ... I really must thank two of the folks who seem to be following my trials and tribulations faithfully .. and ..giving me encouragement, compassion, and understanding ..all the way .... they are Countessa Scrubbs and dpNice ... Again; a very special THANKS to you two for being here ...
I am getting over the Nick issue very well now, for the most part ... He was nothing more than a user. he took me for over $7,000 and ruined my credit which was a 768 and now is down to 721 because of him .... and he could care less .
Don't get me wrong ; I'm still going to work on collecting the money he owes and restitution for the items that he stole from me over the last couple of months ... He WILL make good or he'll suffer my wrath .
I've decided to wait about two weeks and then reduce my house to the actual appraised value of $180,000.00 .... I'd been asking more because that is what all the damm realtors had been saying it was worth .
It is really funny ... people think that I am rolling in $$$$ when they hear how much the house is worth .. They do not realize that this was an inherited home ... that I had to refinance it just to pay the legal fees and taxes ... now; on my fixed income ..since Nick did not pay me ... I don't have the tax money for November when the taxes come due since the "Loans" I made to Nick were from my Tax funds .. so, I'm in HOT WATER ....
The color flyers that I have made up look really good ; so I will take them around to several apartment complexes and put them up in the laundry rooms etc ...
I took the dog today to get his nails trimmed and a flea treatment ... was $21.75 altogether . But; I'll NOt let this little dog suffer because of one person's insenseativty.
I still need to get about twenty or twent five more boxes to get everything packed up ... I'm only afraid that with everything practically packed ; it will scare away potential persons to rent rooms .... But; I'll just have to deal with that as it comes ...
ok ..I'm done for tonight .

 

[KennyD]

I apologize for not coming back here sooner; but Death has struck near my door ....
A very close and dear friend of mine was building a go kart with his son in Bradenton, Fl Saturday ... Yep; he'd been drinking and took the kart out for a test run when he lost control and slammed into a parked car , knocking it about 7-8 feet from where it was parked . Police estimate he was doing about 50 mph .... Jeff was pronounced dead at the hospital; but his son said he was dead at the scene ....
What a tragedy this 43 year old guy , who loved life and was not afraid of anything had to die so early. The worst part, I believe, is that his 19 year old son watched the entire event ....
The funeral is tomorrow ..and all the family etc is coming in from California and Ohio .... I do not look foreward to this ; BUT he and I were very close back in the day and were still friends , so I need to pay my respects ...
Well ... that is more than enough for now .... I'll be back when I possibly can ... probably Friday or Saturday .
Thanks to each and everyone of you who reads my post and is traveling with me up and down the rocky roads we call life experiences ...

 

[KennyD]

Ok; I am back from the Funeral / Memorial Service. It was an awesome service if that is acceptable ... Jeff had been into riding with a biker group over the last several years . Outside the Funeral Home, over 50 bikers lined up and reved up their engines as a tribute to Jeff as they then went out onto the highway ... Then as they were leaving, Jeff's son had Jeff's Harley and he burned the rubber down so much that he has to get a new tire ... BUT; it was all done as we believe that Jeff would have wanted . I think I had stasted his age wrong .. Jeff was 42 years of age when he left this earth.
Even at his home, there was a lot of smiles and laughter as that was the kind of guy that Jeff was . He ALWAYS had a smile for you , no matter how bad things were going for himself .
However; off and on during the service .. there were many wet eys and mine was one ... for three years or so ..MANY years ago .. (Just about twenty-four) .. Jeff and I were a little more than Just "Friends" . NO ONE knows or will know .. that was our life and our secret and it will go rest as he has ... Good Bye , Jeff .. You will be missed .
I don't think I'll clutter this tribute up with anything else .. I'll try to write more Monday sometime ...
I do want to Thank everyone for their kind thoughts and expressions during the past week or so during this tragedy.
Thanks again and back later ....

 

[KennyD]

Before I get started ... Yes, Countessa ..it was very difficult for me . Jeff and I were still friends and his son is like a "Nephew" to me . But; like they say .. "Some" things are best left Unsaid ....
I am heaving a hell of a time getting this house refinanced . it seems since Nick ruined my credit score .. I am a Credit Risk just because ONE account is bad . I understand it ; BUT it drives me nutz that I allowed it to happen in the first place ....
However; there are a couple of companies that I'm trying to deal with ... BUT I only want $5,000 cash out and they are saying things like $8,009 - $13,000 for closing cost ...
I've seriously considered filing Bankruptcy and trying to keep the house by filing only on the house ... I don't know if I can do that ..Any lawyers out there ?
Yes; that is sleezy; but I just don't want to be homeless and/or lose the $70 - $80 Grand in equity that I have in this place ... by not getting it sold in time to pay the taxes and having the state take it from me ...
I sometimes wonder IF I worry too much ? I probably do ... and, I probably Bitch too damm much also ....
Ok; I shall make an effort to cut back on my worrying and bitching ..... wonder how long this will last ? LOL ...
It is about bedtime ... I'm takeing an 79 yer old lady to the dentist tomorrow morning ....
Back when I can ...

 

[KennyD]

Well, as usual my bank account is running very low . Someone did not show up to pay on his account as promised . I'm so damm close to going ahead and having him locked up .... I just hate being this low on the $$$ BUT I believe something will turn up, it usually does.
I'm not for sure if i mentioned before ; BUT I am going to go ahead and lower my house again by another $10,000 . So; the new reduced price will be $179,900.00 .... Hopefully, that will attract a buyer who is actually qualified to purchase tthe place .... BUT; I'm taking the hot tub with me and selling the f'n pool table. I'll begin running new ads the 1st week of August.
I finally learned how to upload pics .. so I added mine in my profile ... You have my permisssion to download it and put it in your basements to scare away the rats.
Joe might get out of Jail Thursday ... I hope so as I need the rent money . And, he seems like a good enough guy ... at least he doesn't steal from me ...
Well ... think I'll play around here a little before I turn in ....
Good Night

 

[KennyD]

Ok , the count down is on ... Since the house is having a difficult time selling, due to the stale market ... I am checking out re financing a little more . I'd just stay put in Florida for a few more months until the market picks up .... maybe even the prices go back up ...hmmmm ?
I've been in touch with several finance places and am awaiting replies on their interest rates , terms, etc ... Ohhhh I hope this works out ..
So, I'm virtually on a count down right now ... got to get everyone's info and see which would be the best IF I went that route ....
I am a complainer and I bitch 'n bitch ... BUT, it is good to know that I have some support here to do so .... so from time to time , I'll just let go ... lol ... Thanks to ya'll for putting up with me .
Nick has really pissed me off ... It has been over 82 days and he's made NO payment on the truck . He'd promised to have it here in my driveway today to return to the finance company .. BUT he did not show up and his cell phone disconnected ... I'll have to track him down at work tomorrow ... I should yank his ass out in the parking lot and give him the whipping his ass deserves ..
Well ... time to go .. got a busy day tomorrow . Have to find out if my homeowner's covers a tree falling in my yard ....

 

[KennyD]

Ok; it appears that I am Screwed and .. NOT .. in a good way either ...
Due to the problems with the truck ; my credit is now in the sewer .... His own step mom warned me ; BUT I would not listen ...
I'm not even able to borrow the $$$$ to get the taxes paid and one bill consolidated ...($3,500) It seems that my ONLY alternative is to refinance ... yea, it will hurt me financially when I do go to sell , but it is the only way I can keep my house and the equity of about $70,00.00 in it ...
I sat in my desk chair here last night just thinking of options .. and there are not too many good ones left . But; for now, the re fi seems the only way to salvage a little of this mess ....
On another issue ... the dog is growing by leaps and bounds ... when he stands now, he can lay his head on the computer desk ....
Well ... got to run ..need to call the mortgage guy back ...