(Kinda long) I'm ugly and confused. Drastic changes imminent..

[tonyboy]

I'll try to keep this short and sweet. I'm ugly and that is a fact. I've never been in a relationship and I won't be getting into one soon. I've never even dated. I've done what I could to do my best to get me a guy but whatever I try isn't good enough.

I have been and am seriously thinking about getting a sex change. I don't think I would go the whole 9 yards. I think the most I would do is get breast but not get my penis cut off. Though I would get it chopped of it I could afford it. I'd do it in a blink of an eye actually.

The only problem is that I'm not out to many people. I'm not out to my dad because he is crazy and would proably beat me to death. I'm not out to chuch members either. They are all hyprocrites anyway but they know me as the sweet innocent guy. I don't know how they'd precieve me if I did something like that. Though I think most people know but we never talk about it.

I'm not masculine at all. I've never had sex with a girl but I've always been fascinated with them. Getting a sex change would be ideal for me but I'm afraid of what people would say about me. I would feel comfortable in that skin and it would make me feel better about myself and make me happier.

Opinions?

Man...... don't ever, ever call yourself ugly. That may be what you think, but there are probably many folks that would differ....
You didn't mention your age, usually it's the pretty young guys that are obsessed with looks. I know I was at times when I was in my early 20's.
But the truth of the matter is that unless you are out looking to hookup with guys for a one nighter it's far more important to know someone for their personality and character.
I wonder why you'd even consider a sex change. What on earth do you think that would do for you? You'd still be the same person inside wouldn't you? You'd just look different.
I think that would just make things worse for you.
you can pm me if you want to talk about this further. Just be careful about your decisions man....
Don't be drastic about things just yet.
a friend.

 

[Jonny_Longhair]

Try and forget this hang up about male and female, its not all black and white.

Men can have masculine and feminine characters, or like other men. Focus on who you are and not what other people think, and if you are true to our feelings, you will feel happy.

 

[martin6]

If all feminine guys had sex changes... god I don't even wanna go there. My understanding is that those who have sex changes truly believe slash know that they are one gender with the wrong sexual equipment. I don't think sex changes for the sake of being prettier are all that common-- and I think you'll probably have to go through counseling to complete the deal. Yeah, I'm really not all that knowledgable on this subject, but I know enough to understand that people don't change their sex because they feel ugly.

And like tonyboy said, just because you think you're ugly doesn't mean everyone else does. You can always try to make yourself feel prettier without wanting to totally and drastically change your physical being.

 

[rareboy]

You are in need of real professional counselling with respect to sexual identity. Contact a local gay organization and ask if they can help you find a therapist. Seriously.

Any advice you receive here is going to be superficial at best. If you think you should be transgendered, you are going to need real day to day support and you're not going to get that on any posting board.

 

[gameboy 11]

Ew. Tits are for chicks. Please don't change your sex! And I'm sure you're as love-able as the next. Why would you want to change? Need a friend/shoulder to cry on/a pair of worthy ears?? I can be all 3!!

Please keep your Dick! I want more friends too, and I'm practically a virgin (Frotted and got head for a miserable amount of time.)

I'm kinda feminine too, but it's all about the sexy, Boy power, Bud.



Be a King among Kings, Please! You deserve much better than what you are currently getting!

 

[megustamyn]

I am full agreement with Rareboy. Please seek professional help. If you don’t have a gay community center or gay-friendly health provider nearby you may be able to get a referral from on of the major gender identity clinics. The Gender Identity Clinic of New England (http://www.gicne.org/index.htm) is the oldest in the United States. The GLBT National Help Center (http://www.glbtnationalhelpcenter.org/index2.html) has a hotline (1-888-843-4564) and can help you find a counselor or therapist experienced in this gender identity issues.

Even without the gender issues, you need help and support in working through issues of self-esteem and social engagement. The most important thing in social relations is not your appearance but rather how you feel about yourself. We are all attractive and desirable, although not always in the same ways.

You should know that gender reassignment is a complex, difficult and expensive process. Normally, a candidate for gender reassignment must undergo psychological and medical evaluation before being approved for the process and is expected to live as the desired gender for a period of time before beginning the transition. Complete transition may require multiple surgeries and life-long hormone therapy. Since the process is not reversible, doctors must be certain that it is the best solution for the individual.

 

[billybob109]

Do not call urself ugly, I think your main problem is why you want the change is because you are afraid that people will not like you or it might be easier to get a guy if you looked like a women. If you are having problems and no good friend to talk to try seeing a therapist.