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Last night *sigh*

In all honesty talking with him might be your best bet. I'd just call your friend that he's been talking to on myspace, say you've seen what they've been writing and need to speak to him. Get his number, call him and lay it all out. If you still feel uncomfortable or you don't think he's going to help you deal with it slowly/at a rate you feel comfortable with at least you'll know it. In 5 years time you won't look back and hate yourself. Not to mention the fact that he'll know what's going on and might be willing to wait or whatever, it has got to be a better method in the long run than playing straight and hating yourself for it.
 
im really moments away from doing this i need some opinion.. i texted her and told her that i can read everything they are saying and she just is like "he really likes you, if i were a guy i'd go gay for him" so im really about to just respond with like "well what if you were just gay in the first place?" or somthing.. she knows obviously she made the "He is just isnt comfortable with his sexuality yet" comment..
 
You already know what you gotta do if you really want it. So just do it!!!!! That text you mentioned would work perfectly.
 
Just either sms her and say 'I'm already gay give me his number you silly moo!' or just text 'can I have his number please' and sort it all out with him.

Just do it though. do it before you have a chance to think too much about it. You will never regret it. You are in the world's best position, you have fallen for a guy who has made it plainly obvious he already likes you, there needs to be no fear of rejection, hell there needs to be no fear of anything!
 
omg i just msged her "what you doin" and she said "Why, wanna talk?" and she responded "Do you need to talk to me about something"

i dont think i can go through with it im almost in tears just trying to plan it out... 4 days ago i had no intentions of this happening for another year at least..i feel so sick and he feels stupid for thinking i was gay..
 
Mick J said:
im really moments away from doing this i need some opinion.. i texted her and told her that i can read everything they are saying and she just is like "he really likes you, if i were a guy i'd go gay for him" so im really about to just respond with like "well what if you were just gay in the first place?" or somthing.. she knows obviously she made the "He is just isnt comfortable with his sexuality yet" comment..
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Excellent Idea! Know what's better.... "I'm Gay!" and I'm sure she will get in contact with you immediately! Your losing precious time here buddy.

I mean he likes you and you like him and who cares now!! If your friends find out and don't want to be your friends because your gay then they were never your friends in the first place! You gotta stop thinking here and just do it! For the love of god and all things that are right in the universe DO IT! NOW! Before he finds somebody else. This sickness that your suffering right now is because of stage fright! Your worried what others might think....well STOP worrying. You are mins away from having a boyfriend, do you even know how many guys on this site would give up there right body part to have this happen to them! Come on....50 years from now when you look back at this...don't you want to be able to say that you took a change...that you did it! Instead of spending 50 years wondering...hmmm if only I had told him, I wonder how things would have turned out!
 
Just ask her to text you his number. You really don't need to involve her in this. Trust me when I say he's going to get what you're going through 10000 times better than what she is because A.) He's been through it and/or is going through it and B.) He wants to roger you silly.
 
Well if she's a friend of yours, and you trust her, then tell her that you need to talk to him. Then, after you've talked with him, because then you'll have a better idea of where things may or may not go, then tell share with her what you needed to talk to him about.

Stop dragging your feet buddy! :D
 
maybe she will want to get together later and i can just dump it all. but SHE already knows probably, He has been convinced that im straight and he was stupid.. i already have enough problems just talking to people how would i talk to him directly! heh
 
You talk to him by starting off the conversation with 'hi umm I just wanted to say I really enjoyed laying with you the other night and I was hoping to talk to you about it.' Trust me once you get talking to him it's going to be easy. Plus he'll be happier if you are the one to make the move since you have already 'rejected' him at least once. If I were him and your friend explained it to me I'd still be weary and would wait until you had talked to me anyway.
 
Mick J said:
maybe she will want to get together later and i can just dump it all. but SHE already knows probably, He has been convinced that im straight and he was stupid.. i already have enough problems just talking to people how would i talk to him directly! heh
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hmmm good question! How about this...

" (your male friend's name that likes you here), look the reports of me being straight are totally wrong. I'm gay. I like you too. I had a wonderful time last weekend and I'm very much in the closet and f*ck*ng scared sh*tless right now! "

Trust me...he'll understand! Now please do it! The suspense is killing me and I don't think my heart can take much more of this! :)
 
She already bloody knows.

It seems scary as hell right now, I know.

But the relief you'll feel once you tell her will be great.

It's gonna happen sometime, so why not now?
 
OK** in response to her "Do you need to talk to me?" i said "Kinda what i was getting at, i think we are on the same page though" and she said "Ill call you in an hour or two" . so...... :help:
 
looseliam said:
She already bloody knows.

It seems scary as hell right now, I know.

But the relief you'll feel once you tell her will be great.

It's gonna happen sometime, so why not now?
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YES Trust us Mick! For the love of God trust us! I can't speak for Looseliam but your not the first gay closet guy to be feeling like this and you won't be the last! The relief you will feel when you finally tell her will be so great that you be on a high for days! I now your scared and trust me, if i could be there to help you through this I would but I can't. Nobody can do this except you. It's situations like this that seperate the wheat from the shaft. I have never in my short time here on JUB, ever felt this strongly towards somebody. You have to do it for me, for Looseliam, for all the guys here telling you to do it! But the most important person you have to do it for is yourself.

You can do this. ..|
 
What do you actually need help with? It seems like it's all going well. Just keep taking deep breaths and try not to scare the shit out of yourself. Plus remember that there is nothing wrong with you and that this isn't going to kill you (although I seriously might if you back down and pretend to be straight to her/let him slip through your fingers).
 
Wow....when is the movie going to come out on this?
 
I really worry for you. Although I'm always sunny and see the good, I just am nervous because like I said, I did something similar.

The place I came out of was dark and dreary and full of regret and question and anger at myself.


I rushed myself out for a boy. And in retrospect it should have been about me, not about him, because in the end, when we didn't talk as much due to the long distance, I was left alone and unsure about my sexuality even more. And he just continued living his out life.

At the time when I was going to tell him and I did because of all the pressure and everyone around me saying "you'll regret it" all I kept thinking was that was my only option. It just seems so gigantic while its happening to you and hard to zoom out and get some real clarity on the situation.

My guy ended up being the type that love_chair mentioned. Only after hook ups and just interested in getting attention. It sounds like you dont really know this guy. Maybe you should really sit and think about yourself.
 
I took the trepidation as being more about him taking the final plunge, not necessarily taking the final plunge because of this other guy. I do see both of your points though. Although I would argue that it's an inevitability that he'll eventually have to come out, but as I've said numerous times throughout the thread that he could keep the people who know about him being gay very limited if he so wished.
 
huntneo said:
I agree with boy0boy on this one...


My main issue is that you seem to be doing this because everyone else is pushing you to. I think you should go for this because you truly want to. I am excited for you, and stand behind you 100%...but please remember how serious this really is...as it has the potential to be a major turning point in your life.

You can't get certain places in life without taking some chances. But be aware that while things can work out for the best, they can also go really sour.


Good luck on this...

(*8*)
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Good point, but see... he wants to go out with this guy who's totally into him. The only way he'll be able to do that is if he comes out (to the people who need to know).

Ya hear that Mick? ;)
 
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