Lasting long during sex...what's normal?

[electricflame]

I keep reading and hearing about good fucks online and from friends that last "half an hour" or "four hours straight" or whatever.

I'm a little self conscious and confused! I have absolutely NO IDEA how long I can last. When I jerk off, i don't last very long if I am using lube. When I'm being sucked off I usually last about ten minutes on a good day and forever if I'm not feeling as horny.

But anal sex? I'm not the most experienced top and from what my bottoms always tell me, once they cum, they can't bottom anymore. And for the most part, they cum rather quickly and I have to finish myself off because I pull out, or I force myself to cum (which seems to be easy to do) at the same time. If I feel like I'm going to cum first I find it easy not to.

But my bottoms have always cum so quickly so I have never been able to see how long I can go for! It's always under half an hour and so this idea of me lasting for "hours," or my poor bottom lasting for "hours," is so strange to me. I'm I doing something wrong as the top? Should I not only be stopping myself from cumming, but also stop THEM from cumming too?
Thanks!

 

[rareboy]

As a bottom, I can keep going just about as long as my top wants to, even after I come, but it is way more pleasurable to have them come first or to come at the same time.

Depending on the position though, it can be pretty uncomfortable physically for the bottom after a while, and you also have to make sure that everything is kept totally lubed.

The best way to keep your bottom from finishing too quickly? Go slow and try to keep your hands and your partner's hands off his dick. See if you can give him a hands free orgasm just from fucking him. That ought to take a little while.

 

[thermodynamics]

I'm more of a bottle rocket. If I'm turned on, I last less than a minute with a good suck. I generally don't last too long when fucking a guy either. Several minutes--always before the bottom cums. I often suck them off as a result. I'd like to be able to last longer.

Then again, I've been catfished a few times with hookups and can't even get it up. Sigh...

 

[electricflame]

Thanks ! I feel like nobody talks about this sort of thing bl!

 

[tabby82]

As a bottom, I can keep going just about as long as my top wants to, even after I come, but it is way more pleasurable to have them come first or to come at the same time.

Depending on the position though, it can be pretty uncomfortable physically for the bottom after a while, and you also have to make sure that everything is kept totally lubed.

The best way to keep your bottom from finishing too quickly? Go slow and try to keep your hands and your partner's hands off his dick. See if you can give him a hands free orgasm just from fucking him. That ought to take a little while.

lol totally agree, many times I have had a guy fucking me and trying to stroke my cock at the same time. It feels good but I won't last long so I often remove it. For me anything over 30 mins is too long, foreplay on the other hand can last forever!

 

[PocketAdonis]

Ugh. The very idea of fucking for four hours straight. Especially actual fucking. Don't show me the dude who bottomed for four hours - his butthole must look like hamburger after that.

I'd say a good fuck lasts about 10 minutes. I'm talking about dick in hole - obviously you spend more time on other stuff. I'm a guy, I like it hard and fast. If I wanted to endlessly and pointlessly plow away at a loose hole, I'd fuck women.

As for bottoms cumming first - what bullshit. But, it's because you're hitting the prostate. That'll just knock a load out of a guy. I have a big dick, which everybody thinks they want, but it makes fucking tricky because 1) it's hard to get it in, 2) I have to ease into powerfucking, 3) it makes them cum fast, and 4) then they want me to take it out. But like I said, I like it fast anyway. Usually when a dude cums with my dick in him, it makes me cum. Simultaneous is the way to go. You said you can "force" yourself to cum when a guy cums, which sounds perfect to me. If YOU want it to last longer, then yeah, don't let him touch his dick for starters. Maybe just announce to him beforehand that you're going to plow his butt till you nut, so he should plan accordingly - I find guys like being treated like dutybound fuckholes...lol.

 

[tarallucci]

Those saying they fucked for hours were either on drugs or weren't enjoying it much
You can control a bit but after a while it gets... boring.

 

[Musik2400]

I'm a bottom, and like others have said I can go as long as a top wants, even after cumming. Usually only takes a couple pumps before I'm over that 'sensitive butt, don't move' stage.

Hubby lasts a long time too. Whn we first started dating our average session was about an hour hour and a half of straight humpity-hump. Nowadays we've lost that puppy-love urgency so it tends to be between 20-40 minutes most days. A quickie is never shorter than 1 minutes though, and if we go less than 30 minutes he usually apologizes that it wasn't longer lol.

 

[sweet_taboo]

I can go as long (usually longer) than the guy fucking me. When he cums before I do, I like for him to stay inside me if he can, which he generally can do if he's thick and long enough, until he's hard enough again to continue fucking. We can typically go on about 40-60 minutes.

If I happen to come first (which can happen with or without my dick being touched), then there are a few moments when he has to slow or stop his thrusts (but not pull out) until the hypersensitivity subsides. After that brief moment is over, he can pick up the pace again. After this point, I can usually go for however long it takes for him to cum. For some reason, I'm not as sensitive after the first orgasm, so he can keep fucking me through subsequent orgasms until he cums. Again, usually about 40-60 minutes.

Ideally, though, it is the best when we both cum at the same which most often happens when he's on his second and I'm on my first.

 

[sweet_taboo]

I have a big dick, which everybody thinks they want, but it makes fucking tricky because 1) it's hard to get it in, 2) I have to ease into powerfucking...

You're absolutely right about these 2 things. It does take time to get a big one into a tiny hole. I have always let any guy that's ever fucked me -- but especially the bigger guys -- know that I have a very tight hole, and he will not be able to just stick his dick in quickly and go for it. Of course many don't believe it because just about every guy will claim he's tight. But when they discover that I'm actually telling the truth, they have to change their approach or it's not gonna happen. I have to be very wet and they have to go very slow. Now once they get completely inside, we can do pretty much whatever he (we) wants. Hard, long, rough, whatever...I love it all. The reward is always well worth the extra effort...for both of us.

 

[sweet_taboo]

I'm more of a bottle rocket. If I'm turned on, I last less than a minute with a good suck. I generally don't last too long when fucking a guy either. Several minutes--always before the bottom cums.

I don't particularly mind a fast cummer as long as he has lots of stamina and can cum again...and again. In college, I had a friend who was a "bottle rocket" as you put it. He'd cum almost the instant he got his dick inside me, BUT he got hard again almost instantly and could continue fucking. As a result, our sessions actually lasted a fairly long time and were always very wet from all his cum. There were many times I actually preferred "the bottle rocket" over a few of my bigger, longer-lasting friends.

 

[jbrown329]

I'm one of those that once I cum, I'm pretty well done. I've never had an orgasm from being fucked. Longest I've lasted while topping is 15-20 minutes. I've never tried to see how long I could last bottoming before cumming.

 

[Dombitor]

i was with a guy who was a shower not a grower. so his dick was around 6.5" flaccid and around 7" hard. this meant that even after he blew he kept his dick inside slowly building back up again until it was hard.

we went for around 3-4 hours then he went to sleep with his dick and around 5 loads inside me.

 

[sweet_taboo]

i was with a guy who was a shower not a grower. so his dick was around 6.5" flaccid and around 7" hard. this meant that even after he blew he kept his dick inside slowly building back up again until it was hard.

we went for around 3-4 hours then he went to sleep with his dick and around 5 loads inside me.

Yes, yes, YES!!! That's what I'm talking about! Pure bliss!!!

 

[seioussuction69]

Lasting long for me depends on how horny I am, when the last time came was, how much time I have. I like plenty of foreplay, driving the both of us crazy with desire, quickies are never enough for me. If I'm topping, it's 8 inches and thick, so some guys need plenty of time to get used to it. Usually a guy won't cum as quick if we both avoid touching his dick while I fuck him, but rubbing the prostate (fast or slow) can make some guys shoot fast no matter what. Some guys can't handle getting fucked after they shoot, others love it. When I bottom, having a guy just slam into me is never fun, regardless of what you see in pornos. But once it's in I can keep from cumming at the most maybe 15 minutes, longer if it's a slow screw. I was using objects and toys before I lost my cherry, so I have good control. I've never been into "hooking up" that much, I like getting to know a guys body, that is what makes great sex. The more practice you have with each, the longer the sex can last. My boyfriend and I love to edge each other, and this can go on for hours, the resulting orgasm is worth the wait. But our favorite thing to do is on weekends (or whenever there is time) we stay in bed most of the day or night, fucking each other face down. I love to lay on my stomach with his entire body on me, arms & legs entwined, as he fucks me at various speeds and I milk him with my well trained hole. If I cum, he just keeps on drilling, as long as he can. Good thing we live in a house, we're too loud for an apartment. Then when he is spent, we switch positions. He usually come after 5 minutes of my fucking him, sometimes hands free. I've found that the longest most guys, including myself, can last is with a hand job. You can easily control the speed and tightness, and watching a guys jizz shoot out of his throbbing cock is always a thrill.