Lasting longer during sex...what's normal?

[electricflame]

I posted this in another forum but I feel I posted it in the WRONG forum so here I am trying to fix this

Lasting long during sex...what's normal?
I keep reading and hearing about good fucks online and from friends that last "half an hour" or "four hours straight" or whatever.

I'm a little self conscious and confused! I have absolutely NO IDEA how long I can last. When I jerk off, i don't last very long if I am using lube. When I'm being sucked off I usually last about ten minutes on a good day and forever if I'm not feeling as horny.

But anal sex? I'm not the most experienced top and from what my bottoms always tell me, once they cum, they can't bottom anymore. And for the most part, they cum rather quickly and I have to finish myself off because I pull out, or I force myself to cum (which seems to be easy to do) at the same time. If I feel like I'm going to cum first I find it easy not to.

But my bottoms have always cum so quickly so I have never been able to see how long I can go for! It's always under half an hour and so this idea of me lasting for "hours," or my poor bottom lasting for "hours," is so strange to me. I'm I doing something wrong as the top? Should I not only be stopping myself from cumming, but also stop THEM from cumming too?
Thanks!

 

[lonnie1]

Now you know why porn "stars" are porn "stars"--it usually takes more than just a big dick and pretty face. They have to sometimes spend hours and hours to finish a scene.

 

[offthewall14420]

You are normal, porn stars are the freaks. I think what you need is a submissive bottom. Maybe your dick is too big?

 

[electricflame]

My dick isn't too big. They just cum really fast

 

[offthewall14420]

Well you're doing something right. Maybe they are just inexperienced?

 

[Seasoned]

Are you and they happy with things as they are? If you want things to last longer slow down or stop and restart. Sex is about you and your partner. There's no standard to be met.

 

[KaraBulut]

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Lasting long during sex...what's normal?
I keep reading and hearing about good fucks online and from friends that last "half an hour" or "four hours straight" or whatever.

Your friends are missing the point.

The point of sex is to get each other off.

Along the way to that goal, you may do other stuff that adds time- like cuddling, showering together, fucking each other's brains out or indulging in fetish/play.

Great sex may be a 5 minute quickie where you rip each others' clothes off and fuck like rabbits. Great sex can also be a lazy Saturday morning in bed cuddling, talking and fucking.

But in the end, the idea is to get off.

There's no normal. If it's good sex and you're both enjoying it, it doesn't matter whether it's a couple of minutes or couple of hours.

 

[BelovedEnigma]

I'd have to join the general consensus on this one. It all depends on the people involved and what they constitute as good sex. I've had a lover who was very goal oriented and our lovemaking only lasted half an hour, start to finish. Then there have been others in which we spent hours engauged in sexual play.

The concept of having prolonged intercourse has been drilled into our brains consistently by our exposure to porn, movies, TV shows, and even those late night infomercials that we feel inadequate in the bedroom. But there are no real standards. As long as you and your partner are enjoying your time together then chalk it up as a win.

Another factor that might be something to consider is the length of your relationship with your bottom. Are these one night encounters or an ongoing liaison? It takes awhile to attune to another's "style." While there is nothing wrong with one-nighters and the excitement that they bring, there is something to be said about ltrs and trying to learn everything that drives your partner wild. So here comes the big C! Communicate your needs and wants with your partner and vice versa. You both will be better for it.

Side note - I feel so bad for the occasional porn star I see at the end of a scene that is tugging his dick like a piece of rawhide, every muscle strained in concentration, to finish in an obvious lack luster orgasm and dribble of cum. Thats what pain killers and some antidepressants will get ya.