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Leading girls on? How to say no??

JoeyLj

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Hi, this hasn't happened in a while, but when I used to go to clubs and stuff, sometimes a girl would come up to me and start flirting with me and we'd end up kissing. Just cos I'd feel bad rejecting them and I have a real problem saying no to people. And then they add me on facebook or whatever and keep messaging me and I just do NOT have the heart to tell them Im gay.

Also a couple of times girls Ive met in bars have like invited themselves back round to my place or whatever, and then I tell them I am gay so dont really wanna have sex with them. But anyway once I let this girl gave me a handjob and this other time I gave a girl oral sex even tho I didnt enjoy it AT ALL.

I think I just need to learn how to say no earlier on. but its hard I always wanna try and please everyone. Maybe i could wear a sign on my back saying GAY
 
The important thing is not to start anything. I used to respond to girls flirting so they wouldn't think I was gay (closeted) and I ended up in 2 sexual situations with girls because of it. I came to realise that straight guys reject come ons from girls all the time and so if you don't want to get involved stop responding to their flirting. Don't return eye contact, if they latch on excuse yourself you've gotta go find your friend . They'll get the message. If they invite themselves back tell them you don't want to wake your mom up! lol.
You may think your being nice to them by not rejecting them but in fact your building up their expectations and messing with their emotions by responding. You don't have to tell them your gay if you don't want just stop responding.
 
Why can't you just tell them? Because you're either gonna tell them right away, or when you get back to your place, or when she wonders when she can start calling you a "couple". It's hellaciously easier to do it at the outset, and hellaciously nice for the girl.

It hasn't happened often to me (and not in many years), but if a woman started hitting on me, I'd simply say "Wow. That's really flattering. Ends up I'm gay, though. Which is a shame, because you seem like a really cool person." They'd be a bit disappointed, but the praise I'd tack on at the end would usually keep them from getting crushed. :)

Lex
 
Are you finding yourself in these situations because you don't want to tell them you're gay? Or is it because the attention and flirting from another person is something you enjoy and encourage?
 
I don't wanna tell them I'm gay straight away cos I only like telling people once they know me. Also I do enjoy the kissing and flirting and stuff. Just on like a human contact level I guess. In fact I enjoy kissing girls more than guys (except if I was in love with a guy) I don't know why. Even tho I'm 100% gay
 
So just turn them down without giving a reason, like another poster said, it's not as if every straight guy accepts every girl who comes on to him!
 
JoeyLj said:
I don't wanna tell them I'm gay straight away cos I only like telling people once they know me. Also I do enjoy the kissing and flirting and stuff. Just on like a human contact level I guess. In fact I enjoy kissing girls more than guys (except if I was in love with a guy) I don't know why. Even tho I'm 100% gay
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Well, that's really the issue then. You don't want to say "No", you want to say "Maybe" but then when you lose control of the situation, "Maybe" becomes "No".

It might be that the answer for you is to get a female snugglebuddy to go out to clubs with, make out with, occasionally cuddle with and then you both go home for the night (or get up in the morning and go shopping or have a day of beauty together).

There's plenty of girls out there that would love to have a guy who fulfills all the requirements of a boyfriend except for the sex part. Of course, you have to figure out the part about what happens when either of you gets a boyfriend.

Either way, it seems a lot like the threads on this same forum about straight guys who lead on their gay friends.
 
>>>Either way, it seems a lot like the threads on this same forum about straight guys who lead on their gay friends.

Except that the straight guys are cruel and closeted, whereas we're simply enjoying the company and tired of girls getting the wrong idea. Totally different. :)

Lex
 
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i kinda sounds like you like the attention, which is fine. but you gotta consider the girls feelings. trust me, theyd be more crushed wondering why you dont like them anymore then if you tell you were gay from the very beginning. more often than not, thatll work to your advantage. there are lots of girls who love kissing and cuddling with gay men whom they already from they knew from the start were gay. get yourself a fag hag!
 
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