Last hope

[megustamyn]

My partner came out in his late 30s after being married for many years and having 2 children. We have been together 10 years. We have great relationships with our children, grandchildren, parents and other relatives and are respected and valued in our community. It was a difficult transition for him but we honestly can’t remember when things were different from what they are now. We remember on an intellectual level and we know it was painful, but we got through it and all involved have healed from it, including his ex-wife.

You need to find a supportive community to help you through this difficult time. Do a search on the Internet for gay support services and gay friendly therapists in your area. I’m sure there are plenty. Most universities have a gay alliance and one near you may be able to give you a reference to a support group or therapist or even just to another place that can provide services. Ask at the nearest medical center. The important thing is to start building contacts that can provide support.

What you’re going through is temporary. You just need a little help getting through it.

I know that you’re a religious person and that you have been adversely affected by church doctrines regarding homosexuality and by somewhat unprofessional clergy. I am a Latino gay man who is happily married to another man. I am also clergy (obviously, not Catholic). If you have a need to speak to someone about issues of spirituality, sexuality, and the Bible, I’ll be happy to speak with you through PMs or email. I will not get into it in a public forum because it is a pastoral issue and not an intellectual discussion. It is private and personal.

Peace.

 

[frankfrank]

There are some out here, besides those who posted, who hope that some of the advice and thoughts mentioned in here, may have helped you find a way to deal with what is happening in your life. Please tell us what's happening.

There are so many other answers, and there are a number of people in here who have been at the same junction before, having to figure out what to do. Please remember that extreme "solutions" almost always include other people, and what you suggest can never be undone.

Please consider that, most likely, some who posted here may be willing, as well, to communicate with you privately. I don't know your age, but unless you're a *LOT* older than I am, I've known people who found love at a very late age (one of them being my mother, years ago).

I don't know if you would like me to say some prayers, but if you somehow give me the word, I'll gladly do so.